Just found out I'm pregnant; should we postpone our wedding?

margaretclare

Pington wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies so far!

The wedding was always going to be a small affair of just close friends and family and all parts will be under one roof (including people sleeping) so it's probably as simple as it could be really. Other than it being a three hour drive from where we live now!

I too would like to be married as soon as possible when we have a baby together. My worry is that putting it off once because it's not the perfect time makes no sense when, after the baby is born, there will never be a "perfect time" anyway!

Very true. Get married. Don't put it off.

NoAngel

Go for it! My little one was really easy at 4 months- she slept though the night and would have just had milk and slept through the day. Also all family and friends would have been thrilled to pass her around all day.

Personally I was back to normal weight and size straight after (10 days) giving birth but others took longer, so I wouldn't risk buying a dress that fits now. I agree with above buying in a size bigger and then getting it fitted closer to the date.

venetianlagoon

Why postpone? Life happens, go with the flow. Babies are very portable.

Whattodonow

hi

another perspective: i was in same situation as you. my first trimester i was all for keeping the plans as they were, but as it got to the stage of booking photographer, band etc - ie the things you need to book a year ahead, it all got too stressful for me - planning for first born and a wedding was just too much. Saying that we hadn't paid a deposit so would not miss out financially.

if your day is going to very simple then you could do it. Bear in mind though your feelings might change later on (weddings and babies are two of the most stressful things you can do in life)

plus are you going to be breastfeeding?

becominganobsessivesaver

You could go all out and combine it with a Christening or a naming ceremony, and make the day about the three of you.

Pington

Interesting to hear an alternative perspective, thanks

It will be pretty simple as far as weddings go; it's all under one roof (ceremony, meal, evening do and accommodation) and the photographer and registrar are already booked. We just need to sort out some kind of band and smaller things like flowers etc. We're pretty chilled out about it and don't want it too formal (more like a posh house party) so hopefully it won't be too bad. We're both not keen on limelight so in some ways it'll be nice to have the focus taken away from us a bit!

pollypenny

Perhaps an Empire line dress would give you a bit of extra room.

Tiddlywinks

Pington wrote: »

When would you do dress shopping? Is there a chance I'd be back to normal size 4 months after birth? Should I look at this end of a bump (no bump yet!) or after the birth?!

Foundation garments will be your best friend!

PlymouthMaid

Love the baby in a tux so big yes to wedding when 4 months old. Dress - your boobs may not go back to normal so quickly especially if breastfeeding. Can wedding dresses not be bought 'off the peg' a month before? Serious question as I have never bought one. If not make sure it can be altered.


Congratulations by the way!

Pington

When I started looking at dresses online I soon realised I'm very particular about what type of dress I like. Unfortunately I'm not sure v neck, low back, figure hugging lace then flaring out after bum will really go with post - pregnancy body! Especially if my boobs get lots bigger (they're not small to start with)...

May have to reassess my options or investigate VERY supportive underwear!