moving in with girlfriend

GirlFromMars_2

missbiggles1 wrote: »

That's another thing I don't understand - how can living off money earned by a partner be losing your independence but living off state benefits (which quite rightly you receive as a disabled person) counts as independence?

(Shakes head and walks off muttering.)

Wow, judgy much!

You know what PIP stands for right?

And as I stated I am currently single, and at the moment simply cannot imagine a relationship where I would be happy living with someone let alone living off someone. Maybe that has to do with my self esteem issues in relation to my disability, but I can tell you that at the moment I am reliant on the safety net that the government rightly provides to those in my position, and I cannot see being able to give that up any time soon.

nannytone_2

independance is only partially financial.
it may be benefit but it is upto the claimant how its spent.
if you are a non earner 'dependant' on another person, then you can find yourself strugglibng to be able to make any choices/decisions for yourself.

Nada666

New_User wrote: »

By complicated I mean: HMRC, Council Tax, benefits dept, insurance, etc, etc.
But I guess that's just life!

But taxes, Council Tax and insurance are more complicated with a lodger than with a partner.

OldMotherTucker

BJV wrote: »

I would be devastated if my children made being debt free a condition of looking for a prospective partner. £30k over a life time ? Nothing!

When you haven't earned £30k yet, it's a small fortune!

His £30k uni debt influenced her decision NOT to go to Uni herself which would have doubled the debt.

missbiggles1

OldMotherTucker wrote: »

When you haven't earned £30k yet, it's a small fortune!

His £30k uni debt influenced her decision NOT to go to Uni herself which would have doubled the debt.

I'm afraid I think this shows a lack of understanding of the system and poor prioritising.

I'm both surprised and saddened.

fufu_banterwaite

dave4545454 wrote: »

I live in my own home that I've paid off but would never dream of having a girlfriend or partner live here as I find it morally and financially wrong. And I love having my own space too

And you paid it off despite never having a paid job!! Yes take a leaf from Dave's book the man who paid his mortgage off on benefits and spends £4 a week on food. That is of course if he is telling the truth

OldMotherTucker

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I'm afraid I think this shows a lack of understanding of the system and poor prioritising.

I'm both surprised and saddened.

Aww shame! Each to their own though;)

OldMotherTucker

nannytone wrote: »

finances shouldnt play such a big part in whether people decide to live together or not. but the hard truth is that some see their incomes drop by such a large amount that they will not manage.
you are in the fortunaye position of being in work.
if you were disabled and unable to work you would be living solely on your OH wage.
on top of that the disabled person would lose a large amount because they no longer live alone.

it isnt always as cut a dried as you think.

Thank you nannytone.

dave4545454

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

And you paid it off despite never having a paid job!! Yes take a leaf from Dave's book the man who paid his mortgage off on benefits and spends £4 a week on food. That is of course if he is telling the truth

At least I have a job unlike the unemployable fufu troll woman

Torry_Quine

dave4545454 wrote: »

2 wages and 2 homes would mean more benefits than living together so it makes perfect financial sense to live apart.

All the couples I know live in different houses, well apart from my Mum and Dad but they are married so they are not living in sin!

I live in my own home that I've paid off but would never dream of having a girlfriend or partner live here as I find it morally and financially wrong. And I love having my own space too

I don't see how you can call yourselves a couple and not share a home, it makes no sense to me. How can it be morally wrong, unless you are saying that you would only live with someone if married.

It's very sad that people live apart to make the most of the benefit system.:(