How long should child maintainence be paid?

Homeownertobe

Marisco wrote: »

One of the happiest days of our lives was when oh got a letter off the CSA saying the case was finally closed. :T

Really? I struggle to believe that any parent could feel that way.

Homeownertobe

moomoomama27 wrote: »

No at the moment following an abusive row he's living with a friend, although the PWC still claims CB and CSA.

Before that he was expected to earn his own money to contribute to the household (while at college full time), he does not get clothes or shoes or essentials provided, his keep covers the electric and water, he bought his own food and the rent and council tax is paid through benefits she claims.

We help with some extras but dh has high maintenance and a second family. Thankfully he's in the process of moving closer so we can sort this all out.

Can't you have him? Clearly he's not happy where he is, so shouldn't his father step in?

silvercar

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

I dont agree with this. How many 18 year olds do you know studying and working full time so they can afford to live?

When my daughter turns 18, if I am not receiving CM then she will have to get a full time job pay me board from her wages. If I am receiving CM because she is studying then her CM will go towards her living costs and she wont need to pay board. Even if she has a part time job she can use it for usual teenage kid stuff - clothes, make up, driving lessons etc.

Seriously? You would demand your child leaves full time education to go out to work?

moomoomama27

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Can't you have him? Clearly he's not happy where he is, so shouldn't his father step in?

Yes thats why I said thankfully he's moving closer so we can sort it all out! This will onclude finding him accomodation and setting him up independently, as is his wish! Youth trust are involved and are sorting things out with us and him, to do the best by him!

Thankfully this NRP and NRPP are fully on board with supporting the child!

System

Person_one wrote: »

So yes, rightly or wrongly there is definitely an expectation that parents will continue to support/assist their children financially past 18. Why should living in a different home exempt one parent from that responsibility?

I don't think anyone bothered to tell my biological dad that :rotfl:

He didn't help out once when i was at uni. Once the mainteneice stopped at 18, he never helped out after that.

Thankfully my mum and stepdad did

bridgedino

Many thanks for your replies. Not trying to dodge out of my responsibilities, just looking for advice and thoughts on when it should end. Pretty certain its not never ending. My daughter turns 20 next month.

I've never missed a single payment in 10yrs and I have a great relationship with my daughter. Shes on her 2nd college course, the first one fizzled out un-finished. Not being a natural scholar I unfortunately feel this course will finish in a similar way for her. I feel she would be better off looking for a job.

If indeed there is a cut off age then things can naturally come to a conclusion sooner rather than later anyway.

bridgedino

maman wrote: »

I'd agree with that and it's not just about responsibility but what any parent who can afford it would want to do.


OP hasn't said what his DD intends to do when she finishes college but there will always be something that the money can be put to. If you stop giving it to her mum why not start saving it for your DD to help with a deposit later.


Finding out legally where you stand should be simple enough but that still leaves why you want to know. Is it your intention to stop paying anything?

I have 2 daughters, my eldest has her own husband and 4 small children family.

As nice as it would be I wouldn't give to one child what I couldn't afford to give to the other. The money would be very welcome in my own household in this financial climate

Vicky123

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Really? I struggle to believe that any parent could feel that way.

You would be really shocked to find out then that some parents deliberately don't work at all so as to avoid paying for their children.

Homeownertobe

Vicky123 wrote: »

You would be really shocked to find out then that some parents deliberately don't work at all so as to avoid paying for their children.

I wouldn't - I can quite easily believe that with the number of parents who have their children who avoid working for the same reason. In fact, they treat their children as a benefits meal ticket.

Vicky123

Homeownertobe wrote: »

I wouldn't - I can quite easily believe that with the number of parents who have their children who avoid working for the same reason. In fact, they treat their children as a benefits meal ticket.

Absolutely, but sadly many think it's just in the Daily Mail. On a brighter note it really restores my faith to see so many men on these boards that definitely do everything they can to support their children.