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TrulyMadly

Jelly_Biactol wrote: »

I'll put myself down for at least 10 of those adjectives:D

Think I can do four:p

Savvybuyer

Jelly_Biactol wrote: »

On the 25th of June 2014, at 9:43am:):):)

Really?

And you spent all the time looking for that?:rotfl::rotfl:

Sure it's not other people that have the 'obsessive interest' behaviour and not me?:rotfl::cool:

elainemn

Hi everyone. I have not started on the Quidco Xmas thing yet. Can someone point me to a list of the cheap items to buy please as I need to spend £100 for work at Argos and thought I could then get other bits free with the bonus.
Thanks,

David.

MKS :kisses2:
:rotfl:

David.

TrulyMadly wrote: »

Evening paw sniffers:D

Out of the loop a bit.DD at home and we've been having quality time together:T

No idea what you are all up to but hope everyone is gorgeous:D

She still taking care of those hands

aau1

David. wrote: »

verbatim 500gb
paste that in the search box and new users get a £5 off code I missed it

code here £5 off £30

Bearing in mind that using a non-QC advertised code might jeopardise your cashback and any contribution this transaction makes to your QC bonus

fairclaire

Savvybuyer wrote: »

:eek::eek:_pale_:rotfl:

Someone had two out of the 6 Kipling Almond Slices that I bought recently! Oh well, never mind, I suppose that's what I bought them for. Told them they could have them anyway at that point (not that I had any choice in the matter anymore:rotfl:).

I saw this yesterday:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2828626/The-truth-Asperger-s-Susan-Boyle-reveals-just-difficult-living-condition-makes-behaviour-unpredictable.html

I'm still doing a near-daily search for these things:rotfl: - 'appalled' that there was nothing new on you know what (AS:D) for several days, even a week or more, recently!!:rotfl::rotfl:

It (obviously) affects people in different ways - I wouldn't say my behaviour was 'unpredictable' - very rarely is it that. In fact, mine is rather predictable I think - due to following timetables, routine and predictable that I will be in Morries on Monday and Wednesday each week for example, as a result of the following of a 'specialist interest'. In fact, when you (I mean I:D) look at it - as I do extremely often indeed - it's 'normal' people that can be analysed as being "unpredictable" - in the sense of often not following any logic and in the sense of having inconsistent and perhaps you could call it "chaotic" social rules - but perhaps I like a bit of chaos theory!:rotfl:

Indeed, because my decision making might be somewhat 'predictable', as it is calculated and computed and follows certain rules, I'd say it'll be a downside because being predictable makes you vulnerable - if people can predict what you are going to do, they can use this to their advantage! There are manipulative people around and I very likely used to be extremely naive (certainly socially naive). At one point, in my childhood, I was naive to believe that people never told any lies. (Now, it's utter distrust:D:rotfl::rotfl:.)

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Quote (above MailOnline article):
'OK Susan, what’s wrong. Was it me? Did I do something wrong. Did I take the menu away too quickly?’ he asks. She starts to erupt, then is suddenly on her feet, tearing at her hair and walking away, saying, ‘I can’t deal with this.’ With what? Onion rings? Her PR scurries after her, apologising profusely.
Andy sinks his head into his hands. ‘Welcome to our world,’ he says, wearily. If this were simply diva behaviour it would be rude, ridiculous and off-the-scale unacceptable.
But it isn’t. Susan’s meltdown is the result of a medical condition, not a wilful temper.

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I think what may be wrong in this situation is the enquiring into what's wrong and even the 'scurrying after her'. It's likely, in my opinion, to lengthen the period of meltdown rather than end it. If someone is having a 'meltdown', worse thing you can do is talk to them and 'intrude' - the thing I'd want you to do would be to go away from me and let me recover alone. The asking of questions just imposes another burden - now having to listen and process the questions that someone is asking, on top of the original 'meltdown'. The problem is the meltdown is caused by the overload - so the worst thing to do is add to that by asking me a question on top. I know - it's the opposite approach, I suspect, of what a person normally would require. That is, if they are upset, to comfort them. That would calm the ordinary person down. To an Aspie though (and different Aspies are different to each other) - whilst sometimes I want people to comfort me if I'm upset and get more distressed that people are ignoring me and not doing so - on other times (it's about emotion so it is irrational) I just want to be left alone to sort myself out - and the asking of questions, which comes across as interfering even though the intention is undoubtedly the complete opposite, simply imposes an additional burden and slows down the recovery.

That's my experience. I don't really have 'meltdowns' very often at all. I know - it's nothing against you, it's not that we are anti-social, it's just that sometimes we are best left alone as we deal with that much better.

Perhaps. As it affects different people quite differently.

Problem is if I want to say "Leave me alone", it takes more brain processing on top to do that, assuming I'm in a meltdown, and only makes the meltdown worse. If I'm really distressed it would, anyway (adds to the overload, what you want is for no 'interference', no 'intrusion', just be left alone to recover).

Well the culprit has been found. It was DD who genuinely didn't know the slice of cake had been claimed as she was staying elsewhere last night.
She has offered to buy him a special cupcake tomorrow which made matters worse. He wants the cake that she's eaten and he wants it 2 hours ago!

I understand exactly what causes the 'meltdown' reaction. This slice of cake was built into today's plans for him......just playing another part of the days routine. And if any other part of the day hadn't gone to his plan it would have caused the same reaction.
Unfortunately with so many people under one roof at times, things don't always go to his plan. Although we do all try our best
Also unfortunately he has been rather harsh with DD about her shameful actions. Telling her he has ruined is day and that's she suffering from 'middle child syndrome' (where on earth did he get that from? :eek:) Thankfully she has a hind like a rhino, as does everyone who lives here :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

All that palava over a slice of cake :eek:

TrulyMadly

elainemn wrote: »

Hi everyone. I have not started on the Quidco Xmas thing yet. Can someone point me to a list of the cheap items to buy please as I need to spend £100 for work at Argos and thought I could then get other bits free with the bonus.
Thanks,

Helloooooo:D

I've been buying stuff I need anyway ....I think my only real filler was The Works and I bought a biro for 99p with free delivery:)

Even my M&S wine has tracked which I didn't think it would.

I love having a fridge full of prosecco ....I feel so...decadent

David.

aau1 wrote: »

Bearing in mind that using a non-QC advertised code might jeopardise your cashback and any contribution this transaction makes to your QC bonus

Not to mine it wouldn't as not doing it

Also if buying one of these means your mortgage payment will be short and fail don't do it as you may lose your home

TrulyMadly

David. wrote: »

She still taking care of those hands

It isn't until she comes home that I realise how much I miss her.....and DS of course.

How's the freezer doing Dave?:)