Feeling Bad For Being Ungrateful But Still What A Waste

candygirl

What a horrible. And expensive bag!:eek:you are deffo not being ungrateful, maybe have a nice chat with him re gift buying x:D

laurabllue

74jax wrote: »

Ooo no I'd have the bag :T

So glad I'm not the only one Jax!

geerex

OP - you should ask for a dictionary instead so that you can look up the difference between "brought" and "bought".

krlyr

geerex wrote: »

OP - you should ask for a dictionary instead so that you can look up the difference between "brought" and "bought".

Thankfully she's a member of MSE, where members can save her pennies by politely pointing out her errors :T

System

I know its all been settled now but I had a friend whos 40th birthday was coming up. Her husband decided he wanted to buy her a gold chain for her birthday. He went shopping by himself, chose it by himself but when he gave it her she did nothing but moan about it. Wishing he'd bought her something else she wanted instead.

He never bought her a single present after that. Personally I thought she was just ungrateful. Her reasoning was that they hadn't got much money at least he could have bought her something that she wanted.

They are now divorced.

Be warned.

krlyr

Judi wrote: »

I know its all been settled now but I had a friend whos 40th birthday was coming up. Her husband decided he wanted to buy her a gold chain for her birthday. He went shopping by himself, chose it by himself but when he gave it her she did nothing but moan about it. Wishing he'd bought her something else she wanted instead.

He never bought her a single present after that. Personally I thought she was just ungrateful. Her reasoning was that they hadn't got much money at least he could have bought her something that she wanted.

They are now divorced.

Be warned.

I imagine there was more to their relationship problems than one unwanted gift, to be honest! I'd never wear gold jewellery (bar white gold) and would probably get my OH to return a gold chain. Not because I was ungrateful, but because I wouldn't want his gift to go to waste, I'd see that as far more rude.

geerex

krlyr wrote: »

Thankfully she's a member of MSE, where members can save her pennies by politely pointing out her errors :T

My comment was 100% MSE - polite, and moneysaving (dictionary - £5, horrific bag - £299). I've saved the OP from future ridicule, and £294!

The thanks button is thataway ↓↓↓ :rotfl:

McKneff

I'm curious, when he asked you if one big present, why did you say it would be okay when it clearly wasn't

Faith177

McKneff wrote: »

I'm curious, when he asked you if one big present, why did you say it would be okay when it clearly wasn't

Because I thought he was lookin to replacing either my IPad or Laptop as he had only said the week or two before he couldn't decide which to replace for Christmas

Or as my phone is on it's way out and he keeps saying I need a new one that he was getting me a new smartphone

I know I know to assume makes an !!! and all that

Brighton_belle

Judi wrote: »

He went shopping by himself, chose it by himself but when he gave it her she did nothing but moan about it. Wishing he'd bought her something else she wanted instead.

I think there is a huge difference between going on and on and 'doing nothing but moaning about it', and clearly, pleasantly explaining you really appreciate the kindness and thought but this gift is totally 'not you' for whatever reason.
Good honest communication, if done respectfully is always a plus for a relationship IMO.