Just found out I'm pregnant; should we postpone our wedding?

Spendless

Having had a crawling 5 month old and walking 9 month old, I'd go with having a 4 month old there, when they're not doing much beyond sleeping in a pram and drinking milk rather than one a year older.

Pington

We did consider moving it forward but there are few reasons why we decided against that idea:

1. We'd still incur the same financial penalty for changing the date.
2. OH really wants a summer wedding and they are already booked up for this summer.
3. We need a saturday wedding to accommodate our guests, and the venue is very booked up a long time in advance for saturdays.
4. I feel it would be a bit too much to sort out in the next few months as we are also renovating our entire house.

Obivously the timing of the whole thing isn't ideal; I guess nature had a different plan for us! We wouldn't change our situation now though

Pington

Oh that little baby tux picture is adorable! I hadn't even thought of the fun of picking out a little diddy wedding outfit

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Our son was 4 months old at our wedding in April 2007. The whole of April was a lovely hot sunny day and the outfit (trousers, shirt and v neck jumper) I had bought for him was discarded as the day went on and he spent from lunchtime in a white vest! So i wouldn't go over the top with baby outfits. Like others have said at 4 months he wasn't doing that much still other than sleeping, gurgling and swiping baby toys. He sat in his grandparents arms for the service.

Also even though he took his father's surname when we registered his birth, we had to get the birth certificate re-issued after the marriage. We were told this was important because pre-marriage he wouldn't have been entitled to equal inheritance as his sister who was born in wedlock.

I'd go for it and enjoy the day whatever. The important part is you'll be a family, doesn't matter how you get there.

Congratulations btw!.

egoode

Pington wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies so far!

The wedding was always going to be a small affair of just close friends and family and all parts will be under one roof (including people sleeping) so it's probably as simple as it could be really. Other than it being a three hour drive from where we live now!

I too would like to be married as soon as possible when we have a baby together. My worry is that putting it off once because it's not the perfect time makes no sense when, after the baby is born, there will never be a "perfect time" anyway!

If it's going to be a small wedding I would move it forward. My cousin managed to organise a wedding in 6 weeks (including getting a dress). They were already engaged but hadn't made too many plans when he got offered a transfer with the army and they needed to be married for them to get a house together on the base. It was a beautiful wedding and you wouldn't have thought it had been organised in just 6 weeks.

If you don't want to move it forward then I would go ahead with the original plan and aim to get most of it organised before the baby is born so in the last few weeks leading up to it you aren't rushing around at the last minute with a newborn.

emmaj30

TBH I would just go ahead with what you have planned. Take each day as it comes. So you have a five month old baby in tow.. Whatever happens im sure it will be absolutely gorgeous xx Whatever you decide will be right x

pollypenny

Another vote for sticking with your plans. At 4 months baby will be portable, possibly not teething and you will still be maternity leave perhaps .

Pington

The response seems pretty unanimous in terms of not postponing! Thank you all; the more I think about it, the more i think you're right.

When would you do dress shopping? Is there a chance I'd be back to normal size 4 months after birth? Should I look at this end of a bump (no bump yet!) or after the birth?!

ska_lover

Go for it, it sounds perfect

marywooyeah

Glad to see you're going for it - it makes no sense to chuck away £600 and the baby will probably just sleep for most of the day anyway! In terms of dresses, I'd find a dress you love then buy it a size bigger than your normal size, you can always get it taken in if you go completely back to normal and if not then you have a little wriggle room!

congratulations on your pregnancy and impending wedding! :beer: