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purpleshoes_2

suelizab wrote: »

lots of ppl have and are feeling rotten cos their kids are off to uni and often, when they have completed their 3 years, move in with friends and don't live at home again. Lots of single mums n dads are now on their own looking at the four walls in silence . but we move on. the kids visit, bring their dirty washing back, ask for money. they become more our friends . But they r still alive, u r still gonna see them again.

Funny how both your posts mentioned her daughter going to uni now you are saying the original post was about her being upset about her daughter not being around to help around the house.

It's clear from your responses horrible as they were what the original issue was.

You are just pot stirring to justify your own comments.

jaylee3

purpleshoes wrote: »

Rubbish. She did say she cared for her and her heart was breaking at the thought of her leaving. She said her partner worked away and the older daughter helped a lot with her sister but that was it.

Nothing about her doing the work to keep the house going.

Don't justify your comments by making up stuff that wasn't said.

I too saw the original post and you are talking complete cobblers.

purpleshoes wrote: »

Funny how both your posts mentioned her daughter going to uni now you are saying the original post was about her being upset about her daughter not being around to help around the house.

It's clear from your responses horrible as they were what the original issue was.

You are just pot stirring to justify your own comments.

:T:T Thank you PS for proving what I said is right. EXACTLY what I said! What Suelizab said the OP said, is simply not true. Like you, I believe she is miffed that people are having a go at her, so she has fabricated stuff to make the OP sound bad, to take the heat off her.

Tropez

suelizab wrote: »

For those that did not read the original post, it was not about the mum missing her child going off to uni BUT missing her daughter because she does all the work needed to keep the house going WHILST the mum is spending all HER time and all her ENERGY looking after a 3 year old . There was nothing in the post that said she cared about the older daughter or how proud she was of her. It was just sob, sob, me, me me

I saw the original post before it was deleted. I didn't comment because I had nothing to add.

However, I can add something regarding the content of this post. It is bull excrement. That wasn't what the OP said at all.

gettingtheresometime

I must be weird then because when our son went to Uni I wasn't upset at all and in fact we left him in the halls trying to figure out how to wire up the wireless printer that we'd got him.

Very quickly the new norm is him not being here and I do find it odd when he returns.

Doesn't mean I don't love him; he knows we will always be here for him but that doesn't mean my life has lost purpose just because I don't have a child in it on a day to day basis

purpleshoes_2

The OP was very upset. And maybe if the thread had stayed some people might have said she was getting things a bit out of proportion.

But to be told that you shouldn't be upset because other parents have lost kids. Wow.

Someone gets chased off the forum and then lied about to make it look like they were only upset because they were losing someone who helped around the house.

Unbelievable. It's like jackanory on here just now.

jaylee3

purpleshoes wrote: »

The OP was very upset. And maybe if the thread had stayed some people might have said she was getting things a bit out of proportion.

But to be told that you shouldn't be upset because other parents have lost kids. Wow.

Someone gets chased off the forum and then lied about to make it look like they were only upset because they were losing someone who helped around the house.

Unbelievable. It's like jackanory on here just now.

I know!!! As january20 so eloquently put it, it's horrid how some people try and make peoples worries and upset meaningless, because THEY see them as 'silly' and 'trivial.'

If something is upsetting someone, then it is NOT trivial!

CH27

suelizab wrote: »

For those that did not read the original post, it was not about the mum missing her child going off to uni BUT missing her daughter because she does all the work needed to keep the house going WHILST the mum is spending all HER time and all her ENERGY looking after a 3 year old . There was nothing in the post that said she cared about the older daughter or how proud she was of her. It was just sob, sob, me, me me

You are showing yourself to be very unpleasant.:(

Lily-Rose_3

Well I was upset when MY daughter went to uni first of all, although we are fine with it now.

As someone said earlier, it seems strange when she does come back now, as we don't class her as living here now. (She doesn't either.) And it is refreshing to not have to keep giving her lifts everywhere, and running around after her.

Why did the OP not come back?

Or is it that the username was an AE because she was too shy to use her real name?

Shame she has felt driven from the board. Some people are just plain rude.

tesuhoha

My daughter comes and goes all the time. She's 28 and about to go off again so I feel sad. Sometimes she lives at home, sometimes not as she is not really settled in life. You always miss your kids when they go away no matter how old.

Nicki

suelizab wrote: »

For those that did not read the original post, it was not about the mum missing her child going off to uni BUT missing her daughter because she does all the work needed to keep the house going WHILST the mum is spending all HER time and all her ENERGY looking after a 3 year old . There was nothing in the post that said she cared about the older daughter or how proud she was of her. It was just sob, sob, me, me me

Did she?

Looking at the cached version of the thread, this is EXACTLY what the OP said:

"My partner works away and comes home at weekends. I work full time and have a toddler who takes up the rest of my time and energy. My heart is breaking as my other daughter is leaving on Saturday to go to uni. I am so proud of what she has achieved and I know she needs to live her life but we have such a strong bond as she helps me look after her sister, I just feel so sad that she is leaving......."

Not quite the same.