Tinder - your thoughts/experiences?

System

Tinder (and its gay counterpart Grindr) are in my experience both mainly used for casual hookups, someone i know is a prolific user of tinder and he only uses it for one thing.

I briefly downloaded it but deleted it.

I've tried PoF and OkCupid, POF ws where i met my most recent ex (we were together 2 1/2 years so it was long term ish). Current bf was met on another dating site (AltScene..lol its kind of people who are "alternative, think emo/punk/goth etc)

purpleshoes_2

blahblahblah85 wrote: »

Match.com is paid for site so it will filter out those just looking for casual flings. However I have a friend that's now married, after meeting on Tinder!

Not the case, you'll still get folk looking for casual flings on match. If thats what someone wants and they have the money to join, they'll join.

Chlorine7

Tinder is essentially a hookup app. People are generally on there for casual sex or a bit of fun. Every man I know who has used it, is just there for one night, something casual or a distraction from a breakup. There is nothing wrong with this but if you're not looking for the same thing, you may be a bit disappointed.

In fact one guy I know takes his toothbrush with him when he goes on a Tinder date. His mantra being 'any hole's a goal'

NiallB

fairy_lights wrote: »

You say you're a church goer - I've got a feeling there is a specialist dating website for Christians, can't remember what it's called but I'm sure I've heard of one.

Plenty of Loaves & Fish? :-D

Ozzuk

I've done a lot of online dating, but never Tinder (wasn't interested in the hook up side, mostly). POF is free and easy, much like a lot of the people on it . Lots of lazy people, but you can find the odd gem.

Match I found a lot better, people seemed more interested in the relationship side. However, I'd also recommend another approach - check for a local MeetUp group, they often do lots of fun activities and lots of single people. It will expand your interests, get you out doing new things and meeting new people and you'll have opportunity to make guy friends that could lead into meeting someone special. The one I joined does say it's not a dating group, but you mix any group of adults, alcohol or other activities and people will do what is only natural. I found it much more relaxed way of meeting people.

Good luck!

Gra76

A work colleague of mine is on Tinder and yes, he uses it as a means to 'casual dating'. His social life is utterly bonkers, he's out every weekend with a new girl (we hear all about it most Monday mornings)

Says he just hasn't found one he likes enough to see again but he reckons as long as you're confident enough to message someone you match with then there's no end of offers to go out with someone.

I just asked him the type of people he goes out with, and he says most are looking for a relationship, and most of the girls he goes out with say that the men are just looking for hook ups.

Sounds a bit one-sided to me but it seems to work.

Soundgirlrocks

Ok so Ive been using Tinder since May, and just to set the record straight it's not just a hook up site or the straight version of Grindr (thats Blendr FYI!) Yes there are guys on there looking to "play" but they can normally be spotted fairly early in conversations, if they got past the photo stage. Its a numbers game, but don't get too obsessed with photos, if they look like a nice person and there is something that interests you about their photo swipe right.

Ive been on more dates from Tinder than any other app or site, (dates not hook ups!) and am currently dating a really lovely guy I met on there. It's more spontaneous, and actually pretty natural (any one who doesn't when single walk into a bar, scan the room and see if anyone pricks their interest is probably lying!) It's free (and this is a MSE:rotfl:) As a fun way to date I think its great. It's more light hearted than some dating sites which make you ask/answer 200million questions, match you on shared beliefs and ideals, only to find when you eventually meet there is no spark.:( waste of everyones time.

Go for it!

lulalola

Another vote for Tinder...there are people on there looking to date, I've had some lovely dates from there (and I've never slept with anyone I met on Tinder!). It's easy to join, very little effort to set up and to look through profiles, so why not give it a go? It's ease means that lots of other people will also think "oh why not" too. I also found OkCupid and POF better than the paid-for sites; again, if it's free then people are more likely to join, so you'll find a wider selection of profiles there.

I decided to take a break from dating - stopped looking at the sites, began to enjoy being single - and then I met someone the old-fashioned way, in a club! :beer:

bathgatebuyer

Tried a number of the dating websites over the years and only recently looked up Tindr to see what it was all about. Find it very difficult to strike up a conversation based on a photo and little else, so of the 2 matches I got, I found it really stilted and difficult to strike up a rapport.

A male friend on facebook was saying that, "Tindr is perfect for no strings sex" which really isn't what I'm looking for at all! So, after a few days of looking, that was Tindr for me!

miss_independent

Well...I've had a bit of a surprise. Turns out I have not one but two dates lined up this weekend! I agreed to meet up with a male friend of my best friend to go to a Winter Wonderland type thing today. She's been going on about us meeting for ages so I finally said yes. THEN tonight some new men turned up to my dance class and one of them (a soldier) asked if I'd go dancing with him at the weekend. I think he is way too young for me but he was very gentlemanly and sweet and he explained we would be in a group so no harm eh?

And no Tinder necessary! Can't believe after months of lamenting my singledom and not knowing what to do about it, I've got two dates. Weird.