My inner domestic goddess

jojo1974

The closest family I have are over an hour away and haven't made any friends yet. We never had the time. Just goes to show that the dream can so easily turn into a nightmare. Thank you all for the kind replies

Gigervamp

jojo1974 wrote: »

The closest family I have are over an hour away and haven't made any friends yet. We never had the time. Just goes to show that the dream can so easily turn into a nightmare. Thank you all for the kind replies

If you need someone to talk to, there's usually someone around on here, whatever time of day/night. Or you can ring the Samaritans or Cruse.

Don't forget to eat.

Goldiegirl

Hi, I'm really sorry to read your sad news.


Perhaps I could point you in the direction of this thread


https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5185428


It's in the Over 50's section of the board, but that doesn't matter, it's a group of people who have lost their partners.


They seem like a lovely group of people, and they are very supportive. If you post there, you'll get replies from people who know exactly how you must be feeling right now


My very best wishes to you

lessonlearned

Jojo. So so sorry to hear your sad news.

I sometimes post on the "widows thread" I am a widow myself. I can thoroughly recommend that thread, everyone is so supportive and helpful and lots of practical advice too.

Take case of yourself, go gently and at your pace.

Hugs. X

VfM4meplse

jojo1974 wrote: »

However my new lifestyle took a tragic turn in December and my husband suddenly and devastatingly passed away.

I'm glad he got a short time to enjoy our new lifestyle but equally devastated he never got to fully embrace it.

I was wonderng how you were getting on...what a shocker! You have my sympathies. Try to see the last years as a gift, presumably you were able to spend a lot of time together?

Its only been a few weeks, probably too early to make any firm plans for the future but remember you still have a life ahead of you, even if it doesn't feel that way at the moment. I'm guessing that the rural life must be lonely and you might be thinking about returning to a city or back to work at some point? London can be a lonely place too, but at least there are distractions.

jojo1974

Thank you all. I am trying to be as practical as I can and I will certainly look into the widow thread. I've also joined a group for young widows that does help a little.

Unfortunately moving back to London isn't a financial option so I will have to stay here, but I'm surrounded by so many happy memories that it makes it easier.

We spent an amazing amount of time together and had the most wonderful summer sorting the garden, one day I hope to be able to look at the garden and remember those happy days but at the moment the memories are too hard.

Thanks again for the support

bossymoo

Very sorry to hear the sad news, jojo - I too am a 40yr old widow. It sucks.
I see you've found a support group - that's great, it really helps to hear from others who "get it". I joined WAY which has been a godsend.

Many hugs to you xxx

jojo1974

Hi bossymoo. I've also joined 'WAY' which has been one of the only good things I've managed to do

tired_mum

I have just read this thread not realising it was over 1 year old and was going to follow it as it sounded like you were both going to have an idyllic time together. I then read your post regarding your beloved silver fox and it made me shed a tear at how cruel life can be but when i thought about what you had written i realised how blessed you had been for that year and how he had set you up to be not just a domestic godess but one in the garden as well I am sure that when you are sitting in your garden in the sun you will smile and remember the fun times you both had together x

lillibet_dripping

Oh my goodness! Didn't want to read and run.
I'm so sorry for your loss. At some point in the future, you will be able to feel so thankful for the short time you had together there. Much better, I believe, than still being in London and thinking 'if only....'.
I hope the days ahead are kind to you and time works its healing magic.
Nature, too, is a great healer - the birth of new lambs, daffodils blooming, the dawn chorus. All of these, subconsciously, will heal.....