Friend's attitude has hurt me

Gigervamp

ScarletMarble wrote: »

Me and my friend have been on good terms but I just don't know what is going on with her and why she has gone all rude

A good friend would show concern and ask her if she's ok.

System

BrassicWoman wrote: »

Ignoring me twice in two days would do it for me

If you had someone you know that came up to you in a rude manner and spoke like that, what are you supposed to say/do without taking too much time as was in a rush both times?

Sunday, I have just half an hour lunch. I needed to use the cash machine as the place I always buy my lunch, their chip n pin machine was down and didn't have enough cash on me. She crept on me and had no time to speak to her as needed the time to eat my dinner.

WeAreGhosts

^ the above just makes me think an autistic spectrum disorder. when you live with it all the time, one tends to have an ASD radar

pink_princess

ScarletMarble wrote: »

There are two posts about me which are both lies. First was I hated everyone and everything.

ScarletMarble wrote: »

Home - love it
Street - overall love it but one household annoys me

The town

I like it here but one thing spoils it is the large estate of council housing full of families of 3+ kids and hardly any of the parents work.

They are rude, no idea how to control their kids, swear in front of their kids etc. Obviously these kids are not going to be motivated to do well at school and they will be doing the same in 15-20 years time to their own kids.

The city - nicer shops but more of those people above ruin it.

ScarletMarble wrote: »

I have a few family friends that have medical problems and never talk about anything else but this and the things the cannot do because of their disease or condition they have.

They sound like a broken record.

But others accept their situation and get on with their lives as best they can.

I can't be bothered to find the rest but I think these two posts show my point and case.

shegirl

ScarletMarble wrote: »

If you had someone you know that came up to you in a rude manner and spoke like that, what are you supposed to say/do without taking too much time as was in a rush both times?

Sunday, I have just half an hour lunch. I needed to use the cash machine as the place I always buy my lunch, their chip n pin machine was down and didn't have enough cash on me. She crept on me and had no time to speak to her as needed the time to eat my dinner.

Wow, you're really boring....






(making a point here)

balletshoes

ScarletMarble wrote: »

If you had someone you know that came up to you in a rude manner and spoke like that, what are you supposed to say/do without taking too much time as was in a rush both times?

Sunday, I have just half an hour lunch. I needed to use the cash machine as the place I always buy my lunch, their chip n pin machine was down and didn't have enough cash on me. She crept on me and had no time to speak to her as needed the time to eat my dinner.

do you hear yourself? do you not see how extremely self-centered you sound, if thats how you felt about the encounter today? You could have sorted it out in about a minute by acknowledging her, asking if she'd be in later, and that you'd call her then. And then calling when you said you would. Now its gone on and on and its snowballed, and its going to continue to do so, unless you make the effort to discuss it, civilly, with your friend. Or don't, and lose the friendship (it doesn't sound like its doing either of you much good to be friend to be honest, you biatch about her, you think she biatches about you).

System

Gigervamp wrote: »

A good friend would show concern and ask her if she's ok.

If have read my posts,I have been trying to ring her during times I have contacted her in the past. She does not have caller id her phones. So when the phone rings, it could be anyone. Does not communicate in other methods - text, email etc.

If I was able to speak to her normally, I would not had to encounter her rudeness twice in two days.

My friend thinks the lack of communication from me equals problems. It does not!

System

balletshoes wrote: »

do you hear yourself? do you not see how extremely self-centered you sound, if thats how you felt about the encounter today? You could have sorted it out in about a minute by acknowledging her, asking if she'd be in later, and that you'd call her then. And then calling when you said you would. Now its gone on and on and its snowballed, and its going to continue to do so, unless you make the effort to discuss it, civilly, with your friend. Or don't, and lose the friendship (it doesn't sound like its doing either of you much good to be friend to be honest, you biatch about her, you think she biatches about you).

There is no such thing as a one minute conversation with her - the shortest is 10! She has ignored me iabout 2 years ago by lying saying she will be late for the bus! I knew she was lying as I know the times of the 3 an hour bus.

shegirl

ScarletMarble wrote: »

There is no such thing as a one minute conversation with her - the shortest is 10! She has ignored me iabout 2 years ago by lying saying she will be late for the bus! I knew she was lying as I know the times of the 3 an hour bus.

Oh for heavens sake, is there anything you don't want to moan about? Poor woman, does she breath in a manner you find acceptable?

balletshoes

ScarletMarble wrote: »

There is no such thing as a one minute conversation with her - the shortest is 10! She has ignored me iabout 2 years ago by lying saying she will be late for the bus! I knew she was lying as I know the times of the 3 an hour bus.

she didn't ignore you though - she spoke to you! you apparently completely ignored her - twice.