ohs mum on her own xmas day.

merlin68

Exactly i have done 19 years of boxing day, yet not one person can have her, it's so mean. i text his sister explaining that i now have severe copd with 46% lung function and wanted a rest and got cant she come to yours instead so thats what shes doing. Grr. i have pleurisy at the moment and i am not happy.

Filey

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Through a variety of circumstances it looks as if my mum will be on her own on the 25th - I'm not 100% happy about it but as she says what's different about the 25th compared to the 24th or the 26th? She also says she can watch what she likes, eat when she likes and wear what she likes as well.[/QUOTE]

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My own sentiments exactly. I shall be at my daughter's and partner's, together with my ex, and granddaughter. And I know that after an enjoyable lunch with peace, harmony and good will all round, I shall be quite pleased, come late afternoon, to go home and relax on my own sofa, in front of my own fire and my own telly with my own cats and dog. And a glass of wine probably. And even possibly a nap!

And truly I am not a miserable old biddy. Well old yes but definitely not miserable. When my 4 children were at home we used to do all the Christmas stuff, including my parents and an elderly friend, and anyone else if necessary. And I enjoyed it.

As your mother says, one date is just like another, and she will enjoy an alternative date just as much the 'real' date.

sooty&sweep

OP The answer is No unfortunately this year you can't !
It is not your responsibility to organise your MILs social life.
You are clearly a very caring person to have done so much for so long but the time has come that you can't help this year.

Both my parents will each be on their own for christmas day but that is their choice ! My dad isn't really into christmas & hates the fuss. My mum enjoys the time being able to do precisely what she wants to do !

Jen

merlin68

These were the same children who called my oh a scrounger for giving up work and taking care of me and took umbridge because we now have a motability car. Families who'd have them. they also forget that we have a daugter whos deaf with learning dissabilites.

emweaver

lika_86 wrote: »

How far away does your mum live? Could you get dropped off there the day before, stay the night and then get picked up by your OH?

She clearly wants to spend Xmas day with her partner. I don't blame her I wouldn't want to spend it apart from my husband. To me it's a bit weird and strange for a couple not to spend Xmas day together .

Peter333

Ooooh, families eh? And Christmas eh?!

What a toxic mix.

It is very hard isn't it, but I have to echo the sentiments of some that I would rather be on my own, than have people take pity on me and invite me because they feel sorry for me.

I have three adult children - two left home and one still here (when she isn't at uni,) and none of the two that have left come Christmas day. We see each other Christmas Eve and usually the 27th, but all spend our time in our own homes for the 25th and 26th. I find it most odd when I see all these programmes and commercials on the telly with people at the Christmas dinner table with 10-15 people: sons and daughters who have their own home, (and their partners,) nanas, grandads, nieces and nephews and siblings. I just don't get it.

That said, I do have my wife to spend the time with. But I think if our youngest leaves, and my wife were to go before me (God forbid,) I would not want to go anywhere on Christmas day, even though my kids say they would want me at theirs.

We don't know the exact circumstances of the OP's situation, but if I were the mother, as many have said, I would not like to think people were having me around out of duty. Has the OP said why her siblings don't want their mother around?