We'd like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum... Read More »
Debate House Prices
In order to help keep the Forum a useful, safe and friendly place for our users, discussions around non MoneySaving matters are no longer permitted. This includes wider debates about general house prices, the economy and politics. As a result, we have taken the decision to keep this board permanently closed, but it remains viewable for users who may find some useful information in it. Thank you for your understanding.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
Nice People 13: Nice Save
Comments
-
I know it works for many people. I'm happy for them. But it's not what I want. Any relationship has some aspects in common and other aspects where the two people are different. For me it's important that faith is one of the shared things rather than one of the different things.
Maybe I will get lucky. Maybe I will stay single. I'm in no hurry. At least I don't have a clock to worry about.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
0 -
Have you googled for your particular brand of smoke alarm? This Linky may be helpful in a general kind of way. Just removing the alarm and taking out the battery would of course stop it beeping.
http://www.aico.co.uk/How-to-change-the-battery-in-your-alarm.html
Hth.
If it's mains powered with a battery back up then removing the battery will not stop the beeping, I'm afraid. The one in our last rented house was like that. They are, I think, designed to beep under any and all circumstances other than everything functioning and fully powered.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
In that case, there seem to be exactly three possible outcomes:
1 You get extremely lucky
2 You remain single
3 You loosen the faith requirement somewhat
I have no idea whether 3 is a possibility for you, but I know several couples where one is much more religious than the other. At the moment, DW is at synagogue, whilst I am at home, having slept in. It's not ideal, but we have made it work for us. I think it works for Michaels, too.
Fir and I have differences in ideology. Where our common ground lies is to support and respect the other's wants when those come into real life action.
My politics, my spirituality, my morality, my views are hugely important to me, but evolve and I need room to think to grow, to retract, to step sideways, to turn circles, at my own pace. I'd rather have the respect and love and some one to discuss and debate with, even of the conversation leaves me holding my head in my hands confused with what I think, than to think.....we are both 'x'. Some places we are both x. In more places we are x-1 and x2 or some such. Quite a few places we are x and y or even b and x.
That we allow each other this I see as a strength, not a weakness. If we were not prepared to support each other's fundamental differences, to try and appreciate ( though not agree, but .....understand the view) through each other's eyes, it would be a weakness. I even think its a strength......these differences are the launch pads for communication often. 0 -
I know it works for many people. I'm happy for them. But it's not what I want. Any relationship has some aspects in common and other aspects where the two people are different. For me it's important that faith is one of the shared things rather than one of the different things.
Maybe I will get lucky. Maybe I will stay single. I'm in no hurry. At least I don't have a clock to worry about.
Yes, I thought you might say that.
Can you influence how lucky you are by going to places where you meet more men? I'm reminded of this:
No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
If it's mains powered with a battery back up then removing the battery will not stop the beeping, I'm afraid. The one in our last rented house was like that. They are, I think, designed to beep under any and all circumstances other than everything functioning and fully powered.
The one I linked to appeared to be in two parts. A plate attached to the ceiling, and the alarm part. I agree that lots won't be like that. But if you can remove the alarm (from the mains) and take out the battery that would certainly silence it.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Fir and I have differences in ideology. Where our common ground lies is to support and respect the other's wants when those come into real life action.
My politics, my spirituality, my morality, my views are hugely important to me, but evolve and I need room to think to grow, to retract, to step sideways, to turn circles, at my own pace. I'd rather have the respect and love and some one to discuss and debate with, even of the conversation leaves me holding my head in my hands confused with what I think, than to think.....we are both 'x'. Some places we are both x. In more places we are x-1 and x2 or some such. Quite a few places we are x and y or even b and x.
That we allow each other this I see as a strength, not a weakness. If we were not prepared to support each other's fundamental differences, to try and appreciate ( though not agree, but .....understand the view) through each other's eyes, it would be a weakness. I even think its a strength......these differences are the launch pads for communication often.
I know. But that's not how it would work for me.
My faith is not just important to me. It's essentially fundamental to every part of who I am, and every decision I make.
For the last 30 years I have had many wonderful friends, and been close to many of them. Lots of them have shared my faith, some have not. But with the ones that have not, there has always been a limit, whether they've been aware of it or not - we can have fun, we can be close, we can share all kinds of things, but there is always something missing, whenever things start to go a bit deeper, there is always the feeling that this person, however delightful and understanding, does not and cannot truly "get" who I am. I have enjoyed those friendships anyway. With a friend, it does not matter. But I do not want to feel that kind of "missingness" with a partner. It would be heartbreakingly lonely for me. I would rather be single.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Yes, I thought you might say that.
Can you influence how lucky you are by going to places where you meet more men? I'm reminded of this:
Yes. And when I have my mental health sorted out, I expect to have the motivation and energy to be able to do so. At present I have not, or not consistently enough, anyway.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
PasturesNew wrote: »An indescribeable bottomless pit of sheer aloneness.
Yes. I'm happy in my own company (good job really), but the quietness gets difficult. Too much time for navel gazing. As a result my head is full of nonsense like you saw a bit of last night.
Anyhow, the lid is back on. I'm going to have a delete-a-thon. Whinging isn't going to change anything, and I have a lot to be grateful for in life. I'm fine, just a [STRIKE]bit [/STRIKE] lot of a loon 0 -
I know. But that's not how it would work for me.
My faith is not just important to me. It's essentially fundamental to every part of who I am, and every decision I make.
For the last 30 years I have had many wonderful friends, and been close to many of them. Lots of them have shared my faith, some have not. But with the ones that have not, there has always been a limit, whether they've been aware of it or not - we can have fun, we can be close, we can share all kinds of things, but there is always something missing, whenever things start to go a bit deeper, there is always the feeling that this person, however delightful and understanding, does not and cannot truly "get" who I am. I have enjoyed those friendships anyway. With a friend, it does not matter. But I do not want to feel that kind of "missingness" with a partner. It would be heartbreakingly lonely for me. I would rather be single.
I know a lot of very religious people, who would take exactly that approach, too.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
Anyhow, the lid is back on. I'm going to have a delete-a-thon. Whinging isn't going to change anything
Glad you are feeling better. But don't put the lid back on too tightly. Whinging may not change anything, but there may be other things you could do that might change things, whereas doing nothing usually results in more of the same, and more of the same is sometimes not what we really want, if we're honest.
Let me know if you would like me to delete any of my responses to your posts.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0
This discussion has been closed.
Confirm your email address to Create Threads and Reply
Categories
- All Categories
- 351.6K Banking & Borrowing
- 253.4K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
- 453.9K Spending & Discounts
- 244.6K Work, Benefits & Business
- 600K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
- 177.2K Life & Family
- 258.3K Travel & Transport
- 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
- 16.2K Discuss & Feedback
- 37.6K Read-Only Boards