Tinder - your thoughts/experiences?

Divorced_Daddy_001

OP, I've just been "lurking" in the background for a couple of days, reading your thread with interest. That's brilliant news about your two dates this weekend, very exciting! I hope you have a great time! :T

marisco_2

Ah that is great news miss i. I hope you will have a lot of fun on your date.

Cloudydaze

I'm a recent convert to Tinder, having tried numerous sites over the years. I personally don't have any experience to back the claims that it's 'hook up' only site. I don't think it's any different to others sitse in terms of what people are looking for (ie. you get both ends of the spectrum). I've had several lovely dates with guys looking for long term reationships.

I think format of the site beats the others handsdown. I like the fact that only people you have 'liked' can message you (so you don't get messages from people you don't want). You only see each person once (unless you 'like' them). So you don't see the same old faces time and time again. I also think it's much better for the self-esteem than other sites. Nothing more depressing that clicking on a profile on say Match to see that the gorgeous guy you think is your ideal match is looking for someone 10 years younger and a foot taller!!

I think because of the reputation it has, people who are up for a bit fun are more open and honest about it. There are quite a few married men who state they are looking for a bit of discreet fun but it's easy to swipe left and they are gone for good.

You can always predict that any discussion about internet dating will lead to recommendations about joining clubs as if men looking for hook ups or married man looking for affairs only exist on dating sites and not in the real world. I've belonged to rowing, running and sailing clubs over years and have witnessed numerous affairs.

The other plus point for Tinder is that it links to Facebook so it will show if you have any friends or groups/interests in common. Despite being in London, i'm surprised how many friends of friends are on there.

supermum38

I have just started using this app. I have had one conversation but it's a start! Would love to know how OP and everyone else are getting on?

fivesquare

Tinder is not only for hookups, there are plenty of people looking for relationships. I'm one of them.

I like the fact that people can only contact you if you swiped right (you like them) and they also swiped right (they like you). Most people are using real names and photos imported from their facebook profile photos (you can select which ones). Mutual Facebook friends are displayed, that can be helpful too. And common interests are also displayed.

I don't like the fact that you can't filter based on height and education. The only filters are on age, gender, and location.

DKLS

I haven't tried Tinder as I am happily married but I have two graduates on my team who use Tinder, one a female has found her soul mate on Tinder, the Male uses Tinder as a hook up site, I was quite shocked when he showed me Tinder, he liked a girl and within 3 minutes she had sent a picture of her foof.
He said it cuts the dating crap out, he is a very busy Grad in a corporate and isn't interested in dating so its perfect for him.

Gavin83

fivesquare wrote: »

I don't like the fact that you can't filter based on height and education. The only filters are on age, gender, and location.

I'm curious. I can understand height but what is it about (presumably) a university education you find attractive?

VestanPance

Gavin83 wrote: »

I'm curious. I can understand height but what is it about (presumably) a university education you find attractive?

I'd imagine many people find intelligence and the discusions that can come from that are something they'd look for in a partner. Not that people without higher education can't be intelligent.

I always found intelligent women as something that attracted me. Nothing was a bigger turn off that someone who was an idiot, not matter how attractive or "fun" they are.

alansmith7

i have never used tinder but POF is better, have been only couple of dates, you have better chance of finding someone on POF than tinder

tykesi

alansmith7 wrote: »

i have never used tinder but POF is better, have been only couple of dates, you have better chance of finding some on POF than tinder

Nothing like a sweeping generalisation to show your ignorance?