Want to kick my fiancee's sister out

Sanga

She's been living with us for the last 10 weeks after her business collapsed and she had to sell her house. For the last couple of weeks she has been incredibly flirty with me but i took no notice of it because she is like that with most men. On Saturday night we had had a few drinks and she tried it on with me. It was a full on move on me, though i was quick to put an end to it and let her know i have no interest in her. Last night again when my fiancee was at work she came into the living room in her underwear and offered it to me, saying she will keep it secret and how taking risks is fun. Again i put her in her place and told her i'm not interested but she doesn't take no for an answer it appears.

I have no clue how to tell my fiancee what she's doing. I keep thinking she will turn it and say i came on to her just to cause trouble. No matter what i think it will cause trouble and to be honest i really need to get her out of our house in case she tries again. I think she will again tonight when my fiancee is at work. That seems to be her time to strike.

pinkshoes

Er... Just tell your fiancee the truth, and tell her she needs to tell her sister she has 48 hours to move out. You should have told her after the first time, and the longer you leave it, the worse it will look.

Do not keep secrets from your fiancee.

If your fiancee doesn't believe you, then clearly she is not worth marrying if she doesn't trust you.

January20

Do you have a phone with a recording facility? I think if I was in your position, I would try and record her making the move. I'm saying "I think" because it's always easier to give advice than to experience the real life situation, but a recording of her bad behaviour could give you some bargaining power?

She sounds like a real bi@tch to do this to her own sister!

Of course, the paranoia prone side of my personality is now wondering whether this is a test by the two sisters on your ability to remain faithful....

Sanga

pinkshoes wrote: »

Er... Just tell your fiancee the truth, and tell her she needs to tell her sister she has 48 hours to move out. You should have told her after the first time, and the longer you leave it, the worse it will look.

Do not keep secrets from your fiancee.

If your fiancee doesn't believe you, then clearly she is not worth marrying if she doesn't trust you.

Its just a really awkward position she's put me in. I know my fiancee trusts me but its her sister and i have a niggling doubt that she would take her side if her sister lies as they are very close.

clark24

Tell her, and if possible get proof it is the sister doing this and not the other way round, or when your fiancee finds out you can bet this sister will say it was you all along and she spurned your advances, which chances are means you will be the one out of the house.

This sister obviously has no shame or morals and is a nasty piece of work, she needs out of your house but you need to make sure that when she tells your fiancee she is the innocent party, you can prove she isn't!

Sanga

January20 wrote: »

Do you have a phone with a recording facility? I think if I was in your position, I would try and record her making the move. I'm saying "I think" because it's always easier to give advice than to experience the real life situation, but a recording of her bad behaviour could give you some bargaining power?

She sounds like a real bi@tch to do this to her own sister!

Of course, the paranoia prone side of my personality is now wondering whether this is a test by the two sisters on your ability to remain faithful....

My fiancee wouldn't test me like that. Her sister is serious about having a fling. I think for my protection recording it is a good idea because i know she's going to try again.

Sanga

clark24 wrote: »

Tell her, and if possible get proof it is the sister doing this and not the other way round, or when your fiancee finds out you can bet this sister will say it was you all along and she spurned your advances, which chances are means you will be the one out of the house.

This sister obviously has no shame or morals and is a nasty piece of work, she needs out of your house but you need to make sure that when she tells your fiancee she is the innocent party, you can prove she isn't!

That is my worry that she would do that. I'm going to see if i can set the webcam up to record all evening so if she does come in again half naked i've got the security that she is trying it and then we can kick her !!! out.

pinkshoes

Sanga wrote: »

Its just a really awkward position she's put me in. I know my fiancee trusts me but its her sister and i have a niggling doubt that she would take her side if her sister lies as they are very close.

Awkward or not, keeping secrets from your fiancee could cost you your relationship.

I would also suggest recording any future conversations with your SIL as evidence, just in case your fiancee takes her side.

ripplyuk

I wouldn't bother recording anything. Just tell your fiancee. If she doesn't trust you, I'm sure you'd rather know now.

Perhaps the sister is jealous? Since her business has fallen through, maybe it annoys her seeing you and your fiancee happy together. Whatever it is, it's a horrible thing she's doing. I'm sure your fiancee will be upset but if you don't say anything, I'd worry this sister may eventually tell your fiancee that you came on to her.

marleyboy

The next time she says anything on the line of Risk is Fun. Let her know that out of Fun, you will mention it to your Mrs as soon as she gets home....Just for fun of course, I mean the only risk is her own family disowning her, but if its in fun theres no harm in telling your Mrs.

I personally would have told my Mrs the same day and during me frogmarching her Sister out the door.

clark24

I think you should record it purely for an insurance policy if things start to go the wrong way. They are sisters, you are only the fiance, and so it's best to have a trump card if you need it, you may not but it may save your relationship.