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Siblings looking after each other at what age?
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What time was he meant to be returning them to you on Wed 31st December? I'm guessing he was returning them that date because you haven't said he was keeping them until New Year? What hours does 'all day' mean? Many jobs have an early finish NYE and many don't. It seems pretty pointless to me, to go to work NYE, leaving them alone and then return them home to you as soon as he comes in from work, he might just as well return them earlier.he has said that he will have the children over Christmas from sat 27th - weds 31st but he would leave them home alone all day on the Tuesday and Wednesday as he is working.0 -
Never - in my house anyway.
I agree it depends on the child - My 18 year old still won't be left by himself at night so my DD comes home to stay with him if we go away.
I know that all sorts of mischief can ensue and I do believe that your husband could be prosecuted if anything happened whilst he was at work.
Good god!! :eek: Is that his choice or yours?0 -
The whole point of the visit is for them to spend time with their dad, not to spend 2 days left to their own devices so I wouldn't let them go, especially, OP, if you are a working mum and your own quality time with your kids is already limited.Make £25 a day in April £0/£750 (March £584, February £602, January £883.66)
December £361.54, November £322.28, October £288.52, September £374.30, August £223.95, July £71.45, June £251.22, May£119.33, April £236.24, March £106.74, Feb £40.99, Jan £98.54) Total for 2017 - £2,495.100 -
"If they really want to be there and that is the only way, then I think there is enough time to make it clear to them that they will need to get along and make it work. If however, any of them are anxious at idea or just don't want to do it, then I would say a definite no."
Sadly if something goes wrong they are just not old enough to deal with it properly as is said 13 is to young.0 -
My son is a very responsible 13 year old. Other two are similar ages to your youngest.
No way would I leave them alone all day together. My son on his own, yes. But it would be 100% unfair to leave him in charge of minors all day.
If your ex can't arrange suitable childcare, then they can't stay with him. It's too dangerous."One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
A couple of hours is fine at that age, but not two working days.
He is unreasonable.Member #14 of SKI-ers club
Words, words, they're all we have to go by!.
(Pity they are mangled by this autocorrect!)0 -
I think the age of the children is irrelevant, there's no arbitary age that makes it ok. In a dire need for emergency childcare I'd probably feel safer leaving my DS (4) with his 11 year old sister than my cousin's 17-year-old who lives with us! (not that I would leave him with either before I get jumped on)
The fact that your daughter is not someone you could trust to look after your son safely is the issue.
I think this is one you need to stand up to Dad over. He's being utterly unreasonable and there is a huge difference between you leaving your eldest home alone for a while and him leaving her in charge of a small child for two days.0 -
Sadly if something goes wrong they are just not old enough to deal with it properly as is said 13 is to young.
What i think is sad is that our society is full of 13yo who can't look after themselves for a day.0 -
Good god!! :eek: Is that his choice or yours?
It is his choice - he suffers from illness - not so much now but worries he will be taken ill at night !I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. When it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
When the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.0 -
No I wouldn't be happy about that at all. I used to 'look after' my sister after school when we would have been around 14 and 10 and we used to fight like cat and dog and I doubt that I would have been much use in a crisis. Maybe Dad can arrange for someone to be with them even if he has to pay for it?"'Cause it's a bittersweet symphony, this life
Try to make ends meet
You're a slave to money then you die"0
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