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Would you invest in a relationship where yr partner refused to pay for meals outside
Pennyyes
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... a guy who refused to go out to eat dinner or go to the cinema because he didn't want to pay for himself let alone treat you?
*Guy doesn't want to work, and is living off his savings. He wants to stay at home self-teaching (English Lit) most of the day. Will spend money on concerts or plays (£5). He hasn't really changed his clothing style since he was a teenager (baggy jeans and hoody). I don't really care how a person dresses, I just mention it because he is generally quite set in his ways (he's in his early 30s now).
Has said he will "treat" his partner to come and watch the play or concert with him and suggests she do the same for events she wants to go to with him (however she enjoys eating out every week so that would involve her spending money on him more often).
What do you think?
*Guy doesn't want to work, and is living off his savings. He wants to stay at home self-teaching (English Lit) most of the day. Will spend money on concerts or plays (£5). He hasn't really changed his clothing style since he was a teenager (baggy jeans and hoody). I don't really care how a person dresses, I just mention it because he is generally quite set in his ways (he's in his early 30s now).
Has said he will "treat" his partner to come and watch the play or concert with him and suggests she do the same for events she wants to go to with him (however she enjoys eating out every week so that would involve her spending money on him more often).
What do you think?
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If you're happy with that then continue as you are. If not, you either get him to change or you get out.Hope over Fear. #VoteYes0
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I'd love to know where you can go to see a play or concert for £5 - even the local village panto is more than that !
If he's living off his savings then it is up to him where he spends his money. If he was between jobs or paying back debts then he'd also have no free cash so couldn't afford meals out once a week. The same applies to couples with more (but unequal) incomes - if you want to do something that your OH can't afford then either you pay for them or do it on your own.0 -
angeltreats wrote: »This alone would put me off.
Agreed, this would be the dealbreaker for me. What's going to happen with these savings of his run out?
I once went on a date with a guy who didn't work. He said that "I don't have to work, so I don't". I didn't see him again. (He didn't have to work because he got enough benefits, it wasn't that he was rich or living off his own savings.)0 -
Mattygroves2 wrote: »I'd love to know where you can go to see a play or concert for £5 - even the local village panto is more than that !
If he's living off his savings then it is up to him where he spends his money. If he was between jobs or paying back debts then he'd also have no free cash so couldn't afford meals out once a week. The same applies to couples with more (but unequal) incomes - if you want to do something that your OH can't afford then either you pay for them or do it on your own.
The Globe.... I suppose...0 -
The guy just sound like a bum full stop.0
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No, doesn't sound like my kind of relationship. He sounds too rigid to me.:heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.0
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Oh look, ANOTHER 'new poster,' who sought out a money saving website to seek advice about a random relationship issue that they supposedly have.
I am literally not going to bother.(•_•)
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Sounds to me like he wants his partner to only do his hobbies - in which case he is not doing things to keep her happy - so no way.:rotfl:0
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