Better half of 2014 - all about me

LondonGirl252

lulabelle wrote: »

so, my doctor was sick so had to go to another one this afternoon.

he has tripled my dose of painkillers and signed me off until monday. i asked him if i could have work delivered home and he said no, I need to rest.

Work are going to go mental. They once said to me unless I'm dead they expect me to work. I don't know whether to have work delivered and try to do it or just rest.

Last year killed me and I got no recognition for it. Other people are off sick (1 has been off for 6 weeks) and don't do any work whilst off but I just feel guilty letting people down.

That said, it's the jobs fault I'm in this state in the first place - I told them in january/february this year I was struggling to cope with the stress and they agreed I could do a different practice area then went back on it so they can't now be surprised I'm suffering.

I also don't want to burn any bridges

Outrageous, if you are signed off they shouldn't be saying that to you, their insurance would be invalid for one thing... you must know the legalities of it but if i were you I'd send them your sick note and tell them you will be in on monday if you are better.


In a few months they will be a distant memory to you, you will gain nothing but prolonged pain for working.


Send them your note, switch off your phone, get into your pjs and wrap yourself up in a duvet with a good box set... thats an order missy!

lulabelle

ha ha, thanks LG.

I've had a text from them asking what is happening on a file as a client is emailing. For god's sake, they'll have to cope when i leave so they should start now.

I was inclined to have some work delivered as was feeling guilty but now I just feel stressed out and am not going to. Other people at my work take the p1ss with how much they are off sick, I always put the job first and that's why I'm now losing my hair, having palpitations and pains. So for once I am putting me first!

Still worrying about money! contents and building insurance needed renewing today and, presuming all I pay out for this week is grocery shop on saturday (won't be going out anywhere as have had to cancel my friday night plans due to being sick) I might just be able to squeeze the insurance (which I paid for today on credit card) into what i had budgeted for spend this month.

i think i am just so worried about not having a job and nothing really seems to be out there - but i do have to have faith. maybe there's nothing out there right now as it's the universe's way of making sure i actually do have a few months off!

the boy is being a total sweetie with me being sick. the other day he bought me some beautiful long stemmed cream roses which look gorgeous on the hall table and i smile every time i pass them. he also hadn't heard from me today as i was asleep so he popped home about half 2 to check i was ok (and raid the cupboards).

i have, however, had to hide from him 2 packets of wotsits and a pack of giant buttons i bought yesterday - feel bad having secret stash but he is such a piggy he always eats everything!!!!

after this week only 5 more working weeks (which are all going to be horridly busy ones) then I'm off for xmas. can't wait. spending it with the boys family this year and will see my family in january instead.

Chrysalis1976

Hi, saw your post on another thread r.e. work and just wanted to pop over. I will have to read your whole diary in a bit to catch up!

I just wanted to comment about them contacting you whilst your off sick, they are being unreasonable and I'm quite sure that if you took their comments about not working unless you're dead to any disciplinary/employment meeting they would soon be in trouble. They are bullying and nasty, they have no right to ask you about work all you need to do is let them know how long you will be off for and why, and keep them up to date with your time off and planned return day. That's it!

They can ask for a return to work interview when you go back but until then you shouldn't be answering any of their queries.

You'll be out of there soon, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with their behaviour in the mean time.

I left a job where I have worked for 10 years because of my Manager, yesterday whilst doing a handover she was still trying to make me look stupid and even had the cheek to ask me to email some documents that can be found on the web! I didn't agree, I just didn't say anything and I'm certainly not going to do it.

Look after yourself, the weeks will fly by.

C x

lulabelle

thanks chrysalis. I am going to try to stick to my guns. Dreading monday but am just going to have to say that I've always ignored the docs advice before and kept on coming down with various different things so have decided to take the advice this time in the hope I will be fit enough to help them properly in the time I have left.

Sadly, I think it's just the culture of law firms - they basically think they own you. But I was "owned" last year and put everything i had into it and got no reward whatsoever despite earning them oodles of cash so now I think I'm better off putting myself and my health first.

lulabelle

didn't spend anything today. Not left the house! (mind you, last time i left the house was tuesday - to walk back from the docs). I had planned on getting a take away tonight but the boy bought me a sausage roll and a donut back from work so just had those.

the boy is out tonight - head wetting - his mate's kid. I am pretty envious as really fancy a cold beer although obviously can't right now.

If I am to stick to what I've budgeted this month i have £44.99 to last until last thing thursday (we get paid friday) so am going shopping with the boy tomorrow in the hope I can limit our shopping spend.

really worried work are not going to pay me for this week - sick pay is a non-contractual discretionary benefit. they've never not paid me before and someone else (who doesn't and never has worked as hard as me) got paid when they were off sick last week and someone who has been off 6 weeks id being paid - but I am a worrier.

Also worrying whether i've done the right thing in quitting - fearful it won't be as easy as I had thought to get another decently paid job. Boy is adamant he doesn't want me to change my decision as he thinks i am stressed out all the time.

having watched a whole series of "suits" whilst i've been off hasn't helped - they all seem to love doing law and it looks really swanky - the reality is somewhat different but i can't help get swept up in the glamour.

arghhhhhhhh - someone just shoot me!!!

Buffythedebtslayer

ok Hon.

Listen up and listen good.

I spent today stressing out of my head over my marking(giving myself a sodding headache). we have to put stickers in the books. I don't have any stickers. I freaked out and e mailed a friend to bring me some. He didn't get all my message and only brought me one set of books and the blessed stickers.

He left and I spent a good forty minutes sitting and rocking and stressing. And then one of the dogs sat on me. And I thought WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING?

I am a grown woman. I am an educated grown woman. It is a job. a !!!!!! irritating job. And I hate about 80% of it.

We both know in six months it won't matter any more.

IT won't matter any more.

It won't matter any more.

IT won't matter any more.


Go and see what the world has to offer, you don't have debts and you will get another job.

How they treat is utterly rubbish, you don't want that life any more. You have made the right decision. Go back and read your diary, if you don't believe me, believe yourself.

Big hugs

Buffy XXX

lulabelle

thanks buffy - think i needed that! or a slap round the face - ha ha!

you're totally right - it is just a job, it is not me and it shouldn't define me.

i am going to forge ahead and make the most of this opportunity

x

lulabelle

ps - same goes for you - try not to stress too much - hard i know but no-one is going to die if they don't have a sticker xx

Buffythedebtslayer

lulabelle wrote: »

ps - same goes for you - try not to stress too much - hard i know but no-one is going to die if they don't have a sticker xx

:beer:

so so true.

We will get through this XX

LondonGirl252

I love Suits too! Which series are you on? I've just finished the second one.


Back to business... I echo exactly what Buffy said... to both of you! Life is for living and to be enjoyed and certainly not to be treated in this way by poor management.


I've had my fair share of bully managers too and I can't tell you how much I appreciate my great boss now. It is so hard to break away and have a new start but it is honestly so worth it and eventually it will work out OK.


Keep your chin up and count down until your notice is over.


How are you feeling now? Has the pain reduced at all?


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