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neverdespairgirl wrote: »It was pretty much the other way round for me when Isaac was born - I was the first out of all my close friends to have a baby, by some years, and I found a lot of my friends drifted away from me once I had a baby, sort of assuming I'd not be able to talk / giggle etc. It has sometimes left me feeling a bit isolated.
The weird thing for me was when LNE left. Some of the couples who had been our friends carried on being my friends, but all sorts of couples seem to feel that the wife should be friends with me and the husband keep out of it.
neverdespairgirl wrote: »Funnily enough, we did that tonight - OH decided that his Indian would benefit from an accompanying cold beer. We had a bottle of Becks in the fridge that came from somewhere (the label tells me it's 3.2 UK units, 600ml) and OH had 2/3rds, I had 1/3rd, and Isaac had a sip and didn't like it at all.
So alcohol for him is something he doesn't really fancy, not something forbidden and exciting.
That's how it was for me growing up. When I was old enough, I generally pretended to like it in social situations, and tried hard to develop a taste for alcohol, but it never happened, so eventually I came out of the closet about not liking it and stopped drinking altogether. Now I worry slightly about how to teach my kids to drink responsibly. Must have a word with some of my family/friends about offering it to them when we are with other people.Speaking of things nearly on topic. I was reading one of those my house has gone up by a million percent threads couple of weeks ago, so I happened to look at zoopla. Next door (not the ones I share a driveway with) is SSTC (no signs have gone up). Speaking to Mr. LovelyNeighbour this evening, apparently our local councillor is buying it. I've passed him a few times (there is a monthly 'meet your councillor' thingy on a nearby street corner). Was slightly worried I'd end up with wild student parties next door. He doesn't look very wild. I'm now more concerned that I'm going to end up on the front page of the local rag as some feral neighbour from hell :eek:
Does the councillor want it to live in or to let to wild students?Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
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I suspect you were focused on an outcome for which praise had been given (hammer the pegs through the holes). Only then some beggur came along and undid all your good work before you got any praise. Imagine someone doing that. Bar stewards.
I decided to get The Boy to crawl by getting a ball and putting it on the floor a bit away from him. Finally, after umpteen attempts, he finally did it! He got up on his hands and knees and crawled.............backwards. <!!!!!! is wrong with you son smilie>
I remember giving my children crawling lessons, by example.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
Dunno. Didn't think of that!
Inference was to live in, but I'm not sure how credible that intelligence is.
Guess I'll have to wait and see/ hope for more neighbourly gossip 0 -
I decided to get The Boy to crawl by getting a ball and putting it on the floor a bit away from him. Finally, after umpteen attempts, he finally did it! He got up on his hands and knees and crawled.............backwards. <!!!!!! is wrong with you son smilie>
I did that too. Until I got the hang of crawling forwards, what usually happened was: see toy, struggle to crawl but end up going backwards, find toy is getting further away, cry, get given it by somebody!You are not being trivial, he is being thoughtless/inconsiderate.
I know you work together but this task is not a business split of responsibilities/duties/organisation...more like you are acting like his mum.Doozergirl wrote: »Thanks. Slightly reassured.
My job description involves everything that he doesn't want or can't do, regardless of whether I want to do it or can do it. And the kids and the house. I fail at a lot of it.
Wow. The rain is raining. The light changes constantly, it's interesting.
Everything that you and lir say about Doozerboy suggests that he's a nice bloke who likes helping people, which implies that he doesn't get it about how his behaviour is making you feel. If you can even think that your concerns are trivial, then you are probably not expressing your frustration assertively enough for him to realise that he is actually making you unhappy rather than causing a momentary irritation. I have seen this dynamic before - in my own marriage and other people's. It's not good. If untreated, it results in the frustrated person feeling more and more unloved while the inconsiderate person is genuinely unaware that anything is wrong. Sometimes the frustrated person ends up feeling so unloved that they leave the relationship, and then the other person is distraught and wails that they had no idea, and would have changed years ago if only they had known.
Please talk to him. Tell him exactly how you really feel without any toning down to soften the blow. Show him this thread. He's clearly a nice bloke. If you can get it through his skull how unhappy his behaviour is making you, I'm sure he'll be horrified and want to make things different, but it may take more effort to get the information through to him than you have any idea of.
Wish somebody had said all that to LNE 20 years ago. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
I'm sorry that you give such advice from a point of experience Lydia.
Doozer, doesn't sound trivial to me. Can understand why you'd not want to battle with adjudicators again.0 -
The weird thing for me was when LNE left. Some of the couples who had been our friends carried on being my friends, but all sorts of couples seem to feel that the wife should be friends with me and the husband keep out of it.
Not us, DH and I both consider you a friend and your children. You are a FAMILY friend. Not just mine.
NDG, I would have been round your place stealing Isaac for cuddles and chuckling and giggling too.
Instead at least we were giggling here, eh?0 -
Re mac chargers. We need to buy them just cos they get worn quite easily. They aren't terribly robust, especially at the joint nearest the device.
My main charger in the cheese room is at the point I find so etching stinging occasionally and ignore it because I think its a mild version of a neurological pain, then realise after a while, its the cord where its broken touching me.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Not us, DH and I both consider you a friend and your children. You are a FAMILY friend. Not just mine.
I know. It's appreciated. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
That's how it was for me growing up. When I was old enough, I generally pretended to like it in social situations, and tried hard to develop a taste for alcohol, but it never happened, so eventually I came out of the closet about not liking it and stopped drinking altogether. Now I worry slightly about how to teach my kids to drink responsibly. Must have a word with some of my family/friends about offering it to them when we are with other people.
I got ratted a few times when I was younger, but nothing wild. My mum once cleaned up after I had thrown up without a word of reproachement. Her reasoning...I had looked after her when she had partied too hard. That is a Dublin view of parental education about responsible drinking.
Our daughter does not drink. We have offered her wine with meals and Champagne for toasts from when she was about aged 10. She did not like the taste and as she went through her teens had no inclination to be anything but in complete control of her senses. I think being dyspraxic contributes to this.
In hotels or restaurants she will order a Singapore Sling..because it has happy associations of Raffles - she had three trips to Singapore when K was there. I say order, because she rarely drinks it, it just makes her happy to have it and who can resist a drink with umbrellas in?
My preferred cocktails are Mojito and Margherita. I may make some this weekend now I am reminded of them.:):) 0 -
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I wonder if those engenius ones can be found at a normal price anywhere? I wonder if they are better than the others really?0
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