Looking after my fiance's niece and the incurred utility costs

PenguinJim

TBeckett100 wrote: »

:eek::eek:do people really count the cost of their gas and electric usage?:eek::eek:

Can you please help me? I'm trying to find out the name of this website we're on. Do you know what it is?

sniggings

ashleyriot wrote: »

I had thankfully clocked the gas meter the day before (Monday evening just for the monthly meter read) and this morning before I left, we have used 2.5 units of gas, the equivalent of about £7.50 of gas, which is about 1/6th of our monthly budget.

isn't a unit of gas only about 5p?

Gloomendoom

This thread amuses me.

I, and my sisters, grew up in a house with no heating apart from a fire in the sitting room and a paraffin heater in the bathroom on bath night. I suspect millions of others too survived similar conditions without detriment to their health.

Marisco

Gloomendoom wrote: »

This thread amuses me.

I, and my sisters, grew up in a house with no heating apart from a fire in the sitting room and a paraffin heater in the bathroom on bath night. I suspect millions of others too survived similar conditions without detriment to their health.

I think everyone of a certain age did. However, I'm sure most under 25 haven't, it's just like everything else, you get used to it. Try telling people now, that mobile phones are not necessary!! :eek::D I hate being cold, but even I think 26 is too high, about 20 is a nice comfortable temp, with out dressing up (in the house) like your going for a trip to the Arctic!!

Person_one

Gloomendoom wrote: »

This thread amuses me.

I, and my sisters, grew up in a house with no heating apart from a fire in the sitting room and a paraffin heater in the bathroom on bath night. I suspect millions of others too survived similar conditions without detriment to their health.

Loads of older people who grew up without central heating have thoroughly embraced the concept though. My grandparents practically live in a sauna, the artificial heat hits you like a wave when you open the front door!

Times change, all the 'in my day' reminiscences are a bit pointless, aren't they? My dad didn't have an indoor toilet till he was in his teens, he wouldn't fancy going without one now.

The heating is a red herring anyway, the issue is the OP being tight fisted and controlling, and not having the sense to just have a proper chat with his partner and find a compromise where they're both happy.

I lived with a heating skinflint once, never again! Oh the joy of feeling warm enough in winter without someone harping on about it and slyly turning it down every 5 minutes with no regard for your comfort.:p

lazer

Person_one wrote: »

Loads of older people who grew up without central heating have thoroughly embraced the concept though. My grandparents practically live in a sauna, the artificial heat hits you like a wave when you open the front door!

Times change, all the 'in my day' reminiscences are a bit pointless, aren't they? My dad didn't have an indoor toilet till he was in his teens, he wouldn't fancy going without one now.

The heating is a red herring anyway, the issue is the OP being tight fisted and controlling, and not having the sense to just have a proper chat with his partner and find a compromise where they're both happy.

I lived with a heating skinflint once, never again! Oh the joy of feeling warm enough in winter without someone harping on about it and slyly turning it down every 5 minutes with no regard for your comfort.:p

The issue is the OP has to be, as the Fiancee doesn't have a job - he is counting every penny, they only have £30 a month spare.


Is fiancee claiming JSA?

Lily-Rose_3

Wow @ this thread. The OP comes on here asking for some advice and assistance, and look what happens! Yes, it may be a bit over the top to worry about a toddler coming around for the day once a week and having to turn up the heating; but it's obviously bothering the OP. So all anyone needs to say is 'just put up with it for that day,' 'meet halfway and have the temp at about 20' (plenty hot enough) or say 'I can't have the child any longer.' The personal snipes are completely unwarranted and uneccessary.

But as is typical on this forum, the personal insults have come in thick and fast, with people saying if I were your fiance, I would cancel the wedding! And I counted at least another half a dozen posters saying the same thing throughout the thread, with comments like they would run for hills if they were the fiance. What the hell?! Is there any need for THAT?!

Pretty typical of this forum and pretty typical of the marriage and relationships board. People could have given constructive advice without resorting to personal insults, but NOOOO, let's really stick the knife in and say the fiance should call off the wedding for being worried about the heating bill. Trivial to some, yes it is, but the personal attacks on here are completely unnecessary and incredibly unkind.

And how hilarious, and TYPICAL that one of the most catty and spiteful posts has received SIXTEEN 'thanks.' The more catty and spiteful the comments, the more thanks the poster gets: I have noticed that on this board. All patting each other on the back, and congratulating each other for personally attacking other members. And it's almost always the same people too, along with half a dozen or so posters who never hardly seem to post, but just come on to 'thank' people.

But that is what I've come to expect of this site now. Hell will freeze over before I would post a new thread on here now about anything personal, or asking for advice. No wonder people make up new AEs to post about an issue they have: they're too afraid of being mocked and ridiculed.

Well done. Congratulations. :T You must all be so proud of yourselves. The OP just came for some advice, and you have mocked them into oblivion.

But I am sure someone will come along and say 'if people don't want honest answers...' and 'people shouldn't throw their toys out of the pram just because people don't sugar coat the replies,' and 'people need to get over themselves' and other obtuse comments from posters who are vitriolic and mean, and think it's just 'being honest.'

Shame on you.

Oh and say what you like about me; I literally could not care less! This is my one and only post on this thread, so bash away. I won't be responding!

Oh and re the post that asks mockingly if people monitor their usage of gas and electric. YES, many sensible and responsible people who are careful with their money DO. This is just one of the many things that you do when you're a grown up!

Kaye1

My LO wears a warm cardi during the day and we have a little oil filled heater to heat our main room during the day. Then the heating goes on in the evening when we are all home and the other rooms are used more frequently.


I don't think you need it blazing hot for children but perhaps a part time job for your other half might mean things are not so tight?
Alternatively, she/he trains as a childminder and charges other parents for their services?

CH27

Person_one wrote: »

Loads of older people who grew up without central heating have thoroughly embraced the concept though. My grandparents practically live in a sauna, the artificial heat hits you like a wave when you open the front door!

Times change, all the 'in my day' reminiscences are a bit pointless, aren't they? My dad didn't have an indoor toilet till he was in his teens, he wouldn't fancy going without one now.

The heating is a red herring anyway, the issue is the OP being tight fisted and controlling, and not having the sense to just have a proper chat with his partner and find a compromise where they're both happy.

I lived with a heating skinflint once, never again! Oh the joy of feeling warm enough in winter without someone harping on about it and slyly turning it down every 5 minutes with no regard for your comfort.:p

The OP is worried about money now his girlfriend has stopped work & I don't blame him.
£30 per month spare is precious little.

tyllwyd

I agree that 26 degrees is way too hot - I couldn't cope if the room really was as hot as that, and it's way over what's usually recommended even for elderly people. (In fact, wouldn't it be in danger of overheating the child?) But it would also be worth checking the fuel price, because as someone else said, the OP is probably over-estimating what's been spent, as a unit of gas should be more like 5p. And some of that money would have been spent anyway with someone home, so it isn't all extra money.
http://www.confusedaboutenergy.co.uk/index.php/domestic-fuels/fuel-prices#.VGSOV8tyZ9A