Is it becoming more common for older women to date younger guys?

QuackQuackOops

kingslayer wrote: »

I am just curious what you guys think about this? to be honest, i haven't noticed a lot of couples with that much of an age difference, but i've read other forums, magazines and keep hearing more about "cougars" and older women dating younger men in the media etc.

Is it more common for younger men to date older women? Also, would a guy in his mid 20's be too much of an age gap for a woman in her early to mid 40's to seriously date?

me personally, i find older women much more my type than younger women. Younger women tend to follow their peers and are very impressionable, immature etc, whereas older women know what they want and their maturity is much more attractive; they also take a lot more care of themselves.

What are your thoughts on this? Love is love, right, no matter the age?

I can't stand to see older women with younger men. I don't mean a year or two, or a couple of months younger but perhaps a 40 year old woman with a 32 year old man.
An older woman with a younger guys doesn't know what she wants, isn't comfortable in their maturity (they will say they are) and takes care of themselves just as much as a younger woman.

It all rather depends on the ages concerned.
If you are 24 with a 40 year old woman, you have to ask yourself what's missing in your life to make you need somenoe that much older.

jaylee3

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

I can't stand to see older women with younger men. I don't mean a year or two, or a couple of months younger but perhaps a 40 year old woman with a 32 year old man.
An older woman with a younger guys doesn't know what she wants, isn't comfortable in their maturity (they will say they are) and takes care of themselves just as much as a younger woman.

It all rather depends on the ages concerned.
If you are 24 with a 40 year old woman, you have to ask yourself what's missing in your life to make you need somenoe that much older.

Whilst I agree in part with your post, I don't think an eight year age gap is too bad (her 40, him 32,) but her 40 and him early 20s, is a bit much imo. I don't see what they would have to talk about or what they would have in common. And I do question what a mature, middle aged woman sees in a bloke not far out of his teens! (Possibly even around the same age as her son!) :eek:

The magazines Chat, Take-a-break and That's life sometimes seem to feature these type of relationships, and so does the Jeremy Kyle show.

When I see a middle aged woman with an early 20-something bloke, it makes me cringe. One woman at work who is 42, has a 25 year old B/F and EVERYone thinks she is his mother (she looks more like 46/47 and he looks 19! So that doesn't help.)

When someone says something like this, (commenting on how they don't think big age gaps are a good idea,) there is always someone who comes along and says "well *I* am 45 and *MY* boyfriend is 18 years younger than me and WE get along fine."

I can't help but notice though, that 9 times out of 10, they are not married. I have never know any woman with a much younger man who is actually married to him.

Cue the middle aged women coming on here now saying they have a husband 20 years younger than them!

Gloomendoom

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

It all rather depends on the ages concerned.

If you are 24 with a 40 year old woman, you have to ask yourself what's missing in your life to make you need somenoe that much older.

Love?.........

Gloomendoom

jaylee3 wrote: »

Whilst I agree in part with your post, I don't think an eight year age gap is too bad (her 40, him 32,) but her 40 and him early 20s, is a bit much imo. I don't see what they would have to talk about or what they would have in common. :eek:

If it works with older man/younger woman relationships why can't it work the other way around?

kingslayer

jaylee3 wrote: »

Whilst I agree in part with your post, I don't think an eight year age gap is too bad (her 40, him 32,) but her 40 and him early 20s, is a bit much imo. I don't see what they would have to talk about or what they would have in common. And I do question what a mature, middle aged woman sees in a bloke not far out of his teens! (Possibly even around the same age as her son!) :eek:

The magazines Chat, Take-a-break and That's life sometimes seem to feature these type of relationships, and so does the Jeremy Kyle show.

When I see a middle aged woman with an early 20-something bloke, it makes me cringe. One woman at work who is 42, has a 25 year old B/F and EVERYone thinks she is his mother (she looks more like 46/47 and he looks 19! So that doesn't help.)

When someone says something like this, (commenting on how they don't think big age gaps are a good idea,) there is always someone who comes along and says "well *I* am 45 and *MY* boyfriend is 18 years younger than me and WE get along fine."

I can't help but notice though, that 9 times out of 10, they are not married. I have never know any woman with a much younger man who is actually married to him.

Cue the middle aged women coming on here now saying they have a husband 20 years younger than them!

I never understand the argument that older women and men in their 20's would have nothing to talk about. I would presume that they would talk about similar things that a woman in her 40's and man in his 40's would talk about.

Give examples of what a an older man can talk about, that a younger guy can't? The only difference is age, I see no reason why an older woman and younger guy can't relate. Older woman these days watch the same t.v. shows, go gym, eat the same food, listen to similar music, go on holidays, go to shows etc, etc.

kingslayer

Just like people like different things in a person, i.e. skin colour, personality, physical appearance, sense of humour etc, there's no reason why an older person can't find a younger person attractive (not just physically, but also mentally) and vice versa.

purpleshoes_2

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

I can't stand to see older women with younger men. I don't mean a year or two, or a couple of months younger but perhaps a 40 year old woman with a 32 year old man.
An older woman with a younger guys doesn't know what she wants, isn't comfortable in their maturity (they will say they are) and takes care of themselves just as much as a younger woman.

It all rather depends on the ages concerned.
If you are 24 with a 40 year old woman, you have to ask yourself what's missing in your life to make you need somenoe that much older.

What difference does it make if its not your relationship? If people are happy its entirely up to them.

Im in my 40s and Ive never dated anyone much younger or older, but if people meet, fall in love and there's a significant age gap no matter whether its the woman who is older or the man, what on earth is the big deal?

Its not my life or my business what other people do.

purpleshoes_2

jaylee3 wrote: »

Whilst I agree in part with your post, I don't think an eight year age gap is too bad (her 40, him 32,) but her 40 and him early 20s, is a bit much imo. I don't see what they would have to talk about or what they would have in common. And I do question what a mature, middle aged woman sees in a bloke not far out of his teens! (Possibly even around the same age as her son!) :eek:

The magazines Chat, Take-a-break and That's life sometimes seem to feature these type of relationships, and so does the Jeremy Kyle show.

When I see a middle aged woman with an early 20-something bloke, it makes me cringe. One woman at work who is 42, has a 25 year old B/F and EVERYone thinks she is his mother (she looks more like 46/47 and he looks 19! So that doesn't help.)

When someone says something like this, (commenting on how they don't think big age gaps are a good idea,) there is always someone who comes along and says "well *I* am 45 and *MY* boyfriend is 18 years younger than me and WE get along fine."

I can't help but notice though, that 9 times out of 10, they are not married. I have never know any woman with a much younger man who is actually married to him.

Cue the middle aged women coming on here now saying they have a husband 20 years younger than them!

Not everyones relationship is worthy of the Jeremy Kyle show no matter the age gap.

If people are happy that is entirely up to them.

I think a lot of people have far too much time on their hands to tattle about other people's relationship and what's right or wrong with it.

Shock horror, woman dates, lives with or marries someone 15 years younger, its not really a par on someone being a serial killer or robbing banks in their spare time is it?

The world will stop turning if people dont all marry in their early 20s with people who are only a couple of years younger or older?:rotfl:

Seems so