How Many Friends would you say you have?

SailorSam

SingleSue wrote: »

I used to have close friends, one died and the other ran off with my husband!

If you were a man Sue, there's a joke there. ........
........ My Wife ran off with my best mate. I don't half miss him.

SailorSam

suelizab wrote: »

I thought I would be the only one. Maybe we should have a forum for those without and see who is in our own areas .

Isn't there a Forum already.
It's called PlentyofFish.

dawyldthing

Newly_retired wrote: »

None.
I have lots of people I am in contact with either through choir or church or voluntary work but can't say they are friends, though they might become friends in time. I hope so.
I keep in touch with friends from the past, former colleagues, people I used to see often, even uni friends, but we rarely meet, so it is by email or facebook, or just a Christmas card. If we meet, we can just pick up where we left off.
I would like to have someone, other than family, who I could just meet for coffee, or speak to if I need help, but it is not so easy to progress from acquaintances to friends.

I second this. I think it's really difficult meeting friends these days. I have a friend who I used to work with and I'm good friends with and a friend I went to uni with (although we fell out yesterday, long story). If I had something up I could probably go to my friend, but sometimes I do think life is lonely and it's difficult to meet people. Like I see all my friends on Facebook going to Christmas parties and we have none of that. I get on with colleagues ok but wouldn't say they are friends and there aren't many of us either.

Life's funny sometimes as people come and go all the time

guccigoo

I would say 2close friends, I know quite a few people but I wouldn't say there friends who would be there for me if I needed them. I'm one of these people that like there own space and can be quite unsociable, I just don't find it easy to make friends.

Tropez

I've got enough.

It probably wouldn't take long but I'm not inclined to count them.

There are people I know I can rely on. There are a larger number of people that I enjoy the company of and there are a larger number of people than that who I am on "friendly terms" with.

And then there's my wife who is in the special category of being my best friend.

I've found people have different definitions of what constitutes a friendship.

And I've also found, as you get older, fewer friendships remain strong and consistent because of the different pathways through life that we all take.

scragend

barbarawright wrote: »

I'm interested in how many people define friends as people who would drop everything for them. Isn't it better to think of how many people *you* would drop everything for?

That would give a lop sided result in my case.

I have several "friends" for whom I would drop everything (not that they would ever ask), but I doubt they would do the same for me.

That's why to the question in the title, I would have to answer "none".

barbarawright

scragend wrote: »

That would give a lop sided result in my case.

I have several "friends" for whom I would drop everything (not that they would ever ask), but I doubt they would do the same for me.

That's why to the question in the title, I would have to answer "none".

You don't know that and you might be surprised. But surely we shouldn't judge people by what they can do for us but by how much we value them?

Why yes, I did watch It's a Wonderful Life yesterday :A

scragend

barbarawright wrote: »

You don't know that and you might be surprised. But surely we shouldn't judge people by what they can do for us but by how much we value them?

Why yes, I did watch It's a Wonderful Life yesterday :A

Fair point.

I didn't mean to judge my friends by what they can do for me, my point was more along the lines of I need them more than they need me.

barbarawright

I think we all feel like that at times

mandragora_2

I have a couple of people that I *let* be my friends. Anyone else just thinks that they are.