Strange undies found!

lotty41

Def not a prank because he doesn't have any friends...sad I know. Thought the same, you wouldn't leave without your knickers on.... unless you wanted them to be found!!

I guess I'll never know the answer, just finding it difficult to let it go.

Confusedandneedhelp

lotty41 wrote: »

I did think he would have checked bed, so yes I thought they could have been left there on purpose.

Another thing that plays on my mind is that he never checks his email at home on the laptop, he always uses his phone. We had a convo about this, he said he would use the lap top if it made me feel better but according to the history on laptop he hasn't checked his emails for 3 weeks, which tells me he is still using his phone, out of the house also, never ever checks when home!!! But then again he gave me his password!

Stop, you're starting to sound paranoid.

I check my emails on my phone, and only on my phone. Im not hiding anything, its convenient.

A: he's possibly insulted that you question him over somethign so minimal
B: he gave you his password, and with that probably lost some respect to you


I think you need to apologise for this and say, please change your password, i should not have asked for it / made a big deal about it.

Men say and do things for a quiet life. Doesnt mean inside hes not abit hurt by your demands

lotty41

Consusedandneedhelp.....I didn't say they were stuffed in the duvet cover. I said I was changing the bed linen when I saw them, so they either came of the duvet cover when I took the duvet out, which means they were tangled in the wash or they were actually in the bed. Thats the problem I dont know for sure.

If I knew that they were def in the duvet cover I wouldnt be so concerned but if they were in the bed then that a diff matter, I guess I'll never know.

lostinrates

tea_lover wrote: »

Absolutely. All of mine matches and I'd have spent ages wondering why I now had a bra that nothing matched.

My bra wires go before the knickers die, by a long way. I lost a bra wire last weekend....and I'm wearing one of the matching knickers for that bra today. Hate it when that mismatch happens, but have it for at least eight deceased bras. Makes one feel unbalanced.

lotty41

Yes you are correct I do have trust issues and am getting a paranoid, but he has given me reason to be.....lied a few times, we got over that and moved on. Also I did as you said confusedandneedhelp, I asked him to change his password, he wouldn't and in fact I have never gone into his email account.

I know what some would say 'put up or shut up' but dont want to throw my relationship away if i dont need to

hieveryone

Am I reading this wrong? There was a pair of knickers tangled up inside the duvet cover/between the duvet?

And you think they might have been there for 6+ months? Has it not been changed in that time?! I change my bedding weekly, there's no chance things are getting tangled in there??

Like another poster said I would also know if they were mines or not. Are they from a shop you would normally buy in? I only buy from one particular shop, therefore if they were from another store I'd know they weren't mines.

Is this a wind up??

Tropez

As far as the email goes, I hardly ever check it on my laptop or desktop PC. It is just a massive convenience to check it on a phone or tablet because I almost always have at least one or the other on me - plus I have to manage multiple email accounts so I can keep them all in the same place.

I wouldn't read too much into him not checking emails on his laptop. It really could be that it's much more convenient to check it on a mobile device.

Confusedandneedhelp

well i still go back to my earlier point.

ive never cheated, but if i did, I sure as hell would make sure there wasnt any evidence lying around!

So either he's telling truth and has no idea what your talking about

or is incredibly stupid

(a point made earlier is also true, just because he gets flustered doesnt mean he's lying. It can be quite shocking to be accused of cheating, and you try to think why am i being accused? how can i prove my innocence? etc etc etc in a very short period of time)

FBaby

How long have you been together? Did you move into his house? Could it be from a previous relationship.

FBaby

Just read this is not a isolated incident so on this basis I would think that yes there is a high chance he was up to no good.