No Buying Unnecessary Toiletries September 2014

InaPickle

mcculloch29 wrote: »

I have sort of graduated but think I will leave the official decision for another month or two as I don't want to say goodbye just yet.

Plus this is Pickles' time! Congratulations on getting it all under control. :money:

Thanks, but please don't think that you can't graduate: imagine how motivated people would be if *two* people managed to graduate in one month! (Might be a bit late now as we are technically in October!) Also, I'm hanging around...I quite literally cannot afford a relapse!

mcculloch29 wrote: »

I have a little bit of spare cash at the moment, but I no longer need to buy toiletries or to try the latest scent, variant, whatever. I like what I'm using at the moment and when those items are UU'd I know what I will buy to replace them.

That's what I'm like now. The quest for the Holy Grail products certainly focuses the mind, doesn't it?!

mcculloch29 wrote: »

I managed to get my eating of treat foods well under control too and have been losing a few pounds each month since April. I couldn't weigh myself at my heaviest, I just didn't want to know, but I suspect I am now at least 30lbs lighter. I was size 18/20, now it's 16/18. Arthritis hurts a bit less as a result.

Alas, that's the final part of decluttering I need to do: somehow I think it may be more difficult!

mcculloch29 wrote: »

I think it's all related - the calorific foods and excess toiletries, I would feel that I deserved a little treat and in the trolley would go a shower gel in a scent I fancied, a conditioner that was on offer or a bar of chocolate.

I think this is true and would be true for many other people, too. It's an emotional response to external pressures/stresses...the idea that a treat has been earned or is deserved because X or Y has happened or is happening. It's attaching emotions to circumstances that should be emotionless, or nearly emotionless. I don't think it was as true for me as I bought lots of things when they were on offer and liked to keep 'stocked up' as my mum does (inherited behaviour) but I realised that the stock levels were far too much even as an emergency stash and that I have to look at what is appropriate in my life for me and my circumstances, not anyone else's. When I look back, I spent quite a while at the beginning of the stash using up my mum's things that she had bought and had not finished that I saw in the bathroom (I was living at home then) and thought 'Cor, that's been there for ages...I bet that's going to go off soon and it must have cost quite a lot. What a pity!' My mum's behaviour hasn't changed much in this regard, but mine has evolved light years! *Puffs out chest proudly*


This is probably one of the most insightful posts I have ever posted and now that we are in October I bet next to nobody will see it! :rotfl:

rogueylawyer

InaPickle wrote: »

I think this is true and would be true for many other people, too. It's an emotional response to external pressures/stresses...the idea that a treat has been earned or is deserved because X or Y has happened or is happening. It's attaching emotions to circumstances that should be emotionless, or nearly emotionless. I don't think it was as true for me as I bought lots of things when they were on offer and liked to keep 'stocked up' as my mum does (inherited behaviour) but I realised that the stock levels were far too much even as an emergency stash and that I have to look at what is appropriate in my life for me and my circumstances, not anyone else's. When I look back, I spent quite a while at the beginning of the stash using up my mum's things that she had bought and had not finished that I saw in the bathroom (I was living at home then) and thought 'Cor, that's been there for ages...I bet that's going to go off soon and it must have cost quite a lot. What a pity!' My mum's behaviour hasn't changed much in this regard, but mine has evolved light years! *Puffs out chest proudly*


This is probably one of the most insightful posts I have ever posted and now that we are in October I bet next to nobody will see it! :rotfl:

I saw it and wholeheartedly agree! My mum is, for want of a better word, a hoarder. She doesn't collect thinggs so much as just keep buying and never throw out the old. I've inherited a lot of disordered thinking from her and this is one of them. Panic of never having enough, fear of the lean days, the need for a 'treat' despite the finances saying otherwise, compulsive spending, the need for more regardless of how much is already there. It's one of the (many) things I'm working through!

maddiemay

Hi Pickle. And and Roquey

I am around and have read too, most insightful posts.

I think that the reasons for my overstocks are complex too, loving a bargain, a treat as a reward or a consolation, a fear of not having enough, thinking I gave found a HG and not wanting to run out all have figured at some point:(

The slightly obsessive trait that I have also has manifested itself in a more than ample stock of knitting yarns and beads and jewelery making paraphernalia (pity you don't live nearer Roquey:D), both squirreled away when I was working as I knew that I wouldn't have as much available income when I retired, the trouble is that I have moved to a house with a large garden that I love and takes my time and also spend any spare time on the internet and reading:eek:
See you all on October thread.

Oh, and most importantly, AND, please do not leave us completely, we would miss you greatly:D

seasideDreamer

Ooh I see so myself in all these posts! My parents were and still are awful horders:eek: My bro and I seem to have been cured but my younger sis and bro hoard, my sis literally has so much hoarded it fills a house and more. I do tend to stock pile things too much but we don't have much space for that and I get stressed with stuff everywhere, lucky for me I think or I might be as bad:)

mcculloch29

maddiemay wrote: »

Hi Pickle. And and Roquey

I am around and have read too, most insightful posts.

I think that the reasons for my overstocks are complex too, loving a bargain, a treat as a reward or a consolation, a fear of not having enough, thinking I gave found a HG and not wanting to run out all have figured at some point:(

The slightly obsessive trait that I have also has manifested itself in a more than ample stock of knitting yarns and beads and jewelery making paraphernalia (pity you don't live nearer Roquey:D), both squirreled away when I was working as I knew that I wouldn't have as much available income when I retired, the trouble is that I have moved to a house with a large garden that I love and takes my time and also spend any spare time on the internet and reading:eek:
See you all on October thread.

Oh, and most importantly, AND, please do not leave us completely, we would miss you greatly:D

Thank you. Off to October I go.