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springdreams

Mumto2monkeys wrote: »

Can I ask the "elite" for some advice please?

For weeks now I've been battling with DD, regarding tidying up after herself. I'm fighting a loosing battle at the moment but mr monkey thinks I'm expecting too much... She's 8 but very intelligent way beyond her age. She's very well mannered, knows how to behave but this is driving me :mad:

She leaves empty wrappers around instead of carrying them to the bin, leaves her pj's on the floor instead of under the pillow, leaves her wardrobe or drawers open when she's got something out. Same with any cupboard downstairs. Finishes reading a book, leaves it on the floor not back on the shelf,
She has a shelf of teddies if she takes one off and some fall she leaves them... And don't get me started on loom bands :mad:

Do you think im asking too much expecting an 8 year old to do these things without being reminded?

I know in the "circle of life" these aren't major issues but it won't be long before little man starts to copy!!

Unfortunately my DS is 13 and still needs reminding that we don't have a magical cleaning fairy ... He does the same things are your 8 year old DD, barring the teddies and loom bands, but certainly does with other things

lawrie28

Mumto2monkeys wrote: »

Can I ask the "elite" for some advice please?

For weeks now I've been battling with DD, regarding tidying up after herself. I'm fighting a loosing battle at the moment but mr monkey thinks I'm expecting too much... She's 8 but very intelligent way beyond her age. She's very well mannered, knows how to behave but this is driving me :mad:

She leaves empty wrappers around instead of carrying them to the bin, leaves her pj's on the floor instead of under the pillow, leaves her wardrobe or drawers open when she's got something out. Same with any cupboard downstairs. Finishes reading a book, leaves it on the floor not back on the shelf,
She has a shelf of teddies if she takes one off and some fall she leaves them... And don't get me started on loom bands :mad:

Do you think im asking too much expecting an 8 year old to do these things without being reminded?

I know in the "circle of life" these aren't major issues but it won't be long before little man starts to copy!!

I am the messy parent in our house, and I have been told I am a bad example to the children. They copy what I do, and when I tell them to tidy up they dont listen as much as when DW tells them, simply cos I dont keep everything as tidy as DW.

So my question is do you have someone in your house who could be setting a bad example?

If not, then offer rewards for being tidy rather than punishment for being messy. Positive reinforcement is generally received better, and is better in the long run.

If that fails, stick them in the stocks and throw rotten tomatoes at them, it worked in the old days.

Sarahdol75

abailey54 wrote: »

Mango and chilli sauce doesn't go with cheese in a sandwich at all - logically I thought it would, but no

Think it might be Dr O for tea as I'm feeling lazy - has anyone else made the decision that they must stop buying pizza? I don't think I've had as many as some of you, but it must be creeping on for 30 now and there's only 2 of us...or do I just need to reorganise my freezer?!

That sandwich, sounds gross, sorry, no wonder it doesnt go.

I must admit, I have not bought a single Dr O pizza.

Mumto2monkeys wrote: »

Can I ask the "elite" for some advice please?

For weeks now I've been battling with DD, regarding tidying up after herself. I'm fighting a loosing battle at the moment but mr monkey thinks I'm expecting too much... She's 8 but very intelligent way beyond her age. She's very well mannered, knows how to behave but this is driving me :mad:

She leaves empty wrappers around instead of carrying them to the bin, leaves her pj's on the floor instead of under the pillow, leaves her wardrobe or drawers open when she's got something out. Same with any cupboard downstairs. Finishes reading a book, leaves it on the floor not back on the shelf,
She has a shelf of teddies if she takes one off and some fall she leaves them... And don't get me started on loom bands :mad:

Do you think im asking too much expecting an 8 year old to do these things without being reminded?

I know in the "circle of life" these aren't major issues but it won't be long before little man starts to copy!!

springdreams wrote: »

Unfortunately my DS is 13 and still needs reminding that we don't have a magical cleaning fairy ... He does the same things are your 8 year old DD, barring the teddies and loom bands, but certainly does with other things

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

They were the words I was just about to say, but I have an 11 and 14 year, whom I am constantly reminding.

littlebluebird

Mumto2monkeys wrote: »

Can I ask the "elite" for some advice please?

For weeks now I've been battling with DD, regarding tidying up after herself. I'm fighting a loosing battle at the moment but mr monkey thinks I'm expecting too much... She's 8 but very intelligent way beyond her age. She's very well mannered, knows how to behave but this is driving me :mad:

She leaves empty wrappers around instead of carrying them to the bin, leaves her pj's on the floor instead of under the pillow, leaves her wardrobe or drawers open when she's got something out. Same with any cupboard downstairs. Finishes reading a book, leaves it on the floor not back on the shelf,
She has a shelf of teddies if she takes one off and some fall she leaves them... And don't get me started on loom bands :mad:

Do you think im asking too much expecting an 8 year old to do these things without being reminded?

I know in the "circle of life" these aren't major issues but it won't be long before little man starts to copy!!

I have a similar struggle with mine but they are a little younger. They definitely know what to do as if I say 'where should your shoes be?' or when getting ready for school, 'what do you need to do now?' They can answer and it prompts them to go and do it. (Not always with a good attitude I hasten to add.)

I think it's a little unrealistic to expect her to do it without prompts as it depends on the child. Some are naturally tidy and bothered about such things, and others aren't. It doesn't mean she doesn't know what to do but isn't bothered enough to do it! I see it at school all the time.

Have you tried sticker charts? Asking 'what do you need to do now?' Instead of just telling her what to do. (In the hope that she'll stop needing you to do the thinking for her as she'll start thinking what should I do.)

