Tinder - your thoughts/experiences?

alansmith7

tykesi wrote: »

Nothing like a sweeping generalisation to show your ignorance?

ignorance from me? its not like me to be ignorant :beer:

masterofnumbers

Another vote for POF, I used it 2 years ago and met an amazing guy and we are now getting married - worked for me!

Gavin83

VestanPance wrote: »

I'd imagine many people find intelligence and the discusions that can come from that are something they'd look for in a partner. Not that people without higher education can't be intelligent.

I always found intelligent women as something that attracted me. Nothing was a bigger turn off that someone who was an idiot, not matter how attractive or "fun" they are.

I have to be honest, I don't see any correlation between somebody's educational history and their intelligence. Sadly you can't just ask for intelligence as a search criteria as its a little subjective but I don't think education is a good measure either.

The only way to tell is to meet someone and talk to them.

Cloudydaze

Gavin83 wrote: »

I have to be honest, I don't see any correlation between somebody's educational history and their intelligence. Sadly you can't just ask for intelligence as a search criteria as its a little subjective but I don't think education is a good measure either.

The only way to tell is to meet someone and talk to them.

The thing about internet dating is that there is so much choice that you can afford to be choosy.

Gavin83

Cloudydaze wrote: »

The thing about internet dating is that there is so much choice that you can afford to be choosy.

Yep I fully agree. Dating is the one area of life you can be as prejudice as you wish. I was just making the point that I don't think there is any link between a persons education and their intelligence. Intelligence is hard to measure and very subjective however.

VestanPance

Gavin83 wrote: »

I have to be honest, I don't see any correlation between somebody's educational history and their intelligence. Sadly you can't just ask for intelligence as a search criteria as its a little subjective but I don't think education is a good measure either.

The only way to tell is to meet someone and talk to them.

I'd say educational history is a very good pointer towards someone's intelligence.

Gavin83

VestanPance wrote: »

I'd say educational history is a very good pointer towards someone's intelligence.

I know plenty of people who left school with barely any qualifications what so ever who are intelligent enough. Also, kind of ironcially the most educated people I know are also those that come across as the most stupid.

I'm not saying that only stupid people get a degree, I know plenty of people who have a degree and come across as extremely intelligent, it's just that in my experience they're not necessarily linked. I'd consider it more of a measure of motivation towards education. I wouldn't even consider it a measure of the ability to work hard. I know people who did the minimum they could, spent most of the time drunk and walked out with a 3rd class degree. However, they would still make the cut in this situation.

Also, I'd assume that the reason someone would wish for intelligence in a partner is for the discussions they perceive require intelligence, whatever these may be. There is no guarantee that someone with a high education level or even someone who is intelligent would have any interest in these subjects. Maybe 'hobbies and interests' would be a better criteria to filter potential partners by.

The other option is that someone wants a partner with a university education because of the perceived increased earning potential. Again, I don't think this necessarily has a correlation with education. This one is much easier to measure however, just ask someone on the dating website what their salary is.

Cloudydaze

Sometimes 'intelligent' people who haven't been to university have a bit of a chip on their shoulders about those who did and, to be honest, it's not an attractive quality.

tykesi

VestanPance wrote: »

I'd say educational history is a very good pointer towards someone's intelligence.

Oh, I don't know. My housemate has three degrees, two of which from a top university and she's thick as pigshit!

fivesquare

Gavin83 wrote: »

Also, I'd assume that the reason someone would wish for intelligence in a partner is for the discussions they perceive require intelligence, whatever these may be. There is no guarantee that someone with a high education level or even someone who is intelligent would have any interest in these subjects. Maybe 'hobbies and interests' would be a better criteria to filter potential partners by.

The other option is that someone wants a partner with a university education because of the perceived increased earning potential. Again, I don't think this necessarily has a correlation with education. This one is much easier to measure however, just ask someone on the dating website what their salary is.

It's not about earning potential or intelligence... it's about having a higher chance to find people I'm most likely to click with, intellectually. Of course, there could be a click with people who are not university-educated, but historically speaking, it has not happened for me. Perhaps I'm a snob but for me it is an easy first filter. For some people it's income or whether the person has a car or a house or kids or works in finance. For me it's education that matters to a higher degree. (having said that, it's not 'an absolutely must have' thing, I'm flexible - but it is a definite preference).