Bridal showers

Gloomendoom

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

The one that really bugs me for some reason is 'date night'! To me, dating is something you do before you get in a serious long term relationship/marriage, so to say that you're going on a date with your husband sounds strange to me. To me, it's a night out, not a date.

I much prefer a curry night. I find dates far too sweet.

heartbreak_star

My friend had both a hen party and a bridal shower, but she specifically said on the invites that no gifts were expected and she saw it as a raucous night out with her all her friends, family and colleagues (hen night) and a little cosy day and evening in with very close friends and family - basically she wanted to celebrate with everyone in different ways, and the bridal shower calmed her down as it was right before the wedding.

When I queried quietly why it was a "shower" if there were no gifts, her MILTB said we were showering her with love, which I thought was very sweet

I think "present opening" is a weird activity too though. It does seem grasping.

HBS x

Gloomendoom

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I think "present opening" is a weird activity too though. It does seem grasping.

I don't know. It is in the singular, so she might not be expecting too much.

peachyprice

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Don't presents get given before the wedding though?

Given just before maybe, or at the wedding, or just after. But surely not opened until after the wedding? By the bride and groom together in their own home.

lazer

peachyprice wrote: »

Given just before maybe, or at the wedding, or just after. But surely not opened until after the wedding? By the bride and groom together in their own home.

The custom in my family and friends is they are given in the 2 weeks before the wedding, people visit and deliver their present to either the bride or grooms parents house, and as long as the bride or groom are their, the present will be opened there and then.
They are then displayed for other people to see when they visit with their present.
(Can be entertaining if you get 2 of the same thing - quick, hide such and such before we show the presents!)

Caroline_a

Slightly off-topic, but when I married husband #2, my 2 small children had to come to the evening do as well as the rest of the celebrations as there was nobody to babysit. This was fine, until the youngest one who was about 4 started getting tired. In an attempt to divert her, I said 'go and collect all the cards for me and then we can see who they are from..'

Very very daft idea. She came back about 15 minutes later with not only cards, but also present labels that she had carefully removed.

The thank you notes all had to say "thank you so much for your kind present.... I am sure it will be most useful... *waffle waffle*...'

Never did have a clue who gave me what!

Jagraf

It's for people who are not in love enough to just get married. So you spend a lot of money on presents, and because the marriage is based on material stuff, most end up getting divorced.

Then, as in my case ten years down the line, you move house, post divorce, and smash all your posh plates into the skip.

It's all a complete waste of money. And very greedy. And sickening!

Jagraf

puppypants wrote: »

And then, there's Graduation with cap and gown, the lot from Kindergarten!!! !!!!!!!! x

No way!!!!

Jagraf

A baby shower is just tempting fate.

Gavin83

Caroline_a wrote: »

Awful American import. I would take something cheap and cheerful - just how many presents does a couple going to get married need?? Engagement, showers, wedding gifts, and then there's the baby showers....

People aren't made of money!

Is that a thing? I've never heard of engagement presents. I hope not as I've never given an engagement present!