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mystic_trev

Generali wrote: »

The problem is that smoking is crazily addictive; I tried to quit from the age of 17 until I was about 35-36. It is basically impossible to quit smoking.

Indeed, and there lies the problem. What really concerns me is the take up rate by Girls / Young woman. I see far more of them smoking than I do young Guys.

LydiaJ

Generali wrote: »

The problem is that smoking is crazily addictive; I tried to quit from the age of 17 until I was about 35-36. It is basically impossible to quit smoking.

It's why I make it clear to the Generalissimos that they must never, ever start smoking or I will do something horrid to them. I don't care that they should be free to make their own mistakes and all that stuff that I normally bang on about. No tobacco.

If they were smoking grass my biggest concern is that they'd get mix it with tobacco and get addicted that way.

At our previous house we had a next door neighbour who smoked. Lovely bloke - we all got on well with him, DD loved his dogs, and he was the sort of hospitable chap who'd invite next door's kids round to see the puppies when he bred some. One of the many things I appreciated about him was that almost the first time my kids saw him smoking, he explained to them that he wished he could give up, that it was very very hard to give up, that it was very bad for him in lots of ways, and that if they had any sense at all they'd never start.

Any attempt to talk to either DS or DD about smoking these days evokes a scornful "how can you even think I'd be stupid enough?" response. I hope it lasts.

SingleSue

I get the same response from youngest re drinking, despite never living in a home where drinking was common place.

Mind you, he also says the same about going to parties......

Generali

LydiaJ wrote: »

Any attempt to talk to either DS or DD about smoking these days evokes a scornful "how can you even think I'd be stupid enough?" response. I hope it lasts.

That's what I want from the Generlissimos. No smoking, no thought that smoking could be a good idea. Tobacco is evil and has no place in our lives.

SingleSue

Re being single, although my relationship with lovveerrr never got to the real full on stage that many relationships do (for example, we only once slept in the same bed in nearly 3 years and he never came into my house and me into his), I do miss the feeling of having someone there.

He made me feel attractive, wanted, sexy, rather than an overweight, mobility impaired single mum of disabled children.

I've now taken control of things though, I am losing weight (18 pounds so far) and I have started to have my hair trimmed regularly so that it looks nicer. Can't do much about the mobility or the hopeless joints, or the fact the boys have problems but I am trying to get myself into the mindset where I may be able to let people into the inner me (more progress needed on this, much much more).

Saying all that though, I really cannot imagine living with someone again, I like the personal space in my bedroom and the fact there is no-one here to moan about my wandering around the house in the wee hours of the morning.

GDB2222

LydiaJ wrote: »

And of course for me there is the added complication of the faith requirement, and there is a well-documented oversupply of women and shortage of men in the church, again especially over 40.

In that case, there seem to be exactly three possible outcomes:

1 You get extremely lucky
2 You remain single
3 You loosen the faith requirement somewhat

I have no idea whether 3 is a possibility for you, but I know several couples where one is much more religious than the other. At the moment, DW is at synagogue, whilst I am at home, having slept in. It's not ideal, but we have made it work for us. I think it works for Michaels, too.

Edit: of course, if you are not 'ready' all this is academic, and you don't need to worry about it. At some stage, you may meet someone who ticks some of the boxes and not others, though.

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

Smoke detector's beeping every 30 soddin' seconds now. I can get it to stop by turning the heating on, but that'd be daft. As this is a small house it's only a few feet away from me, so it might as well be beeping right over my head.

I still have to turn the leccy off, get up the ladder, remove the thing, to discover the size/type of battery, before having a bath and taking that to a shop to try to find one - and, as it's also raining, I really CBA for any of that.

Have you googled for your particular brand of smoke alarm? This Linky may be helpful in a general kind of way. Just removing the alarm and taking out the battery would of course stop it beeping.

http://www.aico.co.uk/How-to-change-the-battery-in-your-alarm.html

Hth.

SingleSue

It worked for me and ex hubby too...I was the one with a faith and ex hubby the one who didn't.

michaels

PasturesNew wrote: »

Smoke detector's beeping every 30 soddin' seconds now. I can get it to stop by turning the heating on, but that'd be daft. As this is a small house it's only a few feet away from me, so it might as well be beeping right over my head.

I still have to turn the leccy off, get up the ladder, remove the thing, to discover the size/type of battery, before having a bath and taking that to a shop to try to find one - and, as it's also raining, I really CBA for any of that.

It will be a rectangular 9v battery. You could turn the power off and cut the wires and cover the ends with insulation tape and put the detector back up.

GDB2222

michaels wrote: »

It will be a rectangular 9v battery. You could turn the power off and cut the wires and cover the ends with insulation tape and put the detector back up.

You mean, PN could do this? :eek: