Bed time for teenagers

dianadors

Mine are the same age as yours and go at 10pm. They can stay up later in Friday and Saturday nights. They get themselves up at 7am.

Curious_George_2

if your worried then you could always impose a rule,
they can stay up later but if they cant get themselves up for school then the later bedtime will drop down to 9.30 again,

I could not have resented my mother and her husband more for setting a curfew of 9pm and then i had to be in bed by half past, i hated it... especially in the summer... it was broad daylight and i could hear my friends from my bedroom and i was supposed to be asleep.
at 14 / 15 years old?
obviously this wasnt the only reason for it...but i moved out as soon as i could.

themmackas

My d/s who is 14 also decides his own bedtime, which ususally is between 10-11 i never have any problems with him getting up on a morning and he gets up at 7am. if he wasnt getting up in a morning as easily as he does then i would suggest him going to bed earlier.
My other d/s who is 10 goes to bed at 8.30 and reads for half an hour and then its lights out at 9. Again i dont have any trouble with him getting up on a morning. If i was telling my 14 y/o to go to bed at 9.30 he would probably complain about it.
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snowmaid

A person needs on average 8 hours of sleep a night. If your child goes to bed at 10 and wakes at 7, this gives 9 hours which I think is a good healthy sleep.

I would say between 10-10:30 is fair, but no later than that during the week.

angela6834

Thank you for all the replies.......tbh I think the 9.30 rule came as I dont go to bed very late and wanted them in bed so at least I had a small amount of time to myself once they'd settled. I have to say this hasnt changed in a few years. We dont live in a very nice area and I dont like them playing out late anyway. I think I might extend this to 10pm but think I would be flagging by 10.30!!!

patentgirl

My DD14 (nearly 15) goes to bed between 10 and 11 I let her decide if she is really tired she will go earlier, I think it gives her some independence to choose her own time as you say they cant play out late at night which I agree with, so once she has done her homework, she watches TV, on the phone, goes on PC etc. Some nights when she has dancing lessons in the evening she doesnt have her tea till 7.30 to 8 so she likes to relax for a couple of hours. Hope this helps

Js_Other_Half

We had to leave the living room to go to bed by 10.30 pm when we were 11 onwards - but it was up to us when we turned off the bedroom lights. I soon learned that if I kept reading past 11.30pm then I was dead tired the next day.
We didn't play out much though - and homework took the vast majority of the evening (at 15 I was having 4 hours homework per night)
Generally in our families we were mostly night owls anyway - Mum wouldn't have gone to bed before midnight. I still prefer to go to bed late now.

Errata

I would have been insulted if my parents had insisted I went to bed at 9.30, because when I was 15 I was working, contributing to the household as an adult and I expected to be treated as an adult, not a child.

Februarycat

My son is 14 and its usually 10.30 and he gets up at 7.15. I did say 10 o'clock on a school night but I noticed it got to 10.30 sometimes 11, but he gets up most mornings without me shouting him so cannot complain.

findingmyownway

angela6834 wrote: »

Thank you for all the replies.......tbh I think the 9.30 rule came as I dont go to bed very late and wanted them in bed so at least I had a small amount of time to myself once they'd settled. I have to say this hasnt changed in a few years. We dont live in a very nice area and I dont like them playing out late anyway. I think I might extend this to 10pm but think I would be flagging by 10.30!!!

I think this is a key issue. How about changing the 9.30 ‘bed-time’ to an ‘in your room’ time and say you don’t mind if they read / listen to music for a while but you would like some time to yourself downstairs before your own bedtime