NOT BUYING IT! 2015 - A consumer holiday

purpleshoes_2

Deleted_User wrote: »

Yeah I agree, but eB*y would get you even less, otherwise where else do you sell books. It's quite hard to find a good marketplace these days especially when many people are moving to digital

Ebay can be a bit hit and miss, Ive put a couple of the books I was going to trade in on amazon on ebay just to see if anyone buys them, if not I'll do the amazon trade in, usually I just end up charity shopping my books. I might put a bundle of them on gumtree as well, Ive also freecycled a lot in the past.

Im not giving up my books because I have a kindle, I have a kindle app on my phone, but its more so because I just dont read them, I'll buy books and if I like a book I'll tend to go back to it more than once, but Ive got loads of books Ive never read, just taking up too much space. I donated 50 to the PDSA last year, have given others to charity and I still have too many.

I'll see if I can get enough books that didn't cost me very much to trade in, just not sure about trading in the ones that are new and worth a few quid, just to get 2 quid back, I'll probably just keep those (and read them).

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purpleshoes wrote: »

Ebay can be a bit hit and miss, Ive put a couple of the books I was going to trade in on amazon on ebay just to see if anyone buys them, if not I'll do the amazon trade in, usually I just end up charity shopping my books. I might put a bundle of them on gumtree as well, Ive also freecycled a lot in the past.

Im not giving up my books because I have a kindle, I have a kindle app on my phone, but its more so because I just dont read them, I'll buy books and if I like a book I'll tend to go back to it more than once, but Ive got loads of books Ive never read, just taking up too much space. I donated 50 to the PDSA last year, have given others to charity and I still have too many.

I'll see if I can get enough books that didn't cost me very much to trade in, just not sure about trading in the ones that are new and worth a few quid, just to get 2 quid back, I'll probably just keep those (and read them).

Yeah that's my thinking on reference about being bullied at work I know the feeling, my last job was in a very influential corporate computing company. Because I'm a lesbian they said I wasn't someone who'd they want to put in front of clients. Of course not in that form, more or less said I wasn't the client 'type' since then I just felt out of place, everyone else was in skirts and dresses, wore lots of make up, had there hair done by professionals every other week. These people were on 6 figures. Safe to say I left after just a year.

suki1964

Oh how stress and bullying in the work place can make lives hell

I left the NHS 15 years ago because of stress. And tbh,even though I've never managed a full time job since, I've never looked back. So what if I can't afford the latest whatever, my mental well being is worth more then anything

Cooking for a living is also stressful, but it's manageable stress. When the kitchen closes the stress goes with it. That's it. No taking it home. The only time I found it too stressful was when we were between head chefs and I was " in charge". Even though I'm perfectly capable, I question myself constantly and get myself worked up to the level where I don't sleep. Tbh I was never a high flyer. I never felt the need for a career, to move up the promotional ladder, I only did so because of outside expectations, mother usually. I'm so much happier now I am free to work within my own comfort zone. As i alluded to in a past post, the most recent head chef and myself didn't get along at all and he made my working life hell. So I walked out. No amount of money was worth putting up with his bullying. I was asked back and because I love what I do, I went back to cover the summer holidays, and as soon as they were over he started his bullying again. Got so that I promised myself that as soon as Christmas was by, I'd leave. However he got caught out mid onslaught to me and was told to go. Daft thing was it was me crying that night with the thought it was all my fault, when I know it wasn't. That one person sapped so much of my confidence and it was only the other night when on my own and the placed was swamped, that I finally realised that I got it back and I'm back in control and I know I'm good

Giving up a good income, a pension scheme and everything else is scary. But it's the best thing I ever done in my life. And maybe this year I will get sick of cooking for a living and go try something different. I love that now I have a choice because I've learnt to cut my cloth

seriouslyfrugal

purpleshoes wrote: »

To cut a very long story short, I'm self employed, have been for the last five years or so, don't earn tons of money, but I am well, although my mental health took such a pounding over the years I'm a bit battered but life is much better than it used to be. I've also seen people go through living hell in their jobs, I was a youth worker and drug worker and worked for charities, sadly in that line of work, teaching, nursing and the like a lot of staff suffer. I have a relative who has never been maltreated in his life at work and thats how it should be. The site bully online was a great help to me, even if you aren't being bullied its worth a read. Occupational health were also fantastic to me when things were at their worst and sometimes you can find local projects where you can self refer if you are suffering from work related stress. I also met one nightmare of a boss two years ago when I was working part time in a gym and ended up unwell again but got out and I'm staying self employed from now on. My doctors werent supportive but I've just got rubbish doctors, I know other people whose doctors are wonderful. When you can't sleep and its impacting on your life, even if you decide to try and fight what's going on, sadly getting out for some is the only way. I miss my old job at timed but I have no regrets, the quality of life I have now is like night and day.

this was me too purple shoes I was bullied at work and had bosses who forgot to put me through for progression training except I had a really good doctor and through C.b.t.I realised I was better off being self employed as my health is far more important to me than having a lot of money and my life is far improved just like yours

