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lulalola

*hugs* OP. Speaking from the perspective of the daughter, I left home to go to uni 10 years ago. I've never moved back or lived anywhere near my hometown since but I am still close to my Mum and Dad, speak to them several times a week by phone or Facebook, see them throughout the year and go home for Christmas. The dynamics of your relationship changes but it doesn't mean you drift apart. It will take some getting used to but it will all work out fine :-)

j.e.j.

suelizab wrote: »

For those that did not read the original post, it was not about the mum missing her child going off to uni BUT missing her daughter because she does all the work needed to keep the house going WHILST the mum is spending all HER time and all her ENERGY looking after a 3 year old . There was nothing in the post that said she cared about the older daughter or how proud she was of her. It was just sob, sob, me, me me

Nicki wrote: »

Did she?

Looking at the cached version of the thread, this is EXACTLY what the OP said:

"My partner works away and comes home at weekends. I work full time and have a toddler who takes up the rest of my time and energy. My heart is breaking as my other daughter is leaving on Saturday to go to uni. I am so proud of what she has achieved and I know she needs to live her life but we have such a strong bond as she helps me look after her sister, I just feel so sad that she is leaving......."

Not quite the same.

Good old Google-cache :beer:

There's some pretty unpleasant people on this board.

Ol_Jay

Nicki wrote: »

but we have such a strong bond as she helps me look after her sister, I just feel so sad that she is leaving......."

Not quite the same.

But,i think,easy to see how it could be read as going to miss the help rather than emotionally because of the shared three way bond thats developed.
Personally I think Sue misinterpreted

Tropez

Ol_Jay wrote: »

But,i think,easy to see how it could be read as going to miss the help rather than emotionally because of the shared three way bond thats developed.
Personally I think Sue misinterpreted

Thing is Sue said that there was "nothing in the post that said she cared about the daughter or how proud she was" which evidently simply is not true. The OP did say how proud she was of her daughter.

CH27

suelizab wrote: »

For those that did not read the original post, it was not about the mum missing her child going off to uni BUT missing her daughter because she does all the work needed to keep the house going WHILST the mum is spending all HER time and all her ENERGY looking after a 3 year old . There was nothing in the post that said she cared about the older daughter or how proud she was of her. It was just sob, sob, me, me me

Nicki wrote: »

Did she?

Looking at the cached version of the thread, this is EXACTLY what the OP said:

"My partner works away and comes home at weekends. I work full time and have a toddler who takes up the rest of my time and energy. My heart is breaking as my other daughter is leaving on Saturday to go to uni. I am so proud of what she has achieved and I know she needs to live her life but we have such a strong bond as she helps me look after her sister, I just feel so sad that she is leaving......."

Not quite the same.

Very unpleasant of Sue to misquote the OP to suit her own ends.

jaylee3

Ol_Jay wrote: »

But,i think,easy to see how it could be read as going to miss the help rather than emotionally because of the shared three way bond thats developed.

Personally I think Sue misinterpreted

LOL, no she didn't! :rotfl: She was annoyed that people were having a go at her for being harsh with the OP, and driving her away from the board, so she thought she would fabricate a story to justify herself. She did not 'misinterpret' anything!

I have noticed that Suelizab hasn't been back to this thread since my post on page 1 (post 20) calling her out on fabricating the OP's first post. I wonder why???

Nicki wrote: »

Looking at the cached version of the thread, this is EXACTLY what the OP said:

"My partner works away and comes home at weekends. I work full time and have a toddler who takes up the rest of my time and energy. My heart is breaking as my other daughter is leaving on Saturday to go to uni. I am so proud of what she has achieved and I know she needs to live her life but we have such a strong bond as she helps me look after her sister, I just feel so sad that she is leaving......." Not quite the same.

Thanks so much for this!!!

Yes that was it. That is what the OP said.

I wish she would come back, so she can see how much support she has.

Ol_Jay

Ol_Jay wrote: »

Personally I think Sue misinterpreted

jaylee3 wrote: »

LOL, no she didn't! :rotfl: She was annoyed that people were having a go at her for being harsh with the OP, and driving her away from the board, so she thought she would fabricate a story to justify herself. She did not 'misinterpret' anything!

Tropez wrote: »

Thing is Sue said that there was "nothing in the post that said she cared about the daughter or how proud she was" which evidently simply is not true. The OP did say how proud she was of her daughter.

Ok,noted and apologies.

I stand corrected,though I think things changed as the thread developed.

jaylee3 wrote: »

I have noticed that Suelizab hasn't been back to this thread since my post on page 1 (post 20) calling her out on fabricating the OP's first post. I wonder why???

Very true and good point

Ol_Jay

jaylee3 wrote: »

Thanks so much for this!!!

Yes that was it. That is what the OP said.

I wish she would come back, so she can see how much support she has.

Agree FWIW.
I felt at the time the OP should of stayed and I agreed with Purple Shoes post,as I normally do. :beer:

j.e.j.

jaylee3 wrote: »

I wish she would come back, so she can see how much support she has.

I think that while some of the respondants were being unpleasant, it's nothing compared to a lot of the threads/posters on this board. Any newbie (or AE) posting here needs a rhinocerus-thick skin. Cyberbullying seems rife on here at the moment.

Former_MSE_Andrea

Hi all

We absolutely don't tolerate bullying. If you feel someone has posted inappropriately anywhere on the Forum please use the report button.

Thanks!

Andrea