Feeling Bad For Being Ungrateful But Still What A Waste

Faith177

lostinrates wrote: »

In the future is there any chance of setting a price limit for gifts?

Or a ' buy my something for a tenner and let's shop together' kind of present?

Think we're going to have to

I buy expensivish gifts but I save up for them and won't put anything or credit any more (I've really learnt my lesson from the past) but I know he'll have either a) delayed paying his cards to buy this as it's payday tomorrow but I know his payment was due today or b) put it on a different card

Faith177

Claire_A87 wrote: »

Not relevant to the advice...but do you have a link? I think we'd all like to see!

For the record, I don't think you're coming off as massively ungrateful. He's spent a lot of money on something you don't need or want as a grand gesture, which is a lovely thought but could have gone towards better things. As Bennifred said, maybe keep laying it thick on the 'lovely thought' thing.

This is the smaller one of the two http://www.tedbaker.com/uk/Womens/Accessories/Bags/FAYLA-Mini-exotic-base-trapeze-bag-Bright-Blue/p/113269-16-BRIGHT-BLUE

Thank you you've made me feel a little better

nilequeen

You could very sweetly ask him to return it and put the money towards a nice winter holiday to Egypt for you both to enjoy together, making it a more meaningful gift.
I know I would.

Faith177

nilequeen wrote: »

You could very sweetly ask him to return it and put the money towards a nice winter holiday to Egypt for you both to enjoy together, making it a more meaningful gift.
I know I would.

I would if he had a passport :rotfl:

The other annoying thing is if he opened his eyes he would see there are bags everywhere in the house at least 3 behind the door about 9 under the stairs and don't even get me started on the wardrobe in our room lol

lostinrates

Faith177 wrote: »

I would if he had a passport :rotfl:

The other annoying thing is if he opened his eyes he would see there are bags everywhere in the house at least 3 behind the door about 9 under the stairs and don't even get me started on the wardrobe in our room lol

Hang on. Cut him some slack.


Look at it the other way. You liked last years gift' you have bags every where so he thinks 'she likes bags, I'm gonna bust a gut and get the best bag I can' . So, its not what you want, but I can see how he might arrive at the conclusion.




Its just an unfortunate communication thing. And an opportunity. An opportunity to take stock and realise you need to improve knowledge of each other, communication.


Personally I would remove your mother from the loop. She didn't help today and its not fair to put her in the middle IMO.

It might be worth suggesting in the future if he wants to buy big ticket fashion items he gives you an IOU and you go in the sale together ( if you both can stand it) but I do think you need to be a little more generous with your good will toward him.



Happy anniversary!

busiscoming2

Oh dear. It really does smack of last minute panic buying doesn't it, which to me makes me wonder whether you should stop buying gifts on this particular anniversary. Perhaps he just finds it difficult trying to find things to surprise you.

I don't really know why you couldn't get a refund or at least a credit note to spend on something you could both enjoy.

Takeaway_Addict

You are being ungrateful...sell some of those other bags.

Georgiegirl256

I don't think you're being ungrateful. I too wouldn't be happy at my DH spending that much money when you could get something equally as nice for a lot less.

My DH used to be the same. He would panic buy, and think that splashing the cash was the way to go, when all I really wanted was a token gift and not a grand gesture. Expensive items don't impress me that much, but well thought out gifts (even something that only cost a tenner or less) do.

Like LIR says, he's probably looked around, saw all the bags and thought 'great, can't go wrong with a bag!', so bless him, he has tried. I love my handbags, and have too many (way too many!) really, and on the 3-4 times my DH has bought me one, they haven't really been to my taste. I've used them obviously so as not to offend, but I'm very fussy when it comes to my bags.

Good luck when you do see it. My face would probably give away that I didn't like it very much. Not only that, I'd be thinking what a terrible waste of money it was too.

It's not really my cup of tea either. What colour did he get you?

74jax

Is the price the issue, if the bag was 100.00 would that be ok? Our would you have preferred a weekend away for the £300.00.

sleepymans

OOOOhhhh euwch....poor you...that's one F.ugly bag!


Sorry but it just HAS to go back for a refund....


He seriously needs to be TOLD the facts of relationship life!!


Guilt-buys are a complete turn-off.