Nice People 13: Nice Save

silvercar

ivyleaf wrote: »

That really made me :):). How lovely! I know my OH loves me dearly, but he would not be able to do anything like that for me. The idea would make him literally shudder.

Mine too. Delivering a cup of tea would be manageable.

hjd

silvercar wrote: »

Mine too. Delivering a cup of tea would be manageable.

Are you and ivyleaf sure you're not married to my husband?

GDB2222

silvercar wrote: »

Mine too. Delivering a cup of tea would be manageable.

I confirm that husbands can generally manage that.

tom9980

GDB2222 wrote: »

I confirm that husbands can generally manage that.

I spent about 2 hours yesterday cutting out teaching resources, making tea and a very nice pasta. I am hoping for husband of the year 2014 but my wife is unlikely to put me up for such an award.

tom9980

On another note spotted the lady next door who is retired and about 70 i have seen her about 20 times since moving in May but every single time she is wearing the same green jumper and it is clearly the same one each time without any doubt, i find this odd. Nobody seems to visit her either which seems a bit sad to me.

ivyleaf

tom9980 wrote: »

I spent about 2 hours yesterday cutting out teaching resources, making tea and a very nice pasta. I am hoping for husband of the year 2014 but my wife is unlikely to put me up for such an award.

Well, it certainly sounds as if you should be a front runner :T I get really cross when I hear anyone comment about the "long holidays and short working hours" teachers supposedly have. They should try it, is all I can say. I'm not a teacher myself, but my best friend was. She's retired now, but I know how much work she (and her husband, another teacher) had to do in the evenings, weekends and holidays.

My DD1's best friend has started just this term as a teacher in Reception, and spends most of her weekends working.

Re the lady in the green jumper - does she seem to go out much, maybe to socialise?

Spirit_2

physio has just been. have strapping today instead of shoulder brace so will see if this works. it is more targeted less bulky and I have more movement.she was concerned about my fall and was asking me questions to check I had not had another event. that had not occurred to me as a possibility.

GdB sent me details of a research program that would benefit me, I applied but do not meet the had stroke more than 6 months ago criteria. never mind.

PasturesNew

Spirit wrote: »

physio has just been. have strapping today instead of shoulder brace so will see if this works. it is more targeted less bulky and I have more movement.she was concerned about my fall and was asking me questions to check I had not had another event. that had not occurred to me as a possibility.

That's a step forward then!

Spirit_2

PasturesNew wrote: »

Maybe she's been MSE and bought a 4-pack of green jumpers. Or maybe that's her "gardening jumper".

It's easy to become somebody that nobody visits if you don't have a family.

when i was in hospital there was a lady who did not have any visitors. she was 79, single, only child,only living relative was a cousin in coventry.her two friends she said were aged 86 & 90 something. my visitors would go and chat to her, one read her a poem .Oh bought her tissues and biscuits. she lived alone in a third floor flat , no lift and I felt concerned about how she would manage on discharge. she was a sweet old lady, she had full conversations with herself which is how I think she combatted loneliness. she told me she took holidays, mystery coach tours.I think her week in hospital was good for her, she ate everything saying it was delicious and seemed to enjoy the interaction with others, it was suggested she have a pendant alarm but she did not know two people or even one that could come to her aid.age concern had a service for such people.i wonder how she is getting on.

tom9980

ivyleaf wrote: »

Well, it certainly sounds as if you should be a front runner :T I get really cross when I hear anyone comment about the "long holidays and short working hours" teachers supposedly have. They should try it, is all I can say. I'm not a teacher myself, but my best friend was. She's retired now, but I know how much work she (and her husband, another teacher) had to do in the evenings, weekends and holidays.

My DD1's best friend has started just this term as a teacher in Reception, and spends most of her weekends working.

Re the lady in the green jumper - does she seem to go out much, maybe to socialise?

On the teacher front there is too much work required for too few man hours its not a viable profession long term for anyone in the current format, you wont see many 50+ year olds in primary school classrooms now.

Its normal to have reception children who cant use the toilet, recognise colours, write their name or read basic words now on entering reception. Behaviour and SEN take up a huge slice of her time as well and cause a mountain of paperwork that needs to be done to cover her backside if a parent complains.

Last year she had a reception child who could use an ipad but could not even hold a pencil let alone write with it. This year she could do with at least 2 extra full time teaching assistants to help with SEN children in her mix year 1/2 class of 30 + 2 extra who were held back last year from that reception class. All while teaching two different curriculum's because the government don't want to disadvantage those about to take SATS to children whose abilities range from reception EYFS stage to year 3. Did i mention she has never taught anything but reception before?

So having been told by the ofsted inspection earlier in the year she was outstanding we have still decided together she cant do this work load forever and as soon as she has our children its part time from then on or a different job.

I also have a friend who is doing his first year teaching in 6th form and he is struggling despite having multiple degree's and being from a highly educated hard working muslim family who all speak 4 or 5 languages he has also decided to change by going and teaching in the middle east in a year or two instead because of the paperwork killing the enjoyment of actually teaching engaging lessons.

The system is FUBAR!

As for the green lady nope nobody visits, she has a car i have seen her use once since May, spoken to her once and see seems with it enough, but no nobody other than the postie visits. She goes out to the mini co-op 2 mins walk away and back wearing her green jumper and thats it as far as i can tell.