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Three choices in life; Give up, Give in or Give all you've got!!

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  • Bubblesmum
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    cazzyd wrote: »
    Ah Lucky we can be swans together! My days are ok, mostly go without a hitch...but I am really struggling mentally at the moment, again some days are better than others. Not to dwell too much on it, because this is your diary, but I have really really bad low self esteem, to the point where I am worried it will ruin my relationship :( bless my bf he puts up with so much, and he gives me no reason to ever believe that would be the case!!

    Is gym helping? One of my friends says that helps a lot!! If so keep it up :)

    Hope tomorrow is a good'en xx

    I am another swan so can identify with you both so much, nobody really knows that I am panicking inside and feel really low as I continue to function.

    With regards counselling offered through your GP, the IAPT service ( Improving Access to Psychological Therapies) firstly offers everyone CBT and depending on the demand (high demand - group work, telephone and lastly 1:1) so great you are getting telephone 1:1 rather than a group.

    CBT onus is one you to work with the therapist to change your behaviour and use both strategies and changing thought processes. It doesn't suit everyone yippee if it works but don't be afraid to say, what other choice do I have ..... Remember to tell your counsellor everything that is causing you distress however small, as the more bigger picture, entails that you build a case to be referred to the type of counsellor who helps you understand and make sense of the traumas that are causing your distress. does that make sense?

    Really happy to have a PM conversation if that helps, speaking with my MH occupational Therapy hat on

    Sending hugs
    As a dear MSE friend says “keep plodding” or
    What does the saying say.... When life hands you lemons, make lemonade
    Or as my Mum would say, brush yourself down, tomorrow is another day or
    Fake it, to you Make It

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  • cazzyd wrote: »
    Ah Lucky we can be swans together! My days are ok, mostly go without a hitch...but I am really struggling mentally at the moment, again some days are better than others. Not to dwell too much on it, because this is your diary, but I have really really bad low self esteem, to the point where I am worried it will ruin my relationship :( bless my bf he puts up with so much, and he gives me no reason to ever believe that would be the case!!

    Is gym helping? One of my friends says that helps a lot!! If so keep it up :)

    Hope tomorrow is a good'en xx

    Aw Cazzy, sorry to hear you are struggling with self esteem. You always come across really well on here. Don't worry about it being my diary, if you want to talk on here you are more than welcome.

    The gym does help lift mood, even if it's just a smile on the way out coz it's over with :rotfl:.
    <3 you are just the absolute BEST of BESTINGDOM. I love you lots. xx

    Love you lots too!! Xx
    Debts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0 :j
    Best win so far - holiday to Florida
  • grannyx2 wrote: »
    Hello my lovely Lucky, sending you sunny warm well wishes from Oz x

    All warmth greatly received Granny! Been a bit parky here today!! Hope you are still loving Oz and all is well with you Xx
    Bubblesmum wrote: »
    I am another swan so can identify with you both so much, nobody really knows that I am panicking inside and feel really low as I continue to function.

    With regards counselling offered through your GP, the IAPT service ( Improving Access to Psychological Therapies) firstly offers everyone CBT and depending on the demand (high demand - group work, telephone and lastly 1:1) so great you are getting telephone 1:1 rather than a group.

    CBT onus is one you to work with the therapist to change your behaviour and use both strategies and changing thought processes. It doesn't suit everyone yippee if it works but don't be afraid to say, what other choice do I have ..... Remember to tell your counsellor everything that is causing you distress however small, as the more bigger picture, entails that you build a case to be referred to the type of counsellor who helps you understand and make sense of the traumas that are causing your distress. does that make sense?

    Really happy to have a PM conversation if that helps, speaking with my MH occupational Therapy hat on

    Sending hugs

    Thanks BM, makes perfect sense. Sorry you are feeling low too. I'm looking forward to the CBT, but I've felt much more myself today. I had an issue to deal with this afternoon with DS1's school, and did so much more as 'Lucky' than as the quivering anxious wreck I have been of late!! Long may that continue! Xx
    Debts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0 :j
    Best win so far - holiday to Florida
  • DH had waves again this morning but thus far nothing else has developed and he has otherwise had a good day. Been a bit of a spendy day as we went too Bee and Queue and got things we've been meaning to get for ages, like hooks for the back of DS1's door and a new shower screen seal etc. We also went to pets @ home and bought the cat a scratching post as she has taken a shine to the stair carpet :mad:.

    DS1 is off on a 3 day residential trip with school tomorrow but came home in tears saying he wasn't going :eek:. Rang the head of year and sorted out the issues, so now he's happy again thank goodness!

    Gained 3lbs at chub club but not bothered in the slightest, as I thought that might happen after my epic loss last week. I've still lost weight overall so it's all good.
    Debts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0 :j
    Best win so far - holiday to Florida
  • beanielou
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  • liltdiddylilt
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    I am really impressed with that gain.. Really low!! Well done you :D although still worried you aren't eating ;)

    Poor DS1. Hope he really enjoys himself! I cried all the way to my residential. Loved it, and cried at coming home :rotfl:

    Glad DH has had a better day. Hope your stress levels have eased a bit. I brought you some cake.. ;) xxx

    A black belt only covers 2 inches of your a$$ - You have to cover the rest yourself - Royce Gracie
  • Cake very well received! Cheers Lilt! I'll admit to not eating on Sunday, but otherwise I promise I've been scoffing!!

    Beanie, it's so annoying when they do that isn't it??!! £16.50 for a new post is cheaper than a new carpet, but still :mad::eek: Xx
    Debts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0 :j
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  • liltdiddylilt
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    Ok I will believe you... :) much love. And if you were a bit closer I would bake you one of each and sod the diet. :rotfl:

    A black belt only covers 2 inches of your a$$ - You have to cover the rest yourself - Royce Gracie
  • And I would eat both! With cream!! :p Xx
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  • I am liking the recent the recent posts phew :) XXXXX
    Nevertheless she persisted.
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