Marriage break-up, how can I get him out of the house?

justme111

Trying_to_be_good wrote: »

I think he opportunity to move on, is the best love I can give him now.

Well said. Your relationship was never particularly healthy by how you describe it so it is likely you brought up not the best qualities in.him , we tend to fall into patterns of unhealthy behavior which elicits unhealthy behaviour in response making it a vicious circle. You must feel you have failed . It is nice to see the tone of the thread moving from "how can I get him out" to "how we can get out of it with minimal trouble". It is hard on both , he may deny it.till cows come home but he can not feel all is good when he is losing second woman , his house , place to see children etc. Men.are more vulnerable.to feeling.like a failure in.those circumstances. My advice would be third party discussing his moving out , not you. Kind of solicitors letter outlining the course of actions or mortgage company letter or whatever you can think of. It's great you can stay away from the house with work as it would been far harder to think clear while there.

missbiggles1

Trying_to_be_good wrote: »

Thank you. I have done all this negotiating bit. I'd hoped the house would sell as I don't want to live in it (is not near my work nor family) and he can't afford to live in it without me, so I'm now progressing buying him out. It looks like I need to either put up with it in the meantime, or rent myself somewhere else and hope he doesn't trash the place before I'm back with full legal title and he then moves out (and we both move on with the rest of our lives).

I had looked at him renting it from me, but he can't afford anywhere near the market rent.

Surely he wouldn't need to be paying full market rent on a house which he owns 50%?

Trying_to_be_good

I was talking about him renting AFTER a transfer of equity so he would own 0%, hence market rent.