Looking after my fiance's niece and the incurred utility costs

lostinrates

Although I personally agree its too hot some people from other backgrounds now settled in uk keep their homes very hot.


I also think OP is getting some pretty unfair flack for tightness. This is Mse, and s/he has talked about current temperatures at home being a compromise.

People have said he/she is tight, but bearing in mind home temperatures are fairly warm, and the partner is declining the option to work budgets are heavy responsibility.

maman

When I first saw the title I assumed it was a woman who'd taken in her fianc!'s niece (perhaps a teenager) who was costing them an absolute fortune and treating the place like a hotel.


Turns out it's a toddler for 24 hours!


As it happens I agree that 21 is quite warm enough but what a fuss to make about just one day!


So, OP find out why the heating was on so high and then make the suggestions about jumpers, socks etc. Definitely don't involve the child's mother, it's up to you two to sort out what goes on in your own home.


I'm guessing that this might be the first cool weather we've had since your fianc!e gave up her job so maybe she wanted it on rather than the child. If that's the case then your bills are set to climb. Anyone you know could take her off your hands for the day?;):rotfl:

GobbledyGook

The biggest thing that jumped out from the post is option 3 - asking for money when it's going to be a falling out between you and your fiance/e.

That sounds like you intend to ask even if your OH doesn't agree.

Surely any decision to ask your OH's sister for money should only be done AFTER your OH agrees?

Georgiegirl256

Is this a wind up? I mean seriously, come on, you're having a laugh surely!

If not, then stop creating problems where there are none. The heating does not need to be turned up that high. You're looking after her for 24 hours once a week. Either suck up the extra cost or don't look after her, simples.

TBeckett100

:eek::eek:do people really count the cost of their gas and electric usage?:eek::eek:

Perhaps you could have a word with my wife. The heating here has two settings - 0 and 30 :rotfl:

You could get the Hive system from BG and turn it down whilst you are out :T

Seriously, if you are counting gas units, probably best you defer the wedding. I can imagine your wedding cake will have about 100 candles on it just to keep you warm :rotfl:

Rosemary7391

When I stayed in a place with underfloor heating, it tended to make my feet uncomfortably hot at 26! That definitely seems too hot. Also, I can understand the OP worrying about cost - they have £30 spare a month, and with the heating and petrol costing them an extra £10 a week, they're going to be at least £10 over budget every month. That isn't a good road to go down! If you're watching what you spend of course you keep an eye on the utility bills - that's a major cost within your control, why wouldn't you keep an eye on it??

TBeckett100

You could set light to the gas bills for extra warmth?

meer53

God help the OP's fiancee when they have their own baby.

Elsewhere

When I was a child we had a coal fire in the living room which was lit after lunch in the winter and one of these which was moved to whichever other room we were using as necessary (dining room, kitchen bathroom etc.) We had no central heating - it wasn't common (1950-60s)




We all dressed warmly in the winter. I can't recall anyone I knew then suffering because they didn't have central heating. It makes me wonder how much less carbon dioxide would be pumped into the atmosphere if everyone would just wear an extra layer in their home in winter, or better still just heated the room they happened to be in..

PenguinJim

ashleyriot wrote: »

I need advice because there is going to be a heated discussion soon...

I read this thread yesterday but completely missed this.

Bad ashleyriot! Bad!