Baby next door crying non-stop!

notanewuser

thorsoak wrote: »

You have no idea just how much your comment quoted depresses me. Is this really what your generation believes?

I fear for the future of your future children, and your children's children if that is the principle by which the world revolves.

I think the OP said she is 22? I was 32 when I had DD, and I knew damn well it was going to take a community to raise DD. You find out who your friends are when you have a baby, OP. You find out because you come to depend on them for support and respite. DD was a perfect baby all in all, but with DH working away and the exhausting nature of small babies I needed people I could talk to and know that it was all totally normal! 4 years later I still do.

However, there's been a media invasion into our minds which means we feel it's better we don't get involved with children, whether we know them or not. Teachers no longer giving out hugs, lost and hurt children left crying in the street because most* adults won't intervene for fear of being branded a pedophile, kids getting away with being rude and cheeky because nobody has the guts to say anything to them or their parents. :(:(

Reams

lulu_92 wrote: »

Well then you're met with responses such as "I can't believe you did that."

I haven't rang because 1) I didn't want to cause any problems with my neighbours by getting to social round for something that might be innocent. 2) they would know for a fact it was me as their other neighbours don't speak English. I did hear something once that worried OH and I (heard baby crying, followed by a very loud THUD and then silence) but you have to give them the benefit of the doubt as it was heard once.

Of course they're allowed to raise that baby how they see fit. They know how well sound travels between houses (see my earlier post about them shouting at me through the wall) yet in addition to the baby crying they add to it by shouting at each other as well.

Same hear with the toddler nearby being whacked. Whack and silence, but I've never seen evidence. The mother takes him to fetch the bin and races him home which is lovely. His scream in anticipation of the hit from her isn't. I hear that thud too but not having seen it maybe she's hitting the sofa or something.
I don't want to report a mother to SS, as I'm only going on sounds. Same as lulu.

lulu_92

I do understand the quote, I'm saying that it cannot be a reason to accept my current situation.

notanewuser

lulu_92 wrote: »

Oh here we go because I'm young and childless I don't have a clue.

Whilst I agree that the community can play a vital role in a child's upbringing and it is important to be there for each other, I don't understand why I have to put up with this unbearable situation because of that? I didn't make them have a child, nor did the community, and they don't seem to show any consideration for their community with how they are, putting the baby aside.

I believe that I will teach my children that the community will be there for them but that they need to show consideration

You're misunderstanding the meaning of "community" in this context.

notanewuser

Reams wrote: »

Same hear with the toddler nearby being whacked. Whack and silence, but I've never seen evidence. The mother takes him to fetch the bin and races him home which is lovely. His scream in anticipation of the hit from her isn't. I hear that thud too but not having seen it maybe she's hitting the sofa or something.
I don't want to report a mother to SS, as I'm only going on sounds. Same as lulu.

And if those sounds are what you think they are?

sulphate

lulu_92 wrote: »

Oh here we go because I'm young and childless I don't have a clue.

Whilst I agree that the community can play a vital role in a child's upbringing and it is important to be there for each other, I don't understand why I have to put up with this unbearable situation because of that? I didn't make them have a child, nor did the community, and they don't seem to show any consideration for their community with how they are, putting the baby aside.

I believe that I will teach my children that the community will be there for them but that they need to show consideration

To be honest, I'm struggling to see the point of this thread. It's just a rant, really.

I sympathise with you, I really do but I fail to see what you can do about it without making the situation worse.

You say they are not showing any consideration, but do you think they actually want their baby to cry non stop for hours at a time?

Georgiegirl256

lulu_92 wrote: »

I didn't make them have a child, nor did the community, and they don't seem to show any consideration for their community with how they are, putting the baby aside.

Nobody made them have the child, but they did, it's here and it crys ALOT....and there's very little you can do about it.

Whilst it must be awful to have to contend with, there's no denying that....your attitude is awful, you really need to grow up.

lulu_92

sulphate wrote: »

To be honest, I'm struggling to see the point of this thread. It's just a rant, really.

I sympathise with you, I really do but I fail to see what you can do about it without making the situation worse.

You say they are not showing any consideration, but do you think they actually want their baby to cry non stop for hours at a time?

Yeah it is a rant, which I have admitted. I was keen to see how other people would act in a similar situation and also from the other point of view as well. I think it has achieved what I wanted it to, minus being called selfish and basically being told my future children are doomed :rotfl:

mountainofdebt

lulu_92 wrote: »

Oh here we go because I'm young and childless I don't have a clue.

Whilst I agree that the community can play a vital role in a child's upbringing and it is important to be there for each other, I don't understand why I have to put up with this unbearable situation because of that? I didn't make them have a child, nor did the community, and they don't seem to show any consideration for their community with how they are, putting the baby aside.

I believe that I will teach my children that the community will be there for them but that they need to show consideration

Seriously if you wanted to play the martyr why didn't you say so?

Being young and childless doesn't come into it.

What does is the fact that you have a situation which is causing you stress but you don't seem to want to do anything practical to help yourself.

You have concerns about the child -THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

Now that's not necessarily phoning SS but if you think there's the problems why not? Oh yes because everyone is bound to think it was you because everyone doesn't speak english.

The saying - imo means everyone in the community looks out for the young ....of everyone in that community, to make sure the child is safe and well both mentally and physically.

lulu_92

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Nobody made them have the child, but they did, it's here and it crys ALOT....and there's very little you can do about it.

Whilst it must be awful to have to contend with, there's no denying that....your attitude is awful, you really need to grow up.

Your attitude would be awful too after 6 months of this