Giving my husband all my money?

dawyldthing

RAS wrote: »

willysmum

Glad to see you back.

One of the problems with MSE is that if you do not post back quickly, sometimes people start long and barely relevant discussions about everything and anything to do generally with the subject. Which may or may not be useful to the OP (original poster).

I respect that in your situation it may be hard to get on-line and it may be hard to deal with the responses.

There is a stickie on the front page that covers economic and financial abuse https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/1276963

From which I quote:

(Refuge)'s research has shown that domestic violence often involves economic abuse as well as physical, sexual and emotional abuse and that many women stay with abusive men because they are worried about the financial consequences of leaving and are unaware of the options that are available to them. Economic abuse can include taking the woman’s money, not allowing her to work, strictly limiting what she’s allowed to spend or, really commonly, placing debt in her name to trap her in the relationship.

One of the things that scares me is that you appear to be in receipt of tax credits to which you may not be entitled based on your husband'd income. You are paying that money to your husband even though you will have to pay it back to tax credits soon. At that point your finances will be in a reall mess.

So you need get hold of tax credits and ask them to re-assess the situation quickly, to limit the damage.

It does not appear that your husband thinks that he is responsible for supporting the whole family (you and both children regardless of parentage).

And having given up your own house, you are now very vulnerable; are you on the tenancy agreement at the new house?

I hope you are as we had a similar problem for my mum in that even though they were married he said they could sign joint immediately but he lied and actually even though she gave up a council home she had to wait a full year before the tenancy could become joint

dawyldthing

willysmum wrote: »

I have been intouch with Tax Credits to update my husbands income and are waiting to hear from them, in regards to our current home, no i am not on the tenancy, stupid i know , my husband did speak to the housing association and they told him i had to live at the property for a year before i could go on the tenancy and once that year was up should we separate they 'might' be able to rehome me. Cant believe ive been so stupid .

Make sure it is from now the year starts as my mum had a similar problem and the council weren't helpful