I even had a boss who employed me so he could class himself as an equal employer ( although I could never prove it but I definatly got that impression ) and others who saw my disability as a problem - I actually feel sorry for them as if anything I'm more likely to think outside the box to solve problems.


foul weather here today hatches are firmly shut :rotfl: - stay safe everyone I'm definitely thinking of everyone in Paris today

2nd no spend day this week :T

catch up soon

Primrose

Shouldn't be encouraging anybody to venture into supermarkets and many of you are probably consciously trying to keep away but for all you thrifty types who like to make your own marmalade, the first Seville oranges appeared in our local Waitrose today. As they have a very short season buy them while they're available. They will store short term in a freezer if well wrapped against frosting.

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re stress from whatever cause, yes take the stress away and the body/mind combination can start to heal. Been there, done that both me and dh over our lifetimes. Often stress cannot be removed but the mind can be given space and quiet time through meditation and/or chants like those of snatam kaur or plainchant

Today I am deciding what to do with tablecloths, napkins, placemats. I have more than enough and I can free half a drawer but they are good, so arghh, this is a difficult one and probably to be solved one item at a time and not to the cs this time, apart from some placemats. I shall have to see if I can turn them into something else

Rare lunch out today, trying a local restaurant, testing if truth be told. If we like what we get and if service and facilities are good, then they will get a booking for 60 for dh`s club dinner. Absolutely incognito and paying for ourselves, let`s see if they get a simple lunch spot on

5 skeins of home spun merino 2 ply yarn, soaked and thwacked (straightens the fibres) and now on hangers outside, harmony from world of wool. I am suffering withdrawal symptoms as have finished my 3rd large bobbin of finely spun cream wool, now having to leave it for a few days to set before 3 plying with a view to learning to dye this summer. The washed merino will be balled up tomorrow and I can happily start knitting again

Lakeland sale stuff arrived and included a fab designer (haha) large enamel dish. Really nice and less than half price. I think I will be getting rid of some cookware now, like grill pan and roaster as this enamel dish will fulfil lots of purposes. Grilling, baking, roasting etc dd`s will snap up my offerings and I will again free some space and its also a good reason to give them nice things

AnimalTribe

DawnW wrote: »

I confined mine to a crate at night / while not being supervised at this stage - with plenty of exercise and play times in between, obviously. But if you work all day I can see it would not be feasible to do this.

Thanks Dawn I used to put her in a crate, but I thought she was old enough to do without it. Clearly I was wrong. I feel a bit guilty though because even though it's a large crate she whines to be out with my other dogs.

I'm at home all day, so she's got me and the other dogs to play with, and usually they all get good walks, although I've got a cold this week, so they're having to make do with running about in the garden.

I'll get the crate out of the shed and see how she goes.

I can't believe this thread has moved so fast since I last looked yesterday morning. I've got a lot of catching up to do this afternoon.

Picklepot

Thank you all for your posts on workbased stress.


I am currently on the hamster wheel of a job and having worked myself into the ground now realise its got to stop. I realise I have nothing left and it feels like I am now old and out of style, They do not appear to want loyal hardworking individuals anymore . Its now affecting my home life and I appear to have given up all my hobbies and interests due to exhaustion of the job. For all the hard work no one actually thinks better of me and its never enough I have now crashed and burned and realised I have to put together an exit strategy and leave. Joining this good ship has been the first step and further advice on planning and surviving until I can put the notice in will be much appreciated.

AnimalTribe

maria3104 wrote: »

This is amazing,many many thanks. I have lots of books to sell and was dreading the ebugs thing, so I will use this. Thank you once again.

I've also used Amazon successfully. I found that they didn't take all the books but I re-tried the leftovers on Ziffit and Momox and they took some of them. They were both good and work along the same lines.

katkin

I am also in a similar situation with my local authority job. With an ongoing 2 years of structuring to "right-size" the work force more and more of us are becoming ill with stress and anxiety. My team are now waiting for our 30 day redundancy notice in the next month or so. It's not the job, I love my work - its the workplace and the new world harsh management that's getting to me. I'm a round peg in a square whole and the more they bash me to fit the sicker I get.

I want out and will be perusing voluntary redundancy.

If that doesn't work I'll resign. Currently saving for Scotland and living very frugally so I have 6 months money to fall back on. And hey, this frugal living is very good indeed! I definetely need less - so why the hell am I working in a terrible place to get money I can live without.

There more to life that this ugly rat wheel. Once you jump off the consumer wheel the other work wheel doesn't look too scary :cool:

I'd like to use my vast CV, skills and experience in different ways.

This will be the biggest risk I've taken in my life, but you know what it excites me - I'm scared, but have butterflies in my tummy too. A new era is about to begin in 2015.

This NOT BUYING IT 2015 - was step one. So I'm in gratitude to Slowdown and all you other Ship Mates for being here and supporting us all making this change in our lives.

Gosh, I'm coming over all sentimental again