Facebook and holidays

Pleut

The neighbours must have been mortified when they realised!

GBNI

I would be annoyed, yes. What people are forgetting is that even if your page is locked down as privately as possible, friends that have tagged you may not be and ANYONE can view their page. So all this about 'my friends wouldn't burgle me' etc etc is not the point. It's who can potentially view the pages.

wishus

I have my general settings on FB as friends only, so only a few posts go public. All posts in which friends tag me have to be approved by me before they appear in my timeline or photo albums. And then all those photos in which one of my eyes has gone skew-whiff and my face and neck have melded I can remove the tag with my name so they are even harder to find by anyone.

But then, I'm reasonably tech-savvy.

OH isn't... we had a slight issue when we went to see friends recently and they tagged him in photos with their children as we were out and about. It was on his day off, following a day he had been off sick (just asthma - nothing contagious - and he was just sitting down). Harmless enough, but his employers check his page and pass comment even if he's done nothing wrong. Sounds weird, I know, but he is looking for something else... Anyway, he hasn't touched FB in years himself and keeps forgetting his password.

We did ask the friends not to tag him, but they just forgot... I just sent them a message and they removed the tags. It was fine.:)

pickledonionspaceraider

I think if you change your settings so folk can't tag you without your approval, it will be sorted for future. It was insensitive of your friend though, but

DKLS

Pleut wrote: »

The neighbours must have been mortified when they realised!

They were, especially as the neighbour had also given the removal men tea and biscuits as "they were working so hard" yet couldn't give a description of them to the police.

SandC

I'm more disturbed recently how many people are letting their children have FB accounts - someone I know has allowed their 8 year old on! Also slightly older kids of 11/12, girls usually with provocative poses but still looking like little girls dressed up on there.

But hey ho, none of my business I guess.

I still don't think there's much danger of inviting burglaries unless you've made things so public that it's obvious to criminals where you live as well as when you are away - but then again all you need is a photo of someone's house and maybe their car when they had it for someone to suss it out.

Anatidaephobia

GBNI wrote: »

I would be annoyed, yes. What people are forgetting is that even if your page is locked down as privately as possible, friends that have tagged you may not be and ANYONE can view their page. So all this about 'my friends wouldn't burgle me' etc etc is not the point. It's who can potentially view the pages.

Exactly. Things have shown up in my newsfeed saying X has been tagged in Spain with Z. Then I click on X's page to see some more photos of the holiday in Spain and there's nothing at all. So X obviously hasn't yet approved the status and allowed it to be added to his timeline but I can still see it on my newsfeed because Z's updates can be viewed by "friends of friends" or are maybe even public.

Yorkie1

pinkshoes wrote: »

^^^ this!

There's a setting that prevents other peoples tagged photos appearing on your own page until you approve them, so I'd say it was just as much you at fault as well as her, given you could have easily prevented it.

GBNI wrote: »

I would be annoyed, yes. What people are forgetting is that even if your page is locked down as privately as possible, friends that have tagged you may not be and ANYONE can view their page. So all this about 'my friends wouldn't burgle me' etc etc is not the point. It's who can potentially view the pages.

This was going to be my point. The permissions on your own account don't prevent others seeing the tags on the other person's account.

I wouldn't go ballistic but I would ask the friend why they'd done it when asked not to.

gettingtheresometime

I personally hate holiday snaps on facebook anyway (yes I know that sounds very bar humbug) but to have a blow by blow account of someone's holiday as it happens is just as bad as having to make suitable cooing noises when they show you the slideshow when you get home!

As for allowing tagging, does that stop the picture being posted on the friend's timeline? Its all well and good stopping your friends from seeing the picture but what about their friends?

moomoomama27

I would be very unhappy, I suffer from anxiety, and get especially stressed with the thought of harm coming to my home. So I would really find this situation difficult.

I have set my account up with the highest security settings, and do not allow any tagging or posts to my timeline without first having to approve it.

That said pictures of me not tagged but added to anothers account would reveal I wasn't home/my whereabouts to people other than my friends, so the above would be redundant.

As for children having facebook accounts, the lower age of 13 is there for a reason. Parents allowing childen under that age are irresponsible, and are teaching their child to disregard rules, there is no valid reason at all for a child to have an account.