Nice People 13: Nice Save

silvercar

For PN in particular,

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PasturesNew

They do look different, that's good or you'd have mixed them up by now.

I think they're looking at you two and thinking:

One's food ...other one's neither use nor ornament

zagubov

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Thank you! Ella is on the left in all the photos.

They're great! Really pleased for you and the whole family.:beer:

chewmylegoff

PasturesNew wrote: »

They do look different, that's good or you'd have mixed them up by now.

I think they're looking at you two and thinking:

One's food ...other one's neither use nor ornament

I think they think that one of us is food and the other is their personal @rse wiper.

SingleSue

hjd wrote: »

As I understand it, he has 2 months now to decide which 2 he wants to have as firm and insurance.
Maybe he already has one or two ruled out already based on visits? Easy to decline them.
With which place and course did he feel most at home?
I'm not in your situation, but I would think that consideration of how the disability people work at each place would be very important. Some may already have impressed/not impressed. Will he get any priority in booking the most suitable accommodation? That could make a difference to the decision.
If he's still undecided then maybe time for another visit, if possible.

I'm sure you have been through this before but each child is different.
DD (older child) only had the choice of 2 universities which did her course; she applied for 4 courses (2 variants at each university) and got 4 offers. Decided quite easily which was her first choice, based on the available locations for her year abroad. Got the grades, got in and the rest is history.
DS had 5 choices; was rejected from no. 1 and then, after re-visits, found it relatively easy to choose firm and insurance.
Didn't get the grades, went into clearing and got offers from there. It wasn't the best 3 years, but he graduated and now has a good job, which is where he wanted to be.
Experience was totally different.
DD needed far less help (sign here, buy train ticket/book accommodation for visits, sign here to pay money), whereas DS needed much more handholding.

His quandry is more the fact he doesn't know if he actually wants to go rather than where, purely fear I think of the unknown and having to be independent which he will really struggle with.

Out of the places offered, two are immediately discounted, he didn't like the equipment they had or how they ran the courses. He also didn't like the buildings (both courses at the same uni) and the feel of it. He loved the surrounding area and it is an easy train ride home but not enough to make up for the problems.

He does have two favourites, both are equal distance from here, both require cross London travel which he is not confident of doing and both are the furthest away but the facilities, the courses and the support are excellent. Out of those two, he does have a clear number one choice.

The final offer is the closest, easily got to by train and he could live at home, the buildings are ok, no idea about the facilities as he didn't get to see them but the feeling wasn't quite there although it wasn't completely negative...it was also the audition that went wrong.

zagubov

The weirdest bit for me as a dad was holding my first baby in my hand. DW asked me to decide on the name as we had two choices. That was the easy bit.


Changes the way you think about life. Doesn't half make you obsessively safety-conscious afterwards.;)

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

chewmylegoff wrote: »

I think they think that one of us is food and the other is their personal @rse wiper.

Just so you know...

That will never change.

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

obsessively safety-conscious

I would be a horrible parent, especially for a daughter.

The complete and utter inability to say 'No' to ponies and princess rooms galore when they were young, and a "shotgun at the door" greeting for any teenage suitors.....

Probably a good thing I don't have any.

Generali

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

Just so you know...

That will never change.

They reckon that the first 40 years is the worst but that it gets easier from there.

The new NSAIDs for the back are jolly good. Little pain killing effect but there isn't anything like as much pain to kill. TBH, if my back was to be this painful for the rest of my days I could probably live with that. It aches but it is livable. I'm quite cross with the GP. He basically said, "You're in pain now, you'll be in increasing amounts of pain for the rest of your life, there's nothing you can do about it and you had better get used to it". That is what we economists call 'Rubbish' (sorry to use jargon).

Aldi has their bike stuff in so I got some bits: the new lights they have are brilliant. Then we took The Girl to a shop called Smiggle, a stationery store (it is also mostly stationary, at least relative to the rest of Sydney). We bought her a couple of notebooks as she really enjoys writing and we'd like to encourage her. She has this thing where she keeps a real-time diary; she literally walks as she writes! Now she has a sparkly book and a pink pen to use to do it. She has had some stomach problems I'd like to get to the bottom (pun intended) of so bought her a very sober, leather bound notebook to record diet and symptoms.

vivatifosi

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

I would be a horrible parent, especially for a daughter.

The complete and utter inability to say 'No' to ponies and princess rooms galore when they were young, and a "shotgun at the door" greeting for any teenage suitors.....

Probably a good thing I don't have any.

Princess dresses, ponies, unsuitable suitors and over protective fathers... sounds like the plot for a Disney movie.