Baby next door crying non-stop!

balletshoes

lulu_92 wrote: »

Yeah it is a rant, which I have admitted.
I was keen to see how other people would act in a similar situation
and also from the other point of view as well. I think it has achieved what I wanted it to, minus being called selfish and basically being told my future children are doomed :rotfl:

As it has been going on for months and its affecting the peace of your home, in your shoes I would be looking at soundproofing your house - thats a practical solution thats entirely in your control - the baby crying next door is not something you can control.

lulu_92

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Seriously if you wanted to play the martyr why didn't you say so?

Being young and childless doesn't come into it.

What does is the fact that you have a situation which is causing you stress but you don't seem to want to do anything practical to help yourself.

You have concerns about the child -THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

Now that's not necessarily phoning SS but if you think there's the problems why not? Oh yes because everyone is bound to think it was you because everyone doesn't speak english.

The saying - imo means everyone in the community looks out for the young ....of everyone in that community, to make sure the child is safe and well both mentally and physically.

Well someone else mentioned my generation which does bring my age into it and saying about what I may teach my future children, along with how people are saying how i can't understand what it's like to have a child.

Reams

notanewuser wrote: »

I think the OP said she is 22? I was 32 when I had DD, and I knew damn well it was going to take a community to raise DD. You find out who your friends are when you have a baby, OP. You find out because you come to depend on them for support and respite. DD was a perfect baby all in all, but with DH working away and the exhausting nature of small babies I needed people I could talk to and know that it was all totally normal! 4 years later I still do.

However, there's been a media invasion into our minds which means we feel it's better we don't get involved with children, whether we know them or not. Teachers no longer giving out hugs, lost and hurt children left crying in the street because most* adults won't intervene for fear of being branded a pedophile, kids getting away with being rude and cheeky because nobody has the guts to say anything to them or their parents. :(:(

What community? I had my only child at the age of 41 and never looked anywhere to a community. Too much from Oprah Winfrey I fear. "notanewuser".
She was privately educated so what community are you referring to or are you just quoting from the television programmes?


However this has nothing to do with babies screaming through walls enough to drive someone mad.
I keep coming back to the friends round and the baby being ignored.
lulu, can you get your mum or partner's mum round to hear it?

antonia1

Lulu, I am also young (ish) and childless, though I hope to have a child in the next few years. One of my pet hates is sanctimonious parents who claim I have no idea because I don't have my own children - instantly assuming my point is invalid. It just means that can't justify their own opinions so I take them with a pinch of salt!

That said there are many lovely parents around, and they do a very good job.

I think that overall you live in a rubbish situation but there's nothing you can do, besides soundproofing your own home. Living around others is awesome sometimes - just a nice hello brightening up your morning, but it also sucks sometimes - when the neighbours have a screaming baby.

Personally I might offer to take the baby for a walk in a pram for a bit - crying babies irritate me less when I'm looking after them x

lulu_92

Reams wrote: »

However this has nothing to do with babies screaming through walls enough to drive someone mad.
I keep coming back to the friends round and the baby being ignored.
lulu, can you get your mum or partner's mum round to hear it?

Thanks for your concern. My mum hears it every time she comes round and she herself says the way the baby is crying unacceptable. OHs mum, dad and sister have also heard.

seriously if you walk past the house outside you can hear it. And our houses have front gardens so don't immediately open onto the pavement where people walk.

Person_one

lulu_92 wrote: »

Thanks for your concern. My mum hears it every time she comes round and she herself says the way the baby is crying unacceptable. OHs mum, dad and sister have also heard.

seriously if you walk past the house outside you can hear it. And our houses have front gardens so don't immediately open onto the pavement where people walk.

I think you've had an undeservedly hard time on this thread. It's true that there's nothing quite like the sound of a crying baby, it's impossible to ignore, there's a reason why it's so common for critically ill people to hallucinate that there's a baby in the room being ignored.

I don't have any children either, and I don't plan to have any either, so my opinion is generally considered even more worthless than yours if that makes you feel any better! :rotfl:

What can make all the difference is just a very brief, very straightforward acknowledgement that the noise is affecting you. Just a few words, or a mouthed 'sorry' can make it more bearable. The plane analogy is a good one, it's much easier to tolerate a crying baby in the seat behind if the parent is clearly doing their best to soothe the little one and to ameliorate the impact on others.

Good luck in saving for your new house. My only tip would be a white noise generator or constant radio 4.

kelpie35

Well if the noise can be heard from the street, and you are anxious about the baby's welfare, then I would be contacting SS about your fears.

The family don't need to know it was you, it could be a passer by showing concerns about the baby crying.

lulu_92

Person_one wrote: »

I think you've had an undeservedly hard time on this thread. It's true that there's nothing quite like the sound of a crying baby, it's impossible to ignore, there's a reason why it's so common for critically ill people to hallucinate that there's a baby in the room being ignored.

I don't have any children either, and I don't plan to have any either, so my opinion is generally considered even more worthless than yours if that makes you feel any better! :rotfl:

What can make all the difference is just a very brief, very straightforward acknowledgement that the noise is affecting you. Just a few words, or a mouthed 'sorry' can make it more bearable. The plane analogy is a good one, it's much easier to tolerate a crying baby in the seat behind if the parent is clearly doing their best to soothe the little one and to ameliorate the impact on others.

Good luck in saving for your new house. My only tip would be a white noise generator or constant radio 4.

Thanks person_one. I will try when I see them. I get back from work relatively late and they don't venture out much.

Person_one

lulu_92 wrote: »

Thanks person_one. I will try when I see them. I get back from work relatively late and they don't venture out much.

Sorry, mustn't have been clear, I didn't mean to suggest it was your responsibility! A smile and continued attempts to say hello and act neighbourly can't hurt though.

lulu_92

Person_one wrote: »

Sorry, mustn't have been clear, I didn't mean to suggest it was your responsibility! A smile and continued attempts to say hello and act neighbourly can't hurt though.

No I knew what you meant. I have tried to in the past but she doesn't seem too interested. But according to some posts on here that's my fault :rotfl: