How long should child maintainence be paid?

maman

bridgedino wrote: »

I have 2 daughters, my eldest has her own husband and 4 small children family.

As nice as it would be I wouldn't give to one child what I couldn't afford to give to the other. The money would be very welcome in my own household in this financial climate

That's exactly why I said 'any parent who can afford it' would want to help their children in my original post. I do understand that many need the money themselves like you.

System

maman wrote: »

That's exactly why I said 'any parent who can afford it' would want to help their children in my original post. I do understand that many need the money themselves like you.

In my case my bio dad would happily boast that he'd just spent £100 on a flipping shirt, but when it came to helping me out or contributing to uni there was silence.

shoe*diva79

silvercar wrote: »

Seriously? You would demand your child leaves full time education to go out to work?

To be fair, if she is in full time education at 18 then CM will still be payable so she wont need to. But when her CM stops, if she is still intending to live here then she will need to pay her way.

FBaby

Maintenance of children isn't just about their own pocket money.

If you read what I said again, I made it clear that in some circumstances, the maintenance could go towards contributing towards costs incurred as living in the house. It's about budget management though. Just like you wouldn't expect maintenance to continue after the child turns 21 even if they are still living in the house, it is perfectly reasonable that at 18, they start managing their own money.

The way I see it, pwc can continue to pay for food when it comes as part of a family meal, gas and electricity. Board would be only if the pwc can justify that once the child goes, they will downsize or take on a lodger. The child should get CB and child tax credits and maintenance to cover all other bills. This way, the pwc contributes through cost of boarding, nrp contributes towards other bills, along with benefits.

In my case, I get no maintenance from ex (and don't expect I ever will now) and we are not entitled to any benefits, so until both my children can get a job, they will continue to rely on me to support them. When they turn 18 and before they go to Uni, I will give them a stipend for them to manage. It will a perfect learning transition before they get uni loans and realise that it isn't just money to go and have fun with!

silvercar

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

To be fair, if she is in full time education at 18 then CM will still be payable so she wont need to. But when her CM stops, if she is still intending to live here then she will need to pay her way.

Student loans barely cover the cost of accommodation, most students need some part time work to make ends meet. If you can't provide free board during the university holidays they will struggle. Particularly a problem for a first year student away from home, where student halls only provide term time accommodation.

Marisco

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Really? I struggle to believe that any parent could feel that way.

Do you? Ah well, I'm not going into details here, but suffice to say oh's ex left him in horrendous debt, through her inability to stop shopping, and we were nearly made homeless because of the CSA. So yes, we were doing the conga round the house whilst singing Glory Hallelujah

shoe*diva79

silvercar wrote: »

Student loans barely cover the cost of accommodation, most students need some part time work to make ends meet. If you can't provide free board during the university holidays they will struggle. Particularly a problem for a first year student away from home, where student halls only provide term time accommodation.

She already has a part time job so if/when she goes to Uni (only in Year 11 of high school right now) then she will have the means to top up her income and of course she will be welcome here during the holidays. I just wont be able to afford to sustain another adult full time.

moomoomama27

Marisco wrote: »

Do you? Ah well, I'm not going into details here, but suffice to say oh's ex left him in horrendous debt, through her inability to stop shopping, and we were nearly made homeless because of the CSA. So yes, we were doing the conga round the house whilst singing Glory Hallelujah

Can totally relate to this! Yet it's always the paying NRP and their partners/wives who get the flack!

FBaby

I can understand a npr utterly relieved not to have to pay csa directly to the ex any longer, I would hope that is different to celebrating not having to support your own child once you don't legally have to any longer.

Marisco

FBaby wrote: »

I can understand a npr utterly relieved not to have to pay csa directly to the ex any longer, I would hope that is different to celebrating not having to support your own child once you don't legally have to any longer.

Maybe I wasn't quite clear in my post, this is what I meant. CSA take the money whether you can afford it or not, they don't care if you are left in the soft stuff. By getting shut of them, you can continue to help the kids as and when, and at a rate that doesn't mean you can't afford to live yourself.