Nice People 12: Nice in Nice

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

I want to know

Facebook?

Obv not as nice as being told by the people involved, but a way to find out?

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

Facebook?

Obv not as nice as being told by the people involved, but a way to find out?

They are on face book but private which fir described as a rare sign of wisdom or a more common expression of vanity. ( I think his is private) :rotfl: I don't expect to be told for a minute. (Unless they think I might give money ) but that doesn't been I've stopped caring.

Tbc, I am fully aware I cannot have my cake and eat it, we cut our ties and i believe it was best for us all, me and the children especially. If I don't want sibling in my life tapping and draining me, then if lost other rights too. I'm not feeling sorry for myself. Just.....wondering, wishing really.

Doozergirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

Utterly ridiculously, I can remember:

- Toyah Wilcox, back in her "It's a Mystery" days https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6vwTdQ6i7Q (I did have my hair a bit like that at the time, although more aubergine than ginger)
- Janeane Garofalo in The Truth About Cats and Dogs http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Janeane_Garofalo
- somebody else that I can't remember now .... might have been Kate Bush (in her Wuthering Heights days)

I think people are just blind to be honest

Oh .... and my ex who was really into the Caramel advert rabbit and said I had her eyes.

I loved that film

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Just.....wondering, wishing really.

That sounds perfectly reasonable to me. And I woudn't expect any less of you. It is not your fault that the relationship is as it is. It certainly wouldn't all magically be fabulous if you had coughed up the cash.

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

That sounds perfectly reasonable to me. And I woudn't expect any less of you. It is not your fault that the relationship is as it is. It certainly wouldn't all magically be fabulous if you had coughed up the cash.

Noone's without fault. I without any dispute accept about 7% blame. . But, blame isn't really the issue. The situation was very warped. It was damaging to all of us, and two people were young enough to have no say, so better to reduce the manipulation, I felt at the time.

LydiaJ

fc123 wrote: »

BTW...Which board could I post on to ask about divorce and how it's done nowadays?

Isn't that the sort of thing the CAB is supposed to be able to advise about? Not that they had a clue when I asked them about my situation, but maybe that was just the particular advisor that I saw. I think there are divorce forums where you can get info too.

Nikkster wrote: »

If you're feeling brave you could try the relationships board.... good luck!

Oooh scary. *shudders*

fc123 wrote: »

Which brings me onto our trial next April. NP's will be offered free holiday accommodation for a long weekend on the sole condition that they so us a feedback that is not in NP mode. Brutal honesty required written from a customer perspective who paid full whack.

A blend of types would be good and you don't even have to meet us (as we have to experiment with key access and things) so we can get FB from those with kids/babies/ dogs and so on. Also, the different expectations that different types of people have. Obvs, if it's any area you would never visit anyways, then that may not work as the location/area isn't anything we can change.

Sounds exciting. It's in Margate, isn't it? How big is it - as in how many people does it sleep?

lostinrates

Divorce.



Relationship board often suggests a site called wiki divorce or something?

lostinrates

Thanks pastures, checked, no indication there.

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

Can I just say it's been very nice to see a few of the Nice People out visiting other threads on the board recently.

:beer:

GDB2222

FC if you use usenet, there is a group uk.legal.moderated that you may get help on.

Two points:

With current case law the starting point for a divorce settlement after a long marriage is 50/50. Some assets are not marital assets, and they may not get divided 50/50. Something thee husband owned pre marriage could fall into that category. However, the family home is always a marital asset. So, the husband can't hold onto it. If necessary it will have to be sold and the proceeds divided.

Second point is what The wife is going to do about it? Unless she is capable of standing up for herself, or paying a lawyer to stand up for her, she is going to get shafted by what sounds like a very adamant, if not a bullying, husband.