Would you invest in a relationship where yr partner refused to pay for meals outside

Pennyyes

Anatidaephobia wrote: »

There's your answer then.

He's very nice and loving (he has told me he loves me :eek:)... but our lifestyles clash.

mehak_327

Pennyyes wrote: »

He's very nice and loving (he has told me he loves me :eek:)... but our lifestyles clash.

Does he really though ? Or does he enjoy having someone around ? He doesn't want to do anything that interests you, only things that interest him. Is there really a future here ??

Do you love him ?

Pennyyes

mehak_327 wrote: »

Does he really though ? Or does he enjoy having someone around ? He doesn't want to do anything that interests you, only things that interest him. Is there really a future here ??

Do you love him ?

I care about him very much, but not at the expense of things that give me joy in life. It's so sad to be around someone who doesn't really care about eating nice food and travelling to nice places. I feel restricted to do only what he is okay with unless I pay for him.

ska_lover

No, I'd drop him like a sack of !!!!

Sounds like he is a lazy bum with the personality of a 12 year old

If you stay with him, you will end up resenting him and blaming him for life passing you by and not doing the things you WANT to do in life - cos you have zero in common with this looser

Gigglepig

Without knowing the guy it is hard to say whether he is a financially savvy, non-materialistic person who prefers a low key, low budget lifestyle, or someone who never grew out of his student days. But if this is not the lifestyle you want it sounds like things might be difficult for the two of you.

What does he say about it, is he willing to compromise? Is it all or nothing, or would he agree for example eat out once a month?

Pennyyes

Gigglepig wrote: »

Without knowing the guy it is hard to say whether he is a financially savvy, non-materialistic person who prefers a low key, low budget lifestyle, or someone who never grew out of his student days. But if this is not the lifestyle you want it sounds like things might be difficult for the two of you.

What does he say about it, is he willing to compromise? Is it all or nothing, or would he agree for example eat out once a month?

He says he doesn't like working and only when he has to, will he work again. He won't agree to eat out once a month... that would be fine for me!!! He told me food is overpriced, which is true, but I like sitting out and enjoying nice food. He is just worried about the price. If I paid, he'd be fine. I don't want to pay all the time, I don't feel good about that, it makes me feel very sad and unappreciated.

egoode

Pennyyes wrote: »

He says he doesn't like working and only when he has to, will he work again.

Sorry but this is ridiculous and I would dump someone if they ever said that. How does he know that when he needs to work again he will be fit and able and given he hasn't worked for so long if he ever needs to find a job later in life will find it hard to get a job with no experience. Also what's his plan for when he's too old to work or look after himself given he's spending all his savings now.

Unless he has a massive trust fund (which given he won't spend money I'm guessing his savings are quite modest) then he clearly doesn't think beyond the next couple of years and probably thinks he's still in his 20's and thinks nothing will ever go wrong with his body that means he won't be able to work later on.

bagpussbear

I just don't think this guy is going to make you happy.

In your shoes, I think I'd probably keep in touch as a friend but look for someone else for a partner that would be happy to sit in restaurants etc without complaining about the price

DUTR

Pennyyes wrote: »

Over the internet and we got close quite quickly. I just don't think it works very well in real life.

If on the internet means a dating site, then just keep viewing the catalogue.
No point trying to change him, there should be someone on there more compatible to your needs.

ljonski

If he likes saving Money- then introduce him to MSE and you can then both trawl the voucher off threads for 2 for 1 deals!