cheeky to ask guests to pay?

SailorSam

You can have a lot of pressure put on you to go.
I paid almost £1k to go to a nieces wedding, i kept saying i didn't want to go but 'cos we're only a small family she wanted people there.
But it doesn't even have to be a wedding abroad one in this Country may cost a couple of hundred to go to if you have to travel and stay somewhere.

notanewuser

SailorSam wrote: »

You can have a lot of pressure put on you to go.
I paid almost £1k to go to a nieces wedding, i kept saying i didn't want to go but 'cos we're only a small family she wanted people there.
But it doesn't even have to be a wedding abroad one in this Country may cost a couple of hundred to go to if you have to travel and stay somewhere.

Yes. With no family anywhere near us every wedding costs a fortune. But we don't feel we have to go, and didn't compel people to come to ours either!

One of DH's brothers wants to marry abroad "at some point". We won't attend if it isn't convenient, and they're aware that they're limiting numbers as some family won't want/be up to travelling.

SparksAlive

Do you actually want these people at your wedding?

If not, then don't tell them they can come so long as they pay, just tell them unfortunately there's no more room at the venue.

If you do, then it's up to you to foot the cost.

lika_86

I think my response would be that I was sorry but the package I'd booked only allows for a certain number of day guests but that if someone pulls out that I would let them know as I would love for them to attend if possible (they don't need to know that the venue could accommodate more but at a cost).

74jax

Hev_smev wrote: »

asking people to pay their place was in fact my dad's idea after a friend asked to bring her new chap as a plus one, they have been together a few weeks.

Thing is I wouldnt take half these couple out for dinner let alone pay £220 per couple!
the evening do, the buffett is £25 per person!

So why are you having them come?

I invited some cousins and not others, the ones I didn't invite I hardly spoke to so why one earth would I invite them..... I worked in an office of 4 people, I invited 3 and not the forth as we only spoke at work and didn't see each other outside of work, it's YOUR wedding day, you invite the people closest too you - not those who (I can't actually believe they would....) invite themselves.

You just say no sorry, it's for those I want to invite.

I'm absolutely astounded you would invite people who ask, even if they pay for themselves.

74jax

SailorSam wrote: »

What then would you say to a couple who invited you to their wedding which meant it was going to cost you a week in the Maldives or Florida, aren't they even more rude expecting their guests to pay out thousands.

A bridge and groom invite a couple to a wedding in the Maldives/Florida. If you have the money and want to go you go, or if you don't, then you say no?? It's an invite not an order? How on earth is inviting someone to something to be taken as cheeky?

If you haven't been invited to somewhere and then invite YOURSELF then blooming nora that takes the absolute biscuit.

CH27

Hev_smev wrote: »

So we are getting married in March 2015 and got ourselves a rather goo deal. 65 adult guest are included in our price.
teenages and children are on top.

slowly but surely we are getting old aunts or friend who want to come to the day , which is lovely but each additional guest over our booked once cost £110 per person!!:eek:

So i have started saying to people if you want to come that is lovely but you will have to pay your place!

Am I turning into a bridezilla?:(:mad:

:eek::eek:
That is so rude!

Invite who you want & pay for them yourself.

Mojisola

Hev_smev wrote: »

each additional guest over our booked once cost £110 per person!!:eek:

So i have started saying to people if you want to come that is lovely but you will have to pay your place!

Have any of them agreed to pay?

At what point are you collecting the money off them?

Hev_smev

i went to a wedding in october, where we are all asking to pay for our own dinners at £50 and no one said a word apart from yes!

If 10 more people come to my wedding it'll cost me £1100

I would like people to pay 6 weeks in advance and yes 1 couple has agreed to do it as they understand budget is tight.

Before you ask, no we don't have a wedding gift list as personally i find it rude when people ask for cash to pay off their debts at weddings!

TallulahTaboo_2

My mum and mother in law have asked for their friends to come to our wedding to which I've said no. And if they are set on them coming, then they have to fork out the £120 for each person.
We have been very strict and said if we haven't spoken to them in 6-9 months then we won't be inviting them. It's not us being nasty but when you are paying for dinner for 70+ people! it becomes very expensive.

It's your Wedding, do what makes you happy, not anyone else. X