Three choices in life; Give up, Give in or Give all you've got!!

satchmo1

Can we all join in with logging our good deeds for the day??


Today, whilst waiting for our train, a foreign lady asked for help by holding up her iPhone and "asking" which platform she needed. I directed her to the one behind us, but she got on a train going in the opposite direction. Fortunately the train wasn't leaving immediately and I was able to leap on, and indicate that she needed the next train. So glad I saw her getting on!


I got a lovely appreciative smile from another passenger, too.

please-let-me-be-lucky

Loving all the good deeds :A. Well done everyone! Satchmo, I'd love it if everyone logged theirs daily, and thank goodness you saw that lady get on the train! Who knows where she would have ended up :eek:.

Today I bought my lovely neighbour some salted caramel fudge and popped in to see her with it. The box said 'just thinking of you', which I thought was a perfect sentiment, and it was only £1! I'm going to have to stop spending money on good deeds, but she is so worth it. She does lots of thoughtful things for us and it was lovely to see her smile because we did something for her. I do wonder though, like the episode of Friends where Phoebe struggles to find something truly altruistic, whether I'm getting more out of doing good deeds than the person on the receiving end?!?!

Today has been a quiet one in terms of mainly being at home, but not quiet at all in terms of the boys working themselves in one way or another :mad:. DS1 is staying at a friend's for a sleepover tonight and I have to say, waving him off did wonders for my sanity!! After he'd gone we went to Mr A's for some food shopping, and I bought DS2 a happy meal for his tea after his brother had been rubbing it in that he was getting one at his mates!!

Levi-

hi lucky,
i always think of that friends episode too when i do good deeds, - lol - and try to unravel back to if i am doing it for myself more than i am doing it for them - but in your case, do not burden yourself with this thought, you have a beautiful heart and soul and are doing things for others for the right reason but if you get a bit of 'splashback' satisfaction from it as well, then so you should! you're an amazing person! so you have a FGN too!? they seem very popular around here i bet she loved the spontaneous gift, sounds yummy...x

System

Love the good deeds. Can't think of any that I did today, unless you count the fact that I bought hubby one of those insulated coffee mugs for £1 in B&M's. He spends a lot of time in the garage, doing stuff to his bike etc and whenever I take him down a drink, it always ends up going cold, so thought it might be a nice idea for him, even though it cost money.

Sun_Addict

Hi Lucky - my good deed for the day is buying DS and GF a magic oven liner from Lakeland as DS is obsessed with cleaning their oven. I know they wouldn't fork out the £9.99 it cost. Hope the rest of your weekend is good x

patanne

I don't think that you can ever do anything truly altruistic, as no matter what you must receive a return. It may just be a smile from someone who saw what you did and appreciated that. You may have radically improved someone's day. I used to walk into work (retired now) and found that the days I smiled at someone on my way always turned out to be better days. Should I not have smiled because I knew I would benefit, well of course not. So as they say - keep on keeping on.

October_Starter

I love the concept of passing it on. It's something that is really trending on FB at the moment and it really is a pleasure to see. My niece gave a homeless man a hot meal and some thick clothes as he was out in the snow last week. She has also contacted a charity that makes sure homeless get off the streets when the temperatures plummet. It brought a tear to my eye and I was very proud of her.

So my advice would not be to worry about what you get out of it rather than passing it on

October xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

See, I always knew you lot were fabulous! Look at all those good deeds .

Levi, my FairyGodNeighbour is almost 79 but is fitter than I am! She is so kind and thoughtful, and often drops things off for the boys like 'make your own Christmas bauble kits' and biscuit decorating packs etc. She even comes to Clubbercise with me! I want to be just like her when I grow up :rotfl:.

Today's good deed was to send a cardigan round to my friend that I knew she would like, and it made me happier than putting it in the 'weighing in pile' and getting a few pennies for it. She is chuffed . I sent it round with DH and his Best Mate who are doing their own good deed for her, as the gable end has come loose on her roof and birds are getting in, so BM said he'd seal it back up for her. DH assures me he will stay at the bottom of the ladder :eek:. MiL then has over flowing gutters so BM said he'd go up and sort them out too. I think he wins on the good deeds front today!!

DS1 is still round at his mates after his sleepover. I have no clue when he is coming home!! Hopefully we will visit Grandma today, but if not I will see her tomorrow as it is her 80th birthday!

Still very much struggling with anxiety. When it hits it's all consuming. Someone mentioned FEAR on Levi's diary - False Evidence Appearing Real, and this sums it all up. I've never been like this before, I'm usually like 'what will be will be' and only worrying WHEN it happens. Now I spend my time worrying IF it will happen until I convince myself it will. I'm quite exhausted by it all if I'm honest .

Levi-

Being that you are consumed with this dreadful anxiety makes you all the more wonderful that you are still able to give strength to others, I hope you realise how special that makes you
Is there anything that you can pinpoint that is causing you to be worried?
People always say that to me, so I know its a bit of a drag... because I always say "EVERYTHING!" .. its like this vague swirl of doom and gloom.. I take it that is how you feel too or is there anything you can nail it down to, even in terms of triggers? Do you take any medication? I am using quite a high dose antidepressant and also valium when it gets too unbearable like last night. I can't say i'm happy to be reliant on meds but needs must.
also looking at your sig - your debt slaying and weightloss is EPIC.. you must be so proud of yourself for those -- i want to be just like YOU when i grow up! x
Feel better soon - & remember, you like many others on here are an earth angel!
PS: your FGN sounds amazing!

please-let-me-be-lucky

Aw, thanks so much for that Levi. Such a sweet message. Have to say, right back at ya with the special person thing, you don't feel at your best either yet you are still pulling me up. Thank you.

Sometimes I have reasons for the doom, other times it's just everything. In the last few weeks I've been unnerved by DH's 'uncontrolled' seizure and mood swings, been worried about DS2 who has been poorly, and worried about DS1 who has been having problems at school. All of these things have been quite major, but I can't stop thinking that I've blown them up even more and obsessed over them.

I know some things I have been silly over. Last night, DS1 stayed out at a friends house. I knew there was a potential plan to maybe go to the cinema this morning, but I heard nothing from anyone. I text DS1 twice and the Mum once, and then started panicking that something awful had happened. Sensible me wouldn't have done that. He is now back home (about an hour ago) and has had a wonderful time, so why do I still feel anxious and on edge?! I've been really panicky about doing simple things, like going shopping. Things like the Paris shootings worry me and build in my head to become such sure things to happen to me rather than remote possibilities.

I posted my payslips 2 and a half weeks ago and I haven't heard back yet. I've known it take ages longer than that before, so why am I so bothered that they aren't back yet? Because of the way I've been paid my holidays, I've earned slightly more in the last 6 months than in the 6 months before and I'm worried it will cause a problem. It shouldn't, I'm way under what I am 'allowed' to earn, but when I'm so down with anxiety I start to panic that they will stop the benefit and we won't have anything to live on. Again, totally OTT reaction and not one that is likely to happen, so why am I letting it worry me?!?!

I don't know why I've suddenly become like this .