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So called wife - had an affiar
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Better_Days wrote: »I'm also a bit unsure of you wanting your wife to 'do the right thing' and move out of the family home. She has as much right to be there as you do.
It's easier for both parties if, when going through the divorce process one of them moves out. I think the "right thing" is for the person who has had the affair should be the one who moves out.
Alternatively both parties live in the same house which will be very unpleasant for anyone else living in the house.0 -
Better_Days wrote: »I'm also a bit unsure of you wanting your wife to 'do the right thing' and move out of the family home. She has as much right to be there as you do.It's easier for both parties if, when going through the divorce process one of them moves out. I think the "right thing" is for the person who has had the affair should be the one who moves out.
Alternatively both parties live in the same house which will be very unpleasant for anyone else living in the house.
I agree with Jreacher1, if my hubby had the affair I'd expect him to bethe one to move out, it just seems 'the right thing to do' . Yrs they both have a right to live there, but she chose the path she did, I think she should be the one to move out .Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
While the OPs wife has done something wrong, she may feel she has reason. Obviously both parties are going to be going through very strong emotions for quite some time. Try and avoid feeding that right now.., it won't help.
If both parties are working, then yes, it would seem obvious the wife should move out to the OP.., but this is kind of a 'punishment' thing. It might not be possible though. And it could force the OP's wife into the arms of this other person. Which the OP may regret later, and the OP's wife. Having an emotional or otherwise affair with someone is very different to a true relationship, with all the history that involves.
This is a time when the OP and his wife will get to know who they are and what they want from life a lot better, but its going to be painful. My sympathies to both.0 -
The real secret in having such knowledge is to keep your powder dry. Knowledge is power. You fired before you had to. Men in marriages, especially where children are involved,will almost always get fleeced no matter who is in the wrong.Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0
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You probably already have has legal advice to not use adultery as a reason for divorce. So whether she's had sex or not it's just too intrusive. You would use unreasonable behaviour. You don't need to prove she's had sex then or even having an affair...just that she's doing things out of character such as going out with someone else (of either sex) without your agreement when you had already planned something together. If she's going out to lunch with a friend (even if that friend might be a man) whilst you are at work then that might not be seen as unreasonable if she's not doing anything else during the day.
You only found out on Sunday. Talk about it without accusations of affairs and sex flying about everywhere and you might find you can get over it and find out the reasons why she's seeing a new friend.:footie:
Regular savers earn 6% interest (HSBC, First Direct, M&S) Loans cost 2.9% per year (Nationwide) = FREE money. 0 -
If she has already seen a solicitor, is she divorcing you?Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0
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Are your children still living with you?
Do not, however difficult living together may be, move out of the house yourself if she refuses to. Don't make it easy for her to move someone else into your house to start living your life with your children.Make £25 a day in April £0/£750 (March £584, February £602, January £883.66)
December £361.54, November £322.28, October £288.52, September £374.30, August £223.95, July £71.45, June £251.22, May£119.33, April £236.24, March £106.74, Feb £40.99, Jan £98.54) Total for 2017 - £2,495.100 -
Don't underestimate the effect that this will all be having on your soon-to-be grown up children. Keep as calm as you can for their sakes.:heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.0
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:heartpuls Mrs Marleyboy :heartpuls
MSE: many of the benefits of a helpful family, without disadvantages like having to compete for the tv remote
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Do you still love her?
If you truly do still love her and really want to spend the rest of your life with her , now is the time to tell her and fight for your marriage
Forget about 'the other party' .. this is about you and your wife
There must have been a reason for this and no one person is to blame.
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