Just found out I'm pregnant; should we postpone our wedding?

Pington

OH and I have our wedding booked for next year but have just found out I'm pregnant (~6 weeks).

We're aware that a lot can happen in the early stages but all being well, the baby would be born 4 months before the wedding.

We have a week to decide whether to postpone it with a lower financial penalty (~£600).

My OH is concerned that wedding planning and pregnancy/being a new mum might be too much for me and is keen to postpone until a year later; I can see good and bad points of both options. We have lots of offers of help with wedding planning and any required babysitting on the day.

Does anyone have any similar experiences? What would you do? :think:

Tiddlywinks

Well, I'm 'old school' and believe that children should be born into stable relationships where the parents have committed to each other.... for me that means married.

The danger is you'll put it off and everything else will then get in the way.

Planning during pregnancy will be easier than planning with a newborn.

Why not just scale back the plans and have a simpler service that requires less planning?

January20

I agree with above! Scale down if it's too much and take all offers of babysitting on the day. Also £600 is a lot of money to waste!

hunnie

Hi, I agree that you should go ahead with the wedding.
You will have time on your hands to plan whilst you are pregnant.


You will find it hard to find the time to start all over planning again once your baby is here and might not get round to it for a long time.
Regards, Hunnie

whitewing

Go ahead with the wedding as it is lovely to be married with the baby (if you are going to be married anyway). Everyone will love the chance to see the baby too.

Be careful of your diet during pregnancy.

scubaqueen

I'd go for the plans already made but maybe some adjustments to make it a bit easier.
You seem to have a lot of support and help on offer so that will help a immensely.
It all depends on what you want for the day itself.
Sometimes things don't go as planned but we manage in the end.
I also agree that if you cancel/postpone this time, it may be longer before you get going again.j

Pington

Thanks for all your replies so far!

The wedding was always going to be a small affair of just close friends and family and all parts will be under one roof (including people sleeping) so it's probably as simple as it could be really. Other than it being a three hour drive from where we live now!

I too would like to be married as soon as possible when we have a baby together. My worry is that putting it off once because it's not the perfect time makes no sense when, after the baby is born, there will never be a "perfect time" anyway!

tea_lover

don't postpone... you could have a special guest like this!

globetraveller

Just another option- why not think about moving the wedding forward? Would your venue have available dates and therefore hopefully you wouldn't lose the deposit?

schwam66

Pington wrote: »

OH and I have our wedding booked for next year but have just found out I'm pregnant (~6 weeks).

We're aware that a lot can happen in the early stages but all being well, the baby would be born 4 months before the wedding.

We have a week to decide whether to postpone it with a lower financial penalty (~£600).

My OH is concerned that wedding planning and pregnancy/being a new mum might be too much for me and is keen to postpone until a year later; I can see good and bad points of both options. We have lots of offers of help with wedding planning and any required babysitting on the day.

Does anyone have any similar experiences? What would you do? :think:

i wouldnt postpone....how do you know your sharp shooting hubby wont get you again before the next date???? i would just go with it and stick to the date, kids only become more of a hand full as they grow up so just do it now...at 4 months they will just suck milk and sleep....so not much of a issue there....

all the best and congrats!

clw1

Could you move the wedding forward and have it before baby arrives ?? Or can you move it back so baby is 6-9months and hopefully sleeping better ?

If not then go for it as like the others have said if you leave it longer there will never be a perfect time and so it might not happen.