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Would you go on holiday without your children

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  • FBaby
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    I don't think there's anything wrong in doing it but personally I agree with Moomoomama and I want to share all my holidays with the kids while they still want to come with us!

    Why would they suddenly not want to come with you?
  • jackieblack
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    FBaby wrote: »
    Why would they suddenly not want to come with you?

    According to DD:
    • Too much school/college work
    • Don't want to leave boyfriend for 2 weeks
    • Too uncool to go with parents
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  • Our son would still be happy to come with us and he's nearly 35! (He'd obviously bring his partner too).
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  • jackieblack
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    Yes, I think it's a phase they go through while establishing their independence.
    I was the same, there were a few years late teens/early 20s when I didn't want to go on holiday with my parents.
    Once i'd established myself as an independent adult, was married and had DD, was happy to holiday with parents again and did so many times when DD was younger.
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  • missbiggles1
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    It would depend on the holiday. If it were a beach holiday or something that a child would LOVE then I'd feel terrible about it, and really miss mine.

    I think as a couple you can spend quality time without having to go on holiday and exclude your children from the experience!

    As a parent I wuldn't want to go on a guide camp, but I would be upset they were going away, as I always have been when any of my three go on a school residential.

    Now that strikes me as really unhealthy!
  • Kayalana99
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    Not sure if this had been said, but I know an old friends kid went away for 5 days for a holiday with other kids the similar age ? (It was business done not just a group of friends)

    It might be worth an idea that she could have her holiday and you could have yours? (I.e like PGL? Although that might just be for schools lol!)

    You wouldn't feel as guilty as she'd be on her own most likely more exciting holiday.
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  • CH27
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    It would depend on the holiday. If it were a beach holiday or something that a child would LOVE then I'd feel terrible about it, and really miss mine.

    I think as a couple you can spend quality time without having to go on holiday and exclude your children from the experience!

    As a parent I wuldn't want to go on a guide camp, but I would be upset they were going away, as I always have been when any of my three go on a school residential.

    Really?
    What will you be like when they go to uni or go travelling?
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  • missbiggles1
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    Kayalana99 wrote: »
    Not sure if this had been said, but I know an old friends kid went away for 5 days for a holiday with other kids the similar age ? (It was business done not just a group of friends)

    It might be worth an idea that she could have her holiday and you could have yours? (I.e like PGL? Although that might just be for schools lol!)

    You wouldn't feel as guilty as she'd be on her own most likely more exciting holiday.

    The school trip side is only a small part of what PGL offer. They have adventure holidays for kids between 7 and 17 as well as holidays for families. http://www.pgl.co.uk/

    (No business links, just a parent who found their holidays a lifesaver.:o)
  • CH27 wrote: »
    Really?
    What will you be like when they go to uni or go travelling?

    Upset, as in a little tearful when they have left, don't try and paint me as some bubble wrapping parent who wails at the school gates LMAO! I just don't like it when they are not with me, but have never restricted what they do, and I keep my tears and anxieties to myself, or share with my husband out of their earshot!

    They have been on many camps, residentials and foreign trips with school I've not ever given them anxieties about how I would feel. Having a 17 year old who is already talking about uni, I encourage her all the way, I would not stop her, but it's ok to miss your child!!
  • Now that strikes me as really unhealthy!

    Why?

    Is it now not ok to miss your children when they go away on school trips?!!
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