Always skint and have a 3 month old child. I need money advice

notanewuser

lidlest wrote: »

see i agree to an extent - but lets make sure we have it in perspective, that's 32 hours + college. Now, a comment saying that you can work more hours than that and get used to it, you just need to change your mindset would have been helpful. The posts ridiculing his idea of hard work, and scoffing at him, and bringing up hardships were not necessary IMO

let's remember that although this is online, we are responding to people, and frankly his maturity at ignoring the comments should be commended. At 19 i'd probably have gone ' sod you all, i hate the world' and stormed off somewhere

Let's just hope he can channel that "maturity" into providing for the child he helped create.

lidlest

notanewuser wrote: »

Let's just hope he can channel that "maturity" into providing for the child he helped create.

Helpful post there

gettingready

I wonder if people read before replying?

OP is only 19 and askling for advise.

He can not get out of his phone contract so let this go.

He can not do his laundry at his mum's as she lives 30 miles away so not practical and getting there would cost probably more than what he currently spends (he says £11) on laundry.

He can not move in with his mum as would be too far from work/college.

32 hours plus college - do not forget time for homework to college so really not that much "spare time".

Living on next to nothing is depressing enough without a whole brigade of whiter then white having a go at him and not paying attention to what he says on here.

Repeating the same "advise" over and over when some things simply can nto be done - clear from the thread and OP's replies.

He is trying to better himself and I can see he WILL - he has not left the thread despite some people being so damn nasty to him.

He is young, he is living by himself for the first time - he is TRYING.

So either come up with some useful advice, something practical and possible or just stay away from this thread.

OP - where in UK are you? Perhaps someone local to you could work out something to help?

All the best

fivetide

As an aside a friends mum freezes everything. This includes biscuits. You are torn between dunking to defrost your biscuit and making your tea cold. It is that bad.


Randomly though she puts everything in bags with names one so you know the contents. Sounds almost sane, yet she does it with things that are already in bags... and meant to be frozen.


Hence there are clear bags, obviously containing peas decanted from their original Birds Eye packaging, with 'PEAS' written on the outside.


Everyone is too polite to ask about it.


They have four freezers and one fridge.

sulphate

gettingready wrote: »

He can not do his laundry at his mum's as she lives 30 miles away so not practical and getting there would cost probably more than what he currently spends (he says £11) on laundry.

He can not move in with his mum as would be too far from work/college.

I don't see the harm in suggesting these things.... OP has stated he is already going to his mum's every weekend anyway so what's the harm in taking some laundry?

He lives 7 miles from work and 30 miles from his mum. I still don't see how a difference of 30 miles makes it impossible for him to live at home, plenty of people do longer commutes.

gettingready

Cost perhaps? Daily commuting wuld be too expensive on his wages. Simples.
And you have no idea why he does not live at home (may be 075987 reasons) so leave it for him to decide if ging back home would be an option.

RAS

In this area it would depend very much on public transport boundaries.

A student/young person would pay very much the same as the OP for a 16 mile commute from here eastwards on a season ticket and could travel further within the boundary at no extra cost.

Going the same distance westwards costs twice even on a annual season ticket.

Counting_Pennies_2

Flinchy-Stryder wrote: »

£200 a month rent - the owner of the annex i rent has been so kind to me and cut the rent from £65 a week to £50 a week to help me.

£80 a month on food - i do one big shop and plan it all out so i have a dinner 5 times a week. I blag the other 2 days a week at my mums house for free lol.


Have you tried going to Aldi?

£30 a month on my phone bill.


Have a look at GiffGaff. It is on the O2 network. It is good.

£11 a month on laundry costs. I try to limit this as much as possible and that is the cheapest i can do it without having to wear stinky clothes.
Have you asked the owner of the Annexe if you could use their machine? Or asked your mum if you can pay her £1 to use her machine?

It will be hard to start but worth it when you are working.


If you shave off the money on the things you can you will find enough money

Just_Plain_Jane

OP, do you use a launderette? If so, could you cut down your visits by doing a bit of handwashing at home?

Perhaps just do underwear and t-shirts, then you might be able to get away with doing less machine loads and spend less on the dryer.

gettingready

Here we go again....

OP is on CONTRACT tied up for another 2 years, can not move.

Mother lives 30 miles away...

Pls READ before replying....