It's all great in theory but I know how frustrating it is! You are right to teach her, not least because of future sibling problems but maybe if you can think of a more positive way than it becoming you nagging and her annoyed it would help. (And if you manage, can you come and show me coz I haven't mastered it yet either. :rotfl: )
Hth

Dormouse

Shopitize have annoyingly pulled the free 4-pack of Dairy Milk offer, it's now just the 200g bar

helen2k333

lawrie28 wrote: »

I am the messy parent in our house, and I have been told I am a bad example to the children. They copy what I do, and when I tell them to tidy up they dont listen as much as when DW tells them, simply cos I dont keep everything as tidy as DW.

So my question is do you have someone in your house who could be setting a bad example?

If not, then offer rewards for being tidy rather than punishment for being messy. Positive reinforcement is generally received better, and is better in the long run.

Totally agree, my DH is the messy one., leaving clothes on the floor and cupboards left open. I sometimes think he doesn't realise he's doing it!!!!

My girls are 9 and 4 and they are very messy, and I'm so used to tidying up after everyone I just go into auto-pilot.

Hands up if you can't wait until Morrison's match and more!!! :j:j:j

strewth71

littlebluebird wrote: »

There's 6 of us, but two are under 2. I'm managing to spend 50 ish a week. That doesn't include nappies but does include cat food for 3 cats.

I've done various things to reduce the budget and I think you have to play around to find what suits you.

The first thing I did though was make sure I recorded everything! It's amazing how the odd extra packet of sweets etc adds up. (Especially with my dh's sweet tooth!)

I make sure I cook from scratch where possible and freeze extra portions. I buy the long life stuff in bulk, so only when it's on offer. I have found that it's unrealistic to just stick to the cheap things as sometimes we used more because they're smaller or because they're cheap or they just didn't taste nice!

When you make your budget, stick to it. It's hard at first especially if you see a good offer, but if you overspend on a good offer each week then it will soon have you back up to spending silly amounts!

It's also a good idea to budget for treats or have a bit set by for takeaway or something. If you restrict yourself too much you just feel like it's miserable and not worth it. (At least, that's how we felt.)

I have found that I am often able to get about half my @ shop back in APGs so that helps with the following week. Not everything compares in a glitchy way but that extra 10% often means a little more can be squeezed out. And of course, coupons etc help. (Particularly if they let you overspend :money: )
Hth
LBB

Thanks LBB :A I realised after I'd posted that £45 of the T spend was for Fifa 15 and 3 months xbox gold live thingy - I used a £5 conditional spend for it and I bought some water filter bottles reduced from £10 to £2.50 each :T Taking that into account the bill is down to £140 with £59 apgs so not quite as bad as I thought. I managed to stock up on the Lynx deodorant for oh and some nice dove shower gel as well as pizza and pork mince for the money that I've spent.

I think you're right about recording what I spend, it has given me a wake up call and I think the elite will get me on the right path - when they are not leading me astray

2 under 2 :eek: I salute you for your organisational skills with your hands so full :T

mumtoo3

Mumto2monkeys wrote: »

Can I ask the "elite" for some advice please?

For weeks now I've been battling with DD, regarding tidying up after herself. I'm fighting a loosing battle at the moment but mr monkey thinks I'm expecting too much... She's 8 but very intelligent way beyond her age. She's very well mannered, knows how to behave but this is driving me :mad:

She leaves empty wrappers around instead of carrying them to the bin, leaves her pj's on the floor instead of under the pillow, leaves her wardrobe or drawers open when she's got something out. Same with any cupboard downstairs. Finishes reading a book, leaves it on the floor not back on the shelf,
She has a shelf of teddies if she takes one off and some fall she leaves them... And don't get me started on loom bands :mad:

Do you think im asking too much expecting an 8 year old to do these things without being reminded?

I know in the "circle of life" these aren't major issues but it won't be long before little man starts to copy!!

My DD1 is just the same. She is 11 and leaves stuff everywhere.
I have stopped tidying up after her and ask her when she gets in from school to remove the items from downstairs. Also once a week on a Sunday she has to put her clothes away and anything else on her bedroom floor. I give her a time limit and if the bedroom isn't tidy then I will go and get a black sack and tell her its all going in the bin. She has always tidied up with the threat of the black sack.
DD2 on the other hand who is 6 will tidy up after herself and even whinges about how untidy her sister is. So your DS might not copy your DD.
HTH

tweets

deb8z wrote: »

I don't think I ought to ask but how do knickers get holes in,I'm sure I've never had any get holes in before lol

Tweets how have you lost so much weight so quickly,I could do with losing a few pounds,I'm a size 10 now I used to be an 8 so I don't want to be 12 as I'm a short **** insert expletive!!! lol but my tummy is way too flabby,I eat too many sweets though,I have chocolate for Breakfast!!

Mine ladder lol think sometimes its Poppy jumping up and her claws also waist band sometimes goes

I am doing Slimming World healthy eating. Joined online for 3 months so I could get all the details . http://www.slimmingworld.com/

My subscription runs out on 10th October and I wont be rejoining will go it alone with the help of my other friends on this thread https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5050981

I weigh in myself on my digital scales 3pm every Thursday.

You have to be good and stick to the healthy eating or you wont lose I live on my own so find it quite easy :T

Munqui

I know there are a few on here not in the best of health, L1DL have a 'good health' event running from 9th Oct, for me the best offer is the nebuliser. (I cannot vouch for this particular model though)

http://www.lidl.co.uk/en/our-offers-2491.htm?id=398
Nebuliser £19.99
Blood pressure monitor £14.99
Fingertip pulse oximeter £19.99

Hope that helps someone.