Just found out I'm pregnant; should we postpone our wedding?

lazywife

Pington wrote: »

When would you do dress shopping? Is there a chance I'd be back to normal size 4 months after birth? Should I look at this end of a bump (no bump yet!) or after the birth?!

Probably not what you want to hear, but dress shopping about 2 months after the birth would give you 8 weeks to get an idea of your size and shape.
Depends a bit on your size now, I was a maternity size 16 with a gloriously pert bump and normal (ish) bust. 4 months after birth a saggy tummy size 18 with humungous bust. Any clothes that looked great when I was expecting looked awful.
(Oh dear, not that you will look awful, just that the styles that made me look and feel special were very different)
If however you're a fit size 8, then you may find your shape doesn't change much.

Enjoy, a wedding with a 4 month old will be fab, everyone will want to spoil you and your bouncing new baby.
x

Pington

Everyone here is so nice :-)

My size now is 8-10 on the bottom and 10 on top with E/F cup boobs. Not especially toned or sporty or anything; just averagely wobbly I'd say. Perhaps I should ask my mum how her body changed during/after pregnancy, if that can be used as a guide?

I'm tempted to try one of these £80 dresses from China just to see if it's any good. Worth a punt and if it's no good or doesn't fit for the wedding I won't have lost too much money?!

duchy

If you are healthy and active already odds are with a bit of work you could lose most of the baby fat by four months - but why add that pressure ?
I'd wait and buy the dress a couple of months before the wedding.

Personally I did what the other poster did and organzied my wedding in six weeks. I held out at first because I didn't want anyone thinking I was only marrying my OH because I was pregnant but he really wanted to get married before the baby was born and I'm glad we did as after he was born it was nice that we all shared a name and I certainly wouldn't have wanted the stress of organizing a wedding in the early months of his life.

(My six week in organizing wedding had a full fit down meal for fifty so we didn't scale it down at all-and got some great prices as it was so late.)

lilmissreading

Do it if you are:

1) Going to be on mat leave
2) Have trustworthy battalion of helpers (e.g. my mum is helpful but doesn't like being told what to do so ends up doing what she thinks is helpful!)
3) Are not a control freak (I am and therefore have trouble delegating)

I am 26+5 with my first. My pg has been pretty staightforward but I found the following stages tricky 7-16 weeks and then from about 25 weeks on so far exhausting for various reasons. Get the big decisions sorted as soon as you can.

I agree re the dress - get it post birth. I bought mine off the peg and it nearly fit. Took a dressmaker very little time to adjust it. You might even find a dressmaker now and go see her to talk it through and book yourself in for a couple of fittings now so you know whatever you get there is someone to sort it.

There will be a couple of unknowns e.g. breastfeeding. Hopefully you could express (for convenience) but some babies won't take a bottle. However if you go down the bottle feeding route anyway it'll be fine.

And the tuxedo photo?! Even DH let out a little ah when he saw that! Sure you don't need it but hey you need something to blow up for his 18th

New house, marriage and a baby is a lot to fit in but the lady at work who just went off on mat leave with her first has done all that and started working with us in November 2013 so had a new job in a new career too! It's been tough for her but she's done great from the outside looking in.

Morglin

Pington wrote: »

OH and I have our wedding booked for next year but have just found out I'm pregnant (~6 weeks).

We're aware that a lot can happen in the early stages but all being well, the baby would be born 4 months before the wedding.

We have a week to decide whether to postpone it with a lower financial penalty (~£600).

My OH is concerned that wedding planning and pregnancy/being a new mum might be too much for me and is keen to postpone until a year later; I can see good and bad points of both options. We have lots of offers of help with wedding planning and any required babysitting on the day.

Does anyone have any similar experiences? What would you do? :think:

Having a baby is a perfectly normal thing, and not a major operation!

After 4 months, you should be fine, so why postpone?

Scale back, if necessary - it is all about being married, and not a flashy day.

My view is, if possible, it's best for kids to be born into a relationship, with the ultimate commitment, so I would go ahead with the wedding.

Lin

skintchick

With the dress, by four months there is no reason why you shouldn't be back to a similar size as before BUT many women are not. If you have a lace-up back on the dress that allows for some adjustment, these can be fitted easily in a zip or button-back dress too.

An inbuilt corset is your friend!

boobs will be bigger and your hips and ribs may widen permanently (as my may your feet) so allow for that - I was back in a size 8 7 days after giving birth BUT my hips and back have remained wider five years on which affects how old dresses fit.

If you buy one from China, get a bigger size as it's easy to get a dress taken in but not to let one out.

I'm a seamstress and have seen prom dresses from Dylan Queen that are really lovely. They're not brilliantly made once you get them apart but you only need it to last for one wear and they are very nice dresses. They do wedding dresses too. Worth checking out.

skintchick

http://www.dylanqueen.co.uk/wedding-dresses/

barbiedoll

Gosh, aren't those dresses cheap! I once paid more than that for an outfit to go to a wedding just as a guest.

I'm thinking about treating myself to this one, just to wear to flounce about the house.....

http://www.dylanqueen.co.uk/fancy-a-line-princess-sweetheart-sleeveless-chiffon-ruffles-chapel-train-wedding-dresses.html?catid=36

And it comes in pink!!

I could be a real life Barbie for a while......:rotfl::rotfl:

OP, if you do end up breastfeeding your baby, you may find that you lose weight, I dropped a dress size and my normal clothes were hanging off of me. I agree with the other posters, buy the dress as late as you can.

notanewuser

My friend organised her wedding within 6 weeks. Their baby was 6 months old when they married. Only thing she found hard was finding a dress she could breastfeed in.

Pington

Some of those dresses are just the sort of thing I had in mind! Amazing; thank